Any Hairdressers around? At my wit's end!

[ChippyTea16]

Hello, sorry for the dramatic title (and long post) but I've had yet another haircut where I feel like I've ended up with the opposite of what I asked for. I have long, thick, wavy hair (but not nice wavy, it goes matted and fluffy so I usually just let it dry, quickly straighten it and put it in a ponytail which lasts a few days).

I get my hair cut at most twice a year (and know I should go more often but due to not really doing anything with it I just don't bother really).

I recently had it cut as it was super long and I literally couldn't do anything with it; ponytail was getting very heavy and uncomfortable and I cannot wear it down as the weight of it makes it flat against my head and the ends just tangle.

So, as always, I asked for it to be thinned out and for it to be 'going down into a point' - hopefully the attached pic shows what I mean. I have definitely had this kind of hair cut before so I know it is possible on me. I stressed to the hairdresser and begged her not to cut it straight across as it makes it look even thicker, I find it hard to comb through and I hate how it looks (makes my hair look triangle shaped). She said she understood but said she'd cut it wet and it would look blunt initially then she'd dry it and chop into it to take the weight out.

This is what she did but at the end when she asked if it was ok I was like 'no? it's still really thick and blunt' so she kept going. Eventually I could see it wasn't going to go the way I wanted so I left it. It doesn't look awful but I feel like as it was cut straight across, I feel like you can't cut the 'point' into it at that stage?

So my question is, what do I need to ask for at my next appointment to stop a hairdresser giving me a blunt cut please? (even though I asked her not to do that, it still didn't work!). Can you even request a hairdresser to cut in a different way?? I almost want to cut 'triangles' in it myself to take the weight out of the ends...

Attached pics are:

1. the shape I want
2. my previous haircut that I wanted again (the hairdresser who did this for me moved away)
3. my hair before my latest haircut which looks the same as it does now (was layered 2 months before this pic was taken but the shorter layers grew out quicker so eventually ended up the same length with thick, straight across ends)

(I know it's just hair, it's not important in the grand scheme of things but I hate how high maintenance my hair is and having a bad cut just makes it worse!). Can anyone help/relate? 🙏

You could follow brad mondo, he is a hairdresser on YouTube, he does a ponytail haircut, with putting the ponytail at the back, it gives less short layers round the face and more in the back.

I used to have this problem but have found a really good recently graduated hairdresser who barley charge anything. We agree on the length of hair to be taken off and she can always take more off if needed. Then I say minimal barely noticeable long layers that blends in with the rest of the hair. Minimal framing at the front. She does a perfect job, just what I ask for

I know this is an old thread, but I found the post while looking for advice on how to have my thick hair ( that feels very bulky) cut. I also have 'Rachael' feathers that I desperately want to move away from

Look up convex and concave layers. I suspect one of them is what you are looking for.