Beautiful women ageing

[PoinsettiaLives]

I watched Saltburn last night and was struck by how Rosamund Pike’s looks have changed over the years. She looks fantastic and she has done it without trying to look artificially younger than she is- she definitely looks like a 45yo woman rather than a 45yo woman trying to look like a weird 30yo. An utterly beautiful woman fully growing into herself.

What’s the secret of this? (Other than being born beautiful?)

Hope so - my mum still turned heads at 70! Lucky her...

I think she looks as striking as she always did. Can’t see “old” in her face. She’s stunning.

Epitome of a very beautiful woman.

Ooo I have cheekbones and I think I possibly have this

<preens>

Me too! My Mum has aged incredibly well, she's late 70s and when she had her last Covid jab the nurse questioned if she should be there because she didn't look old enough.

Alison King (Carla Conner in Coronation Street) has the most beautiful bone structure.

I'd say that outside of money and bones, maintaining a steady and healthy weight helps keep the structure of the face even if it's a bit under or over what you'd ideally love. Not really about looking younger as such.

Being born beautiful, having great bone structure. Same with weight -some people are just always beautiful.

I agree. She also has the striking combination of pale skin with very dark hair - an underrated combination in modern culture !

I'm a massive fatty by MN standards (size 18) and definitely look younger than my 40-something years. I have really good skin, no grey hair, nice straight white teeth and good genes.

NC for this. Sorry, a bit long, but wanted to say enough.

Oh, 57 excellent replies but I have been left hugely disappointed.

One thing and one thing only: State of mind. aka no stress.

I feel qualified to comment and make such a bold statement as I have a mum who has been youthful all my life- she is now nearly 90 but we sometimes have to tell new service people to ignore her (she may take a while to respond to them etc) because she is 'a very old woman'- they fail to see it otherwise! So, we have had a lot of questions since I was in my teens what her secret is, so I paid attention to her. I also admired her as a person.

My mother is happy, kind, wise and does not let anything get to her- nothing!. SO mum is never ever stressed out. Ever. She lost her husband in her early 50s, left to raise 5 kids on her own etc etc, but it is like nothing daunts her. When a grandkid behaved appallingly, she confided in a neighbour, relative whose only remark/ Q was: 'But you have not show any signs of having been through it all with this kid who is close to your heart, for 5 years on now.'

Of course, she and I, are blessed with a good body frame (never examined the face structure for this purpose), eat healthily, are not poor, so all that helps. However, to my mind, the state of mind, no stress and not taking everything to heart.

My eldest sister has extra weight, eats everything, is very pretty, but has, what I would call a challenging career- self-employed- so waking up 4:30am daily. However, she too inherited mum's state of mind. and her fav expression is 'no stress'. She is therefore not aging badly at all.

When we were preparing mum's 60th birthday, many people were shocked as they expected it to be her 40th birthday.

I had a very demanding career but did well and retired early. Even during my most demanding years, I always went to the gym, so was always slim. Fast forward now to being married later in life, work is optional so have all the time in the world; but my husband can sometimes be stressed out with his business: he struggles with II (he has an It person). Any time, I don't let him deal with his frustrations in a measured way, I see, I am getting a bit stressed. And I hate that, as not even my demanding career stressed me out- ok, I enjoyed it and was very good at it.

I would tell him stress would age me and I need proportionality. He just related to frustration- even wifi going down on a lazy Saturday (nothing being impacted) is treated like an end of teh world- in a way you think he was very over indulged as a child. Frustrations are part of life. For example, when I worked and my presence was always crucial- if my 2 consecutive trains got cancelled- annoying, but I just breathe in and breathe out and make a call to whoever needs to know length of my delay is unknown, but will let them know as soon as I get on a train. What's teh point of tearing your hair out etc etc- not that a train will reappear. That kind of thing.

Husband has changed a lot in handling 'daily frustrations' but many people just can't let things be. What you can change- change. What you cannot, ask for wisdom.

IHTH

Of course, class- mum is very classy, so I inherited that. Both parents always had class. Wisdom as some of before me pointed out.

I was just surprised stress was not emphasised. I know rich, slim women aging before their own eyes: spend too much time in sun and very stressful lives.

I work in an industry with lots of beautiful women 50s, 60s and 70s, they look after themselves inside out. Low alcohol, water, healthy, in great shape. They are very inspiring.

££, Victoria Beckham, will look pretty much as she does now at 70, ditto Liz Hurley. Both very attractive women to start but in VB’s case artful tweaks have given her a sophisticated, high class sheen. Coleen Rooney, if she was an average lass in Liverpool she’d likely have a very different ageing pathway.

Joanna Lumley, however, would be striking whatever circumstances.

Agree , she's not actually that old. I read an article by one these actresses who had been a great beauty (could have been Stephanie Beecham or Diana Rigg) and she said her looks lasted until her late 40s.

Also agree re Jodie Foster in Nyad - i was very envious of her figure and how fit she looked - don't think I could get a figure like that now however much I dieted or worked out, and am younger than she is. The other thing I liked about that film was the way they let Jodie and Annette look properly scruffy when they're out on the boat or swimming.

Awaiting the arrival of a certain poster...

Staying out of the sun/ wearing SPF is a big one
Eating healthy and keeping exercising, lots of water
Not smoking and drinking
And honestly a big one is happiness and having things you're looking forward to keeps your energy young, no matter how old your body is/ looks.

Also agree with previous poster about stress. Stress and trauma ages people like nothing else.

I agree

A stress free atitude is the biggest secret

I also bet that your mother was well loved by her husband before he died and probably had no anxiety about the relationship and such, she was probably very secure and confident in his commitment - this indicates that she had emotional available parents who did a great job bringing her up.

Is that right?

Genetics, staying out of the sun and good fats. I'm 59 and I genuinely do look younger, and I smoked for years! 😂

@TurquoiseTurtoise You are soooooo SPOT on, on both counts!

Even now, when she does the 'usual' old-age blurting out things out of the blue, She would make this statement: 'I had a wonderful marriage'. She also gives thanks to having been blessed with her 5 kids and to raising them.

In fact, after dad died, there were a few men (could be chancers even) wanting to replace dad, but even as a teenager, I could see, my mother knew, she was not going to have a wonderful man like dad and would just sacrifice our life- so she dedicated herself to raising the kids.

I am the baby of the family and my dad's apple of his eye (even cousins who never visited much knew of this fact: that dad loved his little one)- BUT, even I knew, mum was special. In front of dad, mum could do no wrong: Say she asks me to put rollers in her hair, then also deciding to give household instructions to others and therefore moving her head a lot which leads me to pulling the hair by accident as can't workout which way the head would move next. My dad sitting nearby would say to me: 'Darling, be gentle with your mum'.

In my baby 'head' - I think a lot- I would be like 'But mum is the one moving, so she is the one who needs to stop, no?.' So, I slowly learnt the respect dad had for mum and we all followed his example. My brother now treats mum exactly how dad treated her- which is heart warming. Brother was older so has even clearest memories of dad. I was 12 when he died but many people are shocked by how many clear memories I have of him at such a young age- he taught me respect (for myself and others), that money is not everything (well he had plenty but still got unwell and died), principles, kindness, values, respecting everyone (treated the rich and the poor the same), confidence and that what boys can do, I too can do- so we never had gender roles in my family.

Having seen my parents' happy and harmonious example also taught me early on, that good marriages exist.

Dad was from that 'era' of women cooking etc. However, when mum was away, I have never gone to school on an empty stomach- I would see my dad cooking my breakfast- which to me was normal.

Another example: Dad always had mum's back. When they decided to travel for a bit and went to a country where people spoke a language mum didn't speak well, he decided to tell people she spoke another foreign language- just to make her feel comfortable and enjoy her vacation. Of, course people from that country didn't speak that 'foreign language' mum apparently spoke, so my dad carried the convo without making mum feel out of place.

Another example: Mum was always the softer touch. So when each year, my cousins and I (parents raised 10 kids (us and cousins)) presented mum a huge bill of lost books to be paid for before the results could be released, dad gave us all a simple rule that those requests should now be made to him alone- of course NONE lost anymore book -) Dad did not want to see his wife being abused by our carelessness and by the people she is raising. Top husband and Best Dad😍

https://celebmafia.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/kristin-scott-thomas-2018-british-academy-film-awards-6.jpg
I think Kristin Scott Thomas is an example of someone with great bone structure. Fantastic cheek bones, strong jaw line, and good skin. She'll continue to age well into her 60s and 70s.

My nan used to go on about the importance of bone structure. At 40 I finally understand what she means

Ive been told I have cheekbones you could slice cheese on so hopefully this is good for me then!

She is 63 now and looks amazing

So beautiful
Thank you for sharing
Imagine the world if every family was like this ❤️