To think I'm ugly and plain looking?

[feelawfu]

I've been single around 8 years. Recently met someone but sabotaging so much as I genuinely feel so so ugly and plain. From my hair to my face. I am worrying about positing this as a lot of the time people are accused of trying to gain compliments etc. I swear to got I'm not trying to do that. I have struggled with self image since I've been a young teen and would love WOMENS real opinions. I don't trust men with this as they will compliment away and then break my heart.

I was expecting The Wicked Witch of the West. You are far from plain or ugly.
I think you are lacking in confidence and I'll be honest, you could use a bit of makeup. Otherwise, believe in yourself, you are absolutely fine!

I feel like you're going to be looking for the 1 person to criticise you and them use it to beat yourself up. You're worth more than that.

You are very attractive but it doesn't really matter cos I don't think you'll believe it. Defnitely think therapy is the way to go as it seems like this is a big issue for you and you need to validate you not look for external validation from people who could just be on the wind up and want to hurt you.

If I saw you in the street I would categorise you as very pretty! Definitely.

but she is wearing make up

You need to find a way to like yourself and stop needing other people’s validation as to your level of attractiveness. As you age you look back at old photos and wonder what the hell you were thinking and wish you looked the sane now. Embrace your collagen!!!

Oh my god I HATE my hairline. If a fringe isn't it. Could you advise what would suit me?

OP, you look great.

But what you’re saying is really worrying. You said:

1. That you think you look awful;
2. That you feel this strongly enough to post your photo on the internet for others to comment;
3. That any man who says you look lovely is lying because he wants to get into your knickers;
4. That any woman on MN who says you look lovely is lying to make you feel better; 5)That a creep saying you’re “fuckable” 🤮 is somehow more than you were hoping for.

You need to value yourself more than that.

What about a side fringe?

I feel like you're going to be looking for the 1 person to criticise you and them use it to beat yourself up. You're worth more than that.

That's my worry. It's always the same on these threads.

Is my hairline really bad?? This is something I really hate

Fishing for compliments is just grim.

Some of us are totally unable to really see what we look like to others. My DM had the lowest self esteem from being compared unfavourably with her younger sister. She genuinely thought she was ugly and would do anything to avoid having her photo taken or put her hands over her face when she someone pointing a camera in her direction. She was beautiful. Photos from when she was in her 30/40s she looked like an old school Hollywood actress. She was admired by men and everyone commented on her looks. At no time was she able to see what others saw. So so sad.

you are lovely but I’m sure that’s probably little consolation as it’s what you believe you see when you look at yourself that counts.

You are pretty - lovely skin. Natural looking. You don’t need more makeup.

You DO need to arrange an appointment with a psychotherapist and discuss your low self esteem / body dysmorphia. Please, please do this. You deserve to feel better about yourself, or at least to get to a place where you aren’t obsessing about your appearance. Just think how much extra headspace you’d have each day if you can stop these thoughts.

You are much prettier than I ever was and I married a lovely, wonderful, kind, hot man. Your looks are not the issue, you need to grow your sense of inner self worth.

I would add a jealous, spiteful poster.

You are not plain or ugly. But does it really matter what randoms on the internet think?

You look like someone I followed on IG a while ago I can’t remember her name Rosie something I think ?

You are very pretty with lovely features. I'm am sorry you have worried about your self image for so long. I do believe that many of us have concerns about how others view us, whether it is looks, personality or how we go about our life. But I honestly think a lot of this, doesn't even register with other people.
I hope you learn to be kind to yourself & like the person you are x

When I looked again I saw a hint of lipstick but I couldn't see any other makeup. I think a more defined lipstick would be better, in a red tone, and more eye makeup would look better.
I still think she's attractive though. As my mum used to say, she has a lovely complexion.

Rosie henshaw! She’s very pretty and so are you

I wouldn't want to give anyone nightmares by putting up a photo of me!

Hi OP, as you're asking for advice as well, we've moved this to Style and Beauty. We don't think AIBU is the best place for threads like this.

From Made in Chelsea?

I like natural looking make up which to me it loooks like op has on including skin/blush etc. I would never want red lips or heavy eye make up it just ages you!

You are not ugly!