Too much for a funeral ??

[Thekormachameleon]

I am heartbreakingly having to shop for outfit for my nans funeral

I have a lovely black dress which I'll wear with tights and appropriate footwear but wondered if this hat would be too much ?

If it helps, I am known for being a 'bit extra' and so is my wonderful nan , she always approved of a bit of glamour for any occasion

My deepest condolences for the loss of your lovely nan, you speak very touchingly of her.
Wear the hat it is perfect, elegant, dramatic and appropriate.
Where is it from please?

I’m sorry for your loss, she sounds fab so the hat is perfect.

@Mirabai where is the second hat from?

EBay 🤓

First is from Amazon and the second is eBay.

Sorry for your loss. My instructions for my funeral is to wear black and look fabulous Your hat looks perfect.

Wear it - definitely - it will be to honour your Nan - do what you and she would have loved. Sorry got your loss and for the rude posters .

Catholic here.
A lot of people don’t even wear black or dress up.
The main family are usually smart and wear dark colours esp black.
Tight revealing gear can be frowned on ( I know I know! Everyone should be able to wear what they want but I’m just saying it how it is )
I have never seen anyone wear a hat,

Wear black and look fabulous - that's exactly what my lovely nanna would say 😊

Without knowing the context I’d have said OTT, but given the circumstances and that you know your nan’s personality so well, I say wear it. I’m sorry for your loss

Oh it sounds perfect for her day. For my wonderful Nan's funeral I wore a green dress, which was equally perfect for her.
Wear it and look fabulous for her. Remember waterproof mascara.

The hat is amazing . Wear it and cherish all your lovely memories . My gran was eccentric and wacky. I wore a skeletor tea dress and hair in space buns for her funeral ( I'm 50 ) she would have loved it . Honour your precious gran in the best way you know how and sorry for your loss

Nasty 🙄

Go for it. Your Nan would love it

Ps. I've seen a similar hat worn to a funeral.

I think it's lovely. But very OTT.
I am catholic and have never seen a hat worn for a funeral

Wear whatever you want that your nan would have liked. The last funeral I went to we all wore onesies, because our dear friend loved onesies and had a collection of them.

Same! Full mourning, high drama, hats for both sexes very much encouraged. If anyone wants to wear leopard print and/or my family tartan that is even better.

You'll regret it if you don't wear it, it sounds like she would be telling you to wear it if you asked her?

Any church attendance requires a hat in some circles!

Please wear it.

When my Nana died I wore black platform heels as she was known for her killer heels back in the day and so many people commented that it reminded them of her.
At my Mum's funeral I wore a black dress with bright yellow shoes as it was spring and she loved a bit of colour.

Both of the those pairs of shoes always make me smile and funerals are for the living

It's beautiful - very classy. Definitely wear it.

I was wearing a camel cashmere coat that I'd bought in a vintage shop whilst out to dinner with my dad. He wasn't a clothing person and never really noticed what people wore however, when he saw me in this coat, he said how fabulous it was and how good I looked in it and that I should always wear it. A few years later he died and when thinking of what to wear to his funeral I saw my coat hanging in the wardrobe. I spoke to my husband and mum to see if they thought me wearing it was inappropriate but both and especially my mother said " no dad loved you in that coat, I think he'd like it" .
So I wore the coat with a black shift dress and black jacket underneath. My mum smiled when she saw it but omg, my aunt ( mum's sister ) did not stop moaning about it. She complained when I got out of the funeral car, when I went into the church and out again and then at the wake. It was disrespectful, it was inappropriate, it was not seemly etc etc. As my mum, husband and son all thought it was something that my dad would have approved of , I was able to ignore it but when I did have a bit of a wobble my husband reminded me that my dad thought my aunt was batshit crazy and that wherever he was he would have smiled that I was wearing it and shaken his head at how she was behaving.

I'd much much rather someone wear a veiled hat to a funeral than a black puffa and jeans. Somehow society seems more forgiving of those who like to dress down. I don't know why that is.

It's mafia wife in the very best way - absolutely love it! I think you'll look gorgeous and your nan would absolutely love that you went to the effort.
I'm so sorry for your loss, I am dreading the day I say goodbye to my Nan. Sending so much love to you ❤️

Sorry for your loss. I absolutely think wear it!

I was so upset when my Gran died, I didn't really consider what I wore. Just rewore my Xmas day outfit which was a leather skirt and satin top and added the gold shoes she'd bought me for Christmas. In my heart I knew it was more of a nighttime outfit but I didn't care at the time. I was too upset and not arsed with clothes. The amount of people who approached me to comment on my outfit, how Gran it was and how when I got up on the alter they saw the shoes and thought I must be so like her. It was lovely. I was taken aback by how kind people were to say it. I'm so glad I picked that outfit.