How do I fix my weird shaped arse??

[Bumty]

Lost a lot of weight (6 stone) and now I have a frog butt, I feel so insecure, will exercise actually help? And which ones.

Any fat I have is at the top of my bum then it just goes in. No shape at all.

Is it possible to change this or is it just genetics.

Squats! I now have a semblance of a butt after a year at the gym.

God I honestly wouldn't mind about it imo it looks fine- assuming you don't wesr those leggings often 😃
Squats weights etc aside aren't there butt lift jeans you can get now, don't know if they're any good.

Well done on the weight loss! I'd get a personal trainer , even if it's just for a few months. I did years ago and it gave me the confidence to go to the gym on my own! I know what exercises to do whereas before I had no idea what I was doing. I also get the womens health magazine, there is usually a bunch of exersises in there( some wirh and some without weights/equipment) i find it handy to try new exercises!

I do free weights and pilates.

It will take time but you will get there!

I can't get a PT unfortunately. Need to do it on my own, at home.

Pilates can include loads of glute work, and can certainly build muscle. I am frequently complimented on my great arse, which is all due to pilates - bodyweight plus hand weights. And you should see my pilates teacher's body 😍I agree that heavy weights are best but pilates can absolutely do the job. It's not yoga.

Congratulations on your impressive weight loss. I bet that took some tenacity.
Sounds like you're looking for exercises you can do at home without too much equipment. I have a congenital back problem which means I have to prioritise glute exercises and pilates has fixed me, left me feeling better in my 50s than I did in my 20s. You don't need to go to a pilates class to do these not it would help you a lot if you did - as others have said above, re your core etc. Anyway, look these up :

• Resistance bands for glute building. The fabric bands are more comfortable to use than the rubber ones. Look up "booty bands exercises". I do these while watching TV.
• Standing glutes exercises. Look these up - loads of examples and videos online. I fit in mini workouts eg doing squats or single leg balances while waiting for the kettle to boil.
• As you progress, you can do some of the standing glute exercises while holding one of your son's weights. Look up "standing glute exercises using weights" etc.
• Targeted weights exercises are going to be most effective once you've learned the technique. Would your son help you maybe?

I see lots of bums that shape so I think it's genetic but can probably be improved at the gym
I do think some people think losing weight will give them a magical figure but often it doesn't happen sadly .

Genetics play a big part in what is underneath tbh