Eternity ring disappointment

[Daisychaingirls]

DH and I have a big wedding anniversary this year and I wanted an eternity ring to mark the occasion. Our budget was around £1000.

I saw a ring I was interested in that I thought was just under £900 and one (different shop) that was just over £900. First ring platinum 12 diamonds, second white gold seven, slightly bigger, diamonds. First ring fit perfectly second would need sizing up.

Decided to go for original ring as was swayed by it being platinum and it fitting. Realised when I went to buy that I had been looking at wrong price (my mistake) and ring was actually £1400. Had spent all afternoon trying to choose and in a rush of madness, bought the ring. Completely out of character for me.

It’s a lovely ring but I just feel disappointed that (a) I bought something so expensive. I can justify spending more but would have to really love the ring (b) I think I prefer the second ring.

I would lose a lot to trade ring in. I could buy second ring and sell original but would have to put another £200 towards it.

I appreciate that I am lucky to be able to have this ring but we have saved for a long time and I have never had expensive jewellery before.

Not sure what I am asking just any thoughts appreciated.

Sorry so long!

The ring is to be worn on my right hand. My wedding and engagement rings are yellow gold and I really wanted a silver colour.

Can I ask about full eternity rings; isn’t there a risk of damage to the back of the ring?

As it's a small family chain, ring them first thing tomorrow morning and see what they say. If you don't, your'll regret it. If they say no, that'll drive what you do next. It looks lovely btw. Any ring (I have 3 platinum made by the same jeweller, eternity, wedding, engagement) takes time to adjust / accept.

I think the shop will definitely allow you to swap as so many fiances buy rings and you hear of them being wrong size etc and I've never heard of anyone having an issue with changing 😊 ps it's a beautiful ring but if you don't love it it would be worth spending a few hundred extra because it's something you'll have forever and maybe pass to your dcs 😍

If you ask the jewellers about potential damage to a full eternity , they'll be able to advice you . The main issue with the full band is if the stones rub on the adjacent fingers -less of a problem with a smooth setting .

I don't know about you but any ring I wear swivels round so the back doesn't stay at the back ! And I ttwizzle them round ,

I've got a couple of very fine , full stone set rings (not diamond) and there's no damage but I don't wear them all the time .

OP I have a full eternity ring - been wearing it for 20 years with no damage

It's really lovely Op. I think you've made a good choice.

I have your near identical ring, OP. So of course I think it’s beautiful. It actually cost a little more than yours over 5 years ago, if that makes you feel any better. I’m not into the claw setting, I’ve felt it collects soap etc too much.

I wear a full stone ring and people say " oh doesn't it hurt?" Maybe but I love a diamond hurt.😊

Mine is claw set and doesn't feel uncomfortable. I think if it's not too chunky, it's possible to wear a full eternity without it hurting.

The first show doesn't compliment the ring. The 2nd photo you posted shows the ring st its best. Its gorgeous.

Very similar to my eternity ring though mine is 18ct yellow gold .

I haven't rtft but I wanted to say I love your ring. I got a very similar one this year - the barrel setting is lovely, and I went for a half eternity as I hardly take my rings off for anything and felt a full eternity was pointless!

It's a beautiful ring

Sorry if this is jumping on another post, if it is I’ve failed to workout how to start my own!

please help! and please be kind. I’m feeling fragile and I know this is pathetic and feels awfully materialistic but I can’t stop thinking about it. Likely because usually I’m not materialistic at all, don’t spend money on myself and this kind of purchase isn’t going to happen many times!

DH bought me an eternity ring and I can’t stop thinking about whether it looks right with my slim e ring and wedding ring. What do you think?
I really wanted it to take up more space on my finger and make my ring finger sparkle from a distance. In fact in an ideal world I really wanted a halo ring but hubby wanted eternity so went with that. (My long fingers mean my set never really stood out or took up enough space). This ring certainly does but the Diamonds are bigger and set higher and go further round the ring than I expected. Part of me thinks how can I be complaining about this?! This is what led me to this point though. No one I know has a finger that looks like this - it’s more big stone then slim bands. It was way more expensive than any others we saw too which is adding to my feelings of guilt and regret. long story short I wasn’t sure about it, he and shop lady persuaded me into it and lady told me to feel lucky.

I’ve been wearing it a month now and it’s still slightly too large for my finger (already sized down once when collected it) and I have asked if they could potentially shave some metal off the inside to make it stand a bit less proud? Would also have to size it down again. Going back tomorrow (alone) for them to see if possible. When I liked how it fit, it was when lady in shop put tissue inside the back of ring and pulled down so I’m aiming to make it fit like that I guess.

what do you think? Is it all in my mind? Does it in fact look ok? Or will ppl be looking at my finger thinking it looks weird? I know I shouldn’t care what others think but sadly I do.

My mental health hasn’t been great lately and I’ve always struggled with large purchases and big decisions being rushed, I like to take ages and reach perfection and be sure which I didn’t get chance to do. This stems from my childhood and I am going to seek counselling.

it’s also likely I will get another ring if we have another child. Maybe 5 or so years from now. Do I eventually move this to my right hand and then choose another for my left that pairs with my others better? In which case do I leave it as it is as not sure how many times can be altered? My right hand ring finger is larger unfortunately. do I get it sized up and wear on right finger now? But I really want to wear 3 rings on my wedding finger.

or do I get this altered so it fits as well as poss with my current set? Maybe it’ll look perfect then and I can stop worrying? When lady in shop pulled it down with tissue I liked how it looked but it’s never fit like that. I was thinking hopefully it will if they are able to shave off some inside metal and make smaller? Trouble is as well due to tiny fingers diamonds go round really far as it’s a 3/4 rather than 1/2. Making it smaller will mean they’ll probably go further round the back.

I’ll ask all this tomorrow, they may say not poss to shave metal but what would you do? Thanks for kindness in advance x

@XGeorgieX it would be much better to start your own thread. You'll probably get more responses.

In any case I do think it looks a bit weird. Your wedding and engagement rings work well together. This one looks out of keeping. Why not wear it on your right hand now. Why wait until you have another ring.

I’ve just worked out how to do that. I’m gutted to hear this 😞

OP your ring is beautiful - I would keep it!

@XGeorgieX I agree that the eternity ring looks too big to be worn with the wedding/engagement ring. But I think it's a beautiful ring and would gorgeous on its own on your other hand! You do have pretty hands, so I wouldn't be worrying about that.

As an aside, you don't have your feel grateful for something if it's not what you wanted and were pushed into having - even if that something is a diamond ring! It might be worth giving some thought as to why your husband (and sales assistant) opinion overrides yours on something you are wearing every day.

You can always ask for a pendant for another child! I’d keep the ring and move it to right hand. It’s not full eternity so it’s easily made a bit bigger. They just heat up
the Metal so it’s stretched a bit bigger .

I thought I would come back to update. I have fallen in love with my ring!
I visited quite a few jewellers and tried on lots of other rings and came to the conclusion that I prefer my own. I think I just needed to be sure that there wasn’t something out there that I might prefer. I wanted something that I could wear everyday and I have been doing just that.
Thank you all for taking the time to comment.

@XGeorgieX what did you decide about your ring?

Lovely to hear OP😊 Thanks for the update!