To think I'm ugly and plain looking?

[feelawfu]

I've been single around 8 years. Recently met someone but sabotaging so much as I genuinely feel so so ugly and plain. From my hair to my face. I am worrying about positing this as a lot of the time people are accused of trying to gain compliments etc. I swear to got I'm not trying to do that. I have struggled with self image since I've been a young teen and would love WOMENS real opinions. I don't trust men with this as they will compliment away and then break my heart.

Also, in terms of relationships - there’s someone for everyone. Mega hotties end up with fellow hotties, conventionally unattractive people still find meaningful relationships and true love, and then everyone inbetween, too. Could you be going after the wrong sort of men? What about switching it up, and finding a nice, kind man who isn’t looks-orientated?

Okay then. Each to his own, it was just an opinion.

I guess we live in a world that's so fake...well done for being a real one ❤️ you are beautiful bless you, start believing it now.
I hope you find a good man you can settle with, start loving yourself and be grateful.

Your exterior is nothing to do what's going on in your head.

You could look like Angeline Jolie, but if you have low self-esteem, you might as well be the ugliest woman on earth.

This is an internal issue. Sort out the 'why's' first and things can go from there.

My DH told me something that I will never forget...

The sexiest thing about a woman is self confidence. (Which I am lucky enough to have) and I didn't look anywhere near as gorgeous as you. !

Yet me Daniel Craig lookalike married me....

Posting on here is not the answer, people will tell you what they think you want to hear. Self confidence has little to do with the way you look, it's how you feel. Self affirmations are the way forward because it's never what others say about you, but what you say about you.
I'm more than happy with the way l look, because of the way l feel.

Honestly OP you need to find another way to build up your self esteem rather than looking for the validation of strangers. You look perfectly nice, but I don't see how a bunch of compliments is going to help if you feel so down on yourself.
Also there will no doubt be mean comments (that is the way of the internet) which you may take to heart when you shouldn't.
Have you thought about therapy or something to help your negative thoughts?

Funny how that's the only recent post you've replied to. What do you want me to say? Yes your foreheads massive? It is big yes. No, your hairstyle doesn't accentuate your features? It doesn't but I still said you were very sweet looking. You are.

I look better with a half up do, but I'm secure enough in my frankly shitty skin to know I look OK

What about my hairline though ???

You’re totally deluded. Lovely features, beautiful skin, great hair. Very pretty and young. Such a shame if you can’t see this.
Think you’re attributing your unsatisfactory love life to your looks when likely the real reason is most men are shit.

I don't think anywhere on MN is the best place for this.

No I'm fine I just need honest opinions

She’s wearing a perfectly normal amount of daytime makeup!

I like a high forehead myself - Gwendoline Christie for example rocks it.

But if you don’t like it, just cut in a fringe. Easy.

Visual perception of attractive is so subjective. No one is universally attractive/unattractive. Different cultures, age groups and genders will have their own views.

What most people can agree is appealing is confidence, warmth and a sense of security in yourself.

Who do you consider to be attractive as a female? If you truly feel like it’s important to be an attractive woman, why don’t you invest your energy into positively making the most of it? Instead of dwelling on being down about yourself.

Visual perception of attractive is so subjective. No one is universally attractive/unattractive. Different cultures, age groups and genders will have their own views

I'm not sure that's particularly helpful. OP is clearly measuring herself by white, western European cultural standards and thinks she doesn't measure up.

Warning - Blunt instrument being used here. If on the cultural measuring scale of white, western European cultural beauty from 0 to 10, Waynetta Slob is at 0 and oh, I don't know, Rachel Weisz, Naomi Watts and Emily Blunt are at 10, OP is at least at 8.5 and more and that's without the benefit of the professional styling and photography they will have had.

Obviously it's wrong to measure anyone's worth that way, but denying that that measuring stick even exists or that people care about it is pointless when clearly it exists and matters for the OP.

OP, you are considerably above average prettiness.

You need to work on your self-esteem from 2 angles - (one) recognise that external beauty isn't important and (two) even if it were, you are very good looking.

I think every woman feels the same at some stage. I constantly feel so you are not alone. From one woman to another I think you are stunning

You look fine OP and like most of us you're middle of the road and unlike some of us, you're obviously looking after yourself and making an effort to look nice.

I'm not sure if you do want suggestions. I think somebody upthread mentioned changing your hair as you have a high forehead? Depending on your hair type, I think it might be good to have a chat with a hairstylist (a new salon can often see you differently than your usual one).

Bollox.

I'm not going to tell you that you look good or fine OP.

You are a fine looking woman.

You absolutely have to love yourself though. You do. It really is about confidence.

What's the purpose of this OP. You are going to be upset if people don't call you pretty but if they say you look nice or fine or that there's nothing to pick apart and nothing wrong with you (because there isn't) then you seem to think people aren't being honest.

I'm not scrutinising someone's very normal hairline, who has the time. The issues you're having sound more like they'd benefit from speaking to a counsellorn or the GP than anything else. What men think isn't the be all and end all nor are strangers on the Internet- some of whom are here for their own reasons and will enjoy being unpleasant in situations like this.

You look fine, most of us are not supermodel attractive and most of us don't need to post a pic on mn for validation.
I would suggest the reason you are long term single is nothing to do with your outward appearance and everything to do with your shocking lack of self esteem/confidence.

I would like this taken down

I too would like this taken down. OP needs help we can't give.

I think you are beautiful OP you have lovely glowing perfect skin but the sad thing is you probably won’t realise how pretty you are now until you look back on this photo in 20 years time . Have you had your lips done if you have you really don’t need to .

You need to visit your GP

Attractiveness is very subjective and you seem very suggestible.

The only appearance compliments/concerns I ever pay any notice to are mine. You need to get to this point of good self esteem and independent thought.

At the moment you are making yourself vulnerable.