I'm a terrible person

[GlitteringUnicorn]

So not for the first time I saw someone today wearing something I also own..
A dress
One of my favourites
Cool, comfortable and classic I thought- a summer staple
But they looked awful in it

I have come home and put it in the charity bag. I can't unsee it! But now feel a terrible judgey person but can't get over it.

Is anyone else also this loathsome?

You’ve misunderstood entirely. I wouldn’t want to be mistaken for 20 years older. Because of society’s opinions of older women, you know, like in this thread 😊

You've completely misunderstood the point being made by posters who object to the casual ageism.

The point , which clearly has sailed way over your head, is that it is possible to be any age and wear clothes which are utterly dull and lacking in any sense of style. It is possible to be any age and wear clothes that are interesting and fabulous and stylish and elicit compliments from random strangers of all ages.

I'm almost 65. There isn't a week goes past without someone complimenting what I'm wearing. And that's women of all ages. Last week, 3 colleagues (all of them under 30) complimented a dress in one day.

I'm in Venice. Last night 3 women, all much younger than me, stopped me in St. Mark's Square to compliment my dress, which they said they'd noticed earlier in the evening.

I don't choose clothes to make me look older or younger, or even worse , "appropriate for my age". I choose fabulous, stylish clothes which get me noticed.

I never see replicas, yet when you're online it says 100 people have this in their basket, it's all lies! 🤣

Nothing bothers me since working in psychiatric hospitals years ago - because people usually came in during crisis, they rarely had anything with them, and instead of donating to charity shops, I used to take tee shirts, joggers and trainers in if they were in good condition and I just wanted a clear out. Once you have watched someone dressed head to toe in your clothes being restrained and put in the seclusion room, no other experience of seeing my outfits on others bothers me.

I haven't misunderstood at all. I'm grand with anyone wearing anything at whatever age. I'm a late 40s emo fgs.

I just think this latest fad of pearl clutching in horror when anyone suggests that wanting to look older is less than desirable, is funny and fake.

It's not the clothes I'm laughing at, it's the halo polishing.

The fact you can write this.
I just think this latest fad of pearl clutching in horror when anyone suggests that wanting to look older is less than desirable, is funny and fake

shows you have completely missed the point.

Absolutely no one on who has objected to the unthinking ageism has said that; although to be honest, the sentence I've quoted is so garbled I'm not even sure what you're trying to say.

I don't know if it's better or worse, but recently I bought my first bikini in years after losing a bit of weight. I got lots of compliments on it. Then in quite a small resort hotel there was another lady wearing one, in a much bigger size, and it did not look good. I mainly felt smug.

charming. Some things you’re better to keep to yourself; hope the weight stays off.

I thought all older women had to wear black smocks and shuffle in the shadows, looking at the ground.

Jeezo. I realise that I'm now older as I'm 46, and I'm also wee and fat. I look shit in most clothing, but I dress to suit my figure. My mum is 77 and I've just bought her a top I own because it will look great on her.

Ok @IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle you win, I lose, enjoy your shiny halo 🤷🏻‍♀️

Wtaf I would wear it with pride knowing I actually look good in this as may the other person if they saw you in yours don’t be so judgemental

You're not 'loathsome' OP. Insecure and petty, yes, as are a lot of others on this thread.

The op didn't even mention the ladies age. I can't believe the ageism on this thread. If you're lucky you may all get past 40 one day! Can you only wear fashionable dresses if you're slim too?

No, it's fine to say it on here, people have uncharitable thoughts, we are all human - we judge ,we are flawed lets not pretend we aren't. We can all try and be better but this oh I never judge I never this I never that doesn't help.

You sound fabulous and I want to know what dress it was!

??? I don’t get all this wee badge, handed a balloon, pearl clutching and shiny halo stuff. We’re just pointing out how internalised the old woman trope and associated misogyny is. The reality of aging is hard enough without the negative stereotypes stacked on top for women. Yes, we’re shouting into the void, but at least we’re trying.

But did you think it looked good on you? Different colours, styles etc suit different people. If you liked how it looked, that's all that matters.

This hasn't happened to me in a long time but in my 20s when I saw someone looking awful in a dress I had, I congratulated myself on looking good in it - I had high self esteem then! I also remember being at a local nightclub and another girl having the same dress as me. After a while she either disappeared or had gone home to change and was now wearing something different.

Quite a few years ago I bought a top that I later saw on several different women. It's not the fashion now but I still have it as every time I try it on to consider recycling it, I realise it's really nice. Guess lots of other people thought so too.

I agree, it's absolutely ridiculous to stop wearing something just because it doesn't look great on someone else. Some people have more money than sense it seems.

I wonder which one of you is happier? The random lady minding her own business or you who had chucked a dress because someone else wore it?

What happens when your dc do the same? ‘Mummy, Alice had the same skirt as me so I’m putting it in the bin’. Bonkers.

Thank you. I've posted a lot about this brand - it was this dress. It gets a lot of compliments.

Klements dress

Heh. What’s the plan here - never get old? Good luck with that one

I think it’s a bit odd if the woman was a completely different size to you.
I don’t judge other women but I would imagine they judge me. This is why I try not to go anywhere and avoid social occasions.

Am actually well into my 50s so you know, quite old myself. Didn't say it was right. I know how it is and yes, I judge myself.

I’m 57 keep myself looking fit I’m trendy and attractive I don’t feel old and a don’t look old IMO …by the way I don’t like that dress at all it wouldn’t matter who was wearing it