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I want to be more elegant and classy

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Sianthomasisnothererightnow · 26/05/2023 20:48

This might sound odd, but I’m sick of always looking a messy. I am terrible at styling myself, I always look wrong no matter what I do. I can’t afford well cut clothes or a stylist or anything like that, so it’s Primark and Vinted but I always look messy and slobby. I tried on a beautiful midi dress the other day and I finally looked sleek and elegant but I can’t find anything else that makes me feel the same way! I don’t want to be a 40 year old mess any more!

if you’re someone who tends to look out together, how do you achieve it? And can you do it on a budget or is it down to the cut of the cloth?

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CountryCousin · 28/05/2023 09:00

There are so many different varieties of any fabric, @cornflakebrownie - linen doesn’t have to be a grand wedding guest dress, cotton doesn’t have to be a white blouse.

I wouldn’t usually iron the cotton jersey t shirts, sweatshirts, jogging pants I wear at home, though I do iron corduroy things. For shirts and trousers I try to avoid thin flat poplin and look for thicker cotton twill, or cotton canvas or cotton mixed with silk or linen. All of these are much better ironed - but they’re beautiful to wear and generally look pretty good after a day’s wear. The best things in my wardrobe actually improve with age.

With linen I also look for heavier fabrics. In a previous century I remember using spray starch for my City clothes - I’m less scrupulous now as I no longer need to instil confidence in clients.

I prefer crunchy Shetland wool to cashmere and find it extremely easy to look after. Air jumpers after wearing, iron before wearing, hand wash as rarely as possible. Nothing bobbles or shrinks. (I haven’t shrunk a jumper since the early 90s!)

Because I try to avoid dry cleaners as much as possible I’m wary of unmixed silk, because I know that even with the gentlest washing it will degrade more rapidly than I’d wish - a handful of years rather than decades. But there’s really nothing like a weighty, richly coloured silk shirt for a touch of grandeur.

In all honesty I’ve found synthetic fabrics much more troublesome to maintain, and almost invariably disappointing to wear. (Unless sportswear, obviously.)

laakhx · 28/05/2023 15:49

@SavvyWavvy I said primark because she said she can't really afford high end products so only giving some advice xx

laakhx · 28/05/2023 15:50

@SavvyWavvy also I don't necessarily mean just white tip nails even a French manicure would look elegant I was just giving her some ideas to make her feel better about herself

KetoQueen · 28/05/2023 16:03

CountryCousin · 27/05/2023 11:45

Hmm … I’m sure you look wonderful, @laakhx - but I’m not at all sure your advice would have assisted my pursuit of elegance as a forty year old.

Do you think being catty is elegant?

Noodle421 · 28/05/2023 16:34

I agree, a neat short French manicure/ white tips look very elegant in my opinion and also your tip about cream is spot on (providing you suit the colour). I’ve just bought a little boxy simple cream cardigan/jacket which elevates my basic staple tops beautifully and I’ve just booked an appointment to have my nails done after reading your post ! Thank you for reminding me of the importance of prioritising a bit of self-care.

Noodle421 · 28/05/2023 16:34

This was directed to @laakhx

ImAvingOops · 28/05/2023 16:47

Re the nail tips, it's possible to get white tips that aren't bright like tippex, just white enough to make them look clean and disguise any discolouration from previous dark polishes. I think white tips and a subtle sheer pink, look clean and elegant.

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