What little updates are you adopting to stay current?

[Maising]

I'm trying to make a few changes to keep looking current; I thought it might be helpful for others to add theirs too. I have found it's very easy to suddenly take a look around and find that things have moved on without me noticing 😁, especially as I'm working with ever increasing younger colleagues.

Disclaimer- these are just observations, I am not saying they are all correct or that anyone has to do them.

• wide leg trousers instead of slim/skinny for work
• flat shoes for work
• sports socks instead of trainer socks
• less eyeshadow

People very quickly used to move onto an older style of clothes though. I grew up working class in the 70s and 80s and by the time my Mum was in her late thirties, she wasn't wearing much that was different from my Grandma - sensible mid length skirts, plain blouses and sensible shoes. She never wore trousers. Looking back people looked older, I can't believe some of the photos of relatives who look distinctly middle aged when they were actually still young in today's terms. It's the clothes that make the difference.
There was a huge divide in young fashion and older clothes.
I've asked my Mum about this, and she said you'd very much be judged for trying to be fashionable or appear youthful - "mutton dressed as lamb" etc.

@HelloMyNameIsElderSmurf - is that the short length rather than extra short length? I’m 5 foot 2 and most cropped trousers look awful!

I didn't realise Lenseology has a shop @hoxtonbabe .
Like you, I'm really sensitive to anything being off. I just returned a pair of glasses because even though the prescription was right, something about where the lenses were positioned in the frames meant my vision was off.
I've been put off using Lenseology before because I don't want to buy online without getting pupillary distance measured properly etc. But if they've got a shop, that's a different story...

My problem is online shopping and algorithms. I just get pushed the same thing all the time. It’s a bit like Tesco.

So really I need to go to actual shops and try on different things, but they are so hot and busy and the changing rooms are awful!

I’m on holiday in Europe at the moment and a lot of women my age and in their 50s are wearing great shaped trousers. Barrel shaped cropped I think, in linen

@MorvernBlack yes people did look older, my granny didn’t wear trousers until her late 80s. My mum has never dressed like my gran though & whilst her and her friends dressed differently to my friends and I they still looked good. My mum and dad have always worn jeans for example and yes things are more sensible but still nice. I “borrowed” my mums zebra Birkenstocks last week and she is going to have to fight me to get them back 😆

I quite often get complimented on my outfits by teens in school. Now, it could be in a patronising way (bless, she's trying at her age), but I can't remember ever liking anyway anyone older wore when I was a teen in the 90s. The whole point was to dress as differently to adults as we could.

My own teen lives in nike pro and crop tops and crocs. Definitely not for me!

I just wish Id had my current mindset when I was younger.
So much stuff I was afraid to wear coz I worried about what people would think of me. Now in my 50s I very much dont give a fuck and its a breath of fresh air to my mental health (and my wardrobe!!).😆

Nor will I for that reason and I can go into the optician and get my glasses altered at any point

@henlake7 i’m more confident in what I wear now also (fat and fifties). Admittedly, a style analysis I had done a few years back got me on track and gave me the confidence to embrace me. I’m not saving the dresses for meals out (or best) any more and wearing clothes that suit me in terms of shape, colour and style.

So where did you buy them from?? 😂

@Donsyb New Look 😉

I agree wide leg trousers and jeans are much younger looking than skinnies and straight leg.
Also re glasses-I switched to contacts as I think glasses are quite ageing (sorry don't go crazy with me! Especially when older people get their glasses out to read restaurant menus).

Wide legs are really flattering. I thought I’d hate them after being in a ‘uniform’ of skinnies for years, but I love them. I have to wear them with a something fitted on top though.

I’ve just returned from a very swanky hotel in Switzerland and I’m now back in my skinnies after doing a lot of people watching. There wasn’t a pair of wide leg trousers in sight. People seemed to dress there age in a fantastic way so I’m copying a few of their looks.

I really disagree that wide legged trousers are universally flattering. I don’t mean versus skinny jeans (they never really suited me or many others anyway!). But I see so many women of my age (forties) wearing the uniform of black wide legged trousers and trainers to work now in my commute, and it doesn’t flatter many people.Tailored trousers look so much better on the people I see sticking to them.

Of course, it’s a comfy style and I’m all for women embracing practical dressing. But it really doesn’t look that stylish unless you have a defined waist, and can be extremely unflattering on the arse.

I wear contact lenses, but I can't see close up anymore... so I have cheapy reading glasses for reading menus and cooking instructions!

@TheMoth maybe you need a different prescription. I have one contact lense for distance and one for reading and it works really well.

Yes..it’s in Watford.

I dread getting new glasses and I always have to pray nothing needs tweaking as it’s just such a hassle, lol

I tend to buy big frames now so I think that’s helped when I buy my basic cheapo gym glasses ( like £25 for 2 glasses from glasses direct online) there’s more for them/me to play with with the strongest part of lens in the frame but I have a couple of small non gym round ones and those are the ones that need to be fiddled with more to get right, so I’ve given up on smaller frames as I was fed up of going back and forth to the opticians to get it right. But if I buy more expensive frames I will always go in the shop/or reglaze by going in

@hoxtonbabe I'm nowhere near London. However, we have an absolutely brilliant independent optician in the next village. I was bowled away after having an eye test recently, after having used Boots and Specsavers for years. My glasses didn't cost any more than my old ones from Specsavers either.

I can't wear contact lenses @sunshinechaser. I have very dry eyes and cornea damage.

I need to accept that I am at the varifocal age!

If you don’t want people to go crazy at you, don’t make stupid, ignorant, ageist comments. What do you think “oldies” should do, if they can’t read 8pt pale grey fonts by candlelight? Stay at home so they don’t spoil the youthful aesthetic of the restaurant?

Also re glasses-I switched to contacts as I think glasses are quite ageing (sorry don't go crazy with me! Especially when older people get their glasses out to read restaurant menus).

You can stick your ageist comment where the sun don't shine
I take my glasses off to read small print as I am short sighted. HTH.

😂 I can comment on what I think makes people look old-it's just my opinion. I also think grey hair is really ageing and hate the threads on here when people ask if they should stop dyeing their hair. It's just my opinion 🤷‍♀️

@LoobyDoop2 no I don't think oldies should stay at home. I do think reading glasses make people look old though. Just my opinion. I'm old but I still like to look nice.