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9 yo wants to get rid of facial hair wth do I do?!

53 replies

reddishrosie · 08/04/2023 16:34

Nearly 10 yo dd is saying the other dc are bullying them because of it. They are begging me to remove their dark mono brow and upper lip hair but I have no idea if there's a way of safely and hopefully painlessly?!

Any ideas gratefully received.
I've tried very hard for months to say it doesn't matter ignore etc but dd now getting very upset by it all.

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FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 08/04/2023 16:57

Completely painless no but if she is really wanting it done and knows that it's likely to be uncomfortable then I'd take her to get it threaded, they work fast and it settles down quickly.

Hair removal cream is an option too but I've always found that really irritating on my skin so a patch test would be a good idea.

rainyalan · 08/04/2023 16:58

I second patch test and high removal cream. This is really upsetting her.

mammy2018 · 08/04/2023 17:02

Hi I was in the same situation as your daughter when I was her age. My mother eventually researched local salons and booked me in for a wax for my upper lip and an eye brow tidy up. We did this every six weeks or so. Saved me taking to her razor and made me feel very grown up

doadeer · 08/04/2023 17:02

I had this at this age. Thankfully my mum let me get it waxed and it helped my confidence a lot. So shit this is still happening though

Bobbybobbins · 08/04/2023 17:03

I started plucking my mono brow when I was 12 as I got fed up of comments- luckily no facial hair (until peri menopause 🙄) so I can understand why she is upset but no idea which treatment to recommend. Tbh I'd probably pluck her middle bit of her eyebrows myself but no idea on facial hair.

Exhibity · 08/04/2023 17:04

Take her to a salon.

MsChatterbox · 08/04/2023 17:04

Book her in for waxing.

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 08/04/2023 17:04

Hot wax is meant to be less painful than strip wax, i'd take her somewhere and get it removed. It only gets worse as puberty progresses.

Slimjimtobe · 08/04/2023 17:06

It seems young but I think I would remove it rather than her being so embarrassed and affecting her self esteem

i wonder would threading by a trained person be best ?

AnnaMagnani · 08/04/2023 17:07

I was definitely at primary school when I had random annoying facial hairs and a mono brow.

My DM took me to electrolysis for which I am forever grateful.

CreationNat1on · 08/04/2023 17:07

Hair removal cream for upper lip.

Tweeze monobrow, after the shower, her pores will be open

MoongazyHare · 08/04/2023 17:08

How about Jolen crème bleach instead of removal? It feels gentler than actually removing it.

JodiMahoney · 08/04/2023 17:11

I had dark facial hair around this age and was mercilessly bullied. My mother ignored it and I was desperate for help.

I took things into my own hands when I was a bit older and bought Jolen cream bleach, worked well enough for me but I am very fair skinned.

I had upper lip lasered later in life and so glad I did.

Be aware that waxing can be damaging - I ended up with a dark skin moustache after having a baby so that’s why I went for laser (it did fade but it lasted years and I hated it).

If you can afford it and have time for upkeep I’d say go to a specialist threading or waxing person regularly until she’s old enough for laser or electrolysis (I tried electrolysis too but didn’t get on with it).

It’s fantastic that you’re looking for advice to help her, I wish my mum had!!

TomeTome · 08/04/2023 17:11

Laser hair removal. She’s highly unlikely to ever want a mono brow

WhatFlavourIsIt · 08/04/2023 17:12

I would take her for a wax. My daughter inherited her very dark mono brow & tash from her dad. She was around 10/11 when it really started to bother her so that's when she started with regular waxing appointments.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 08/04/2023 17:13

I don't know what they've done to Jolen but it's crap now.

Definitely let her use cream, I've been plagued throughout adult life, but a friend was bullied at school in I think Year 7 and it was horrible for her

EauNeu · 08/04/2023 17:15

yes help her get it taken care of. Laser if they'll do it..wax if not. Much less painful than threading as its over quickly.

itaintgoingdowneasyifitaintcheesy · 08/04/2023 17:16

Get her a facial trimmer like the finishing touch ones. It's two mins, pain free, and she can do it with your help at home in private

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reddishrosie · 08/04/2023 21:00

Oh wow waxing seems to be overly painful? I get my eyebrows threaded surely no one can think a 9yo can handle that or am I just a mega wimp?
It is bothering her though so happy to do something. Is shaving a terrible idea, using a trimmer? I know it can grow back thicker but I'm thinking can I drag the pain bit out until she's a bit older ...

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ninebiscuits · 08/04/2023 21:05

If your not fancying wax or threading, how about trying a Hollywood browser? You can use all over the face, and the hair doesn't grow back any thicker! Doesn't hurt either!

HorsingAround2022 · 08/04/2023 21:20

Don’t thread her upper lip, it will be really painful!

I second a PP with the flawless finish razors, they’re great and they’re not like normal shaving razors so she won’t be able to hurt herself.

There’s so much that can be done to build resilience in children, but I don’t think not actioning facial hair is the answer. She’ll be happier and more confident with it gone - it shouldn’t be that way, but people, especially at school, can be so cruel.

23Elfie · 08/04/2023 21:23

My DD is 8, almost 9 and we use hair removal cream on the mono brow. She saw me waxing my lip and then checked out hers (there is an amount of pretty fair coloured hair but I hadn't mentioned it) she then asked me to do her lip too.
Since then she's only ever asked me to keep up the mono brow removal. If she asks in time about the lip again then I'll do it for her but won't worry until she does x

Toohardtofindaproperusername · 08/04/2023 21:26

Everyone is saying remove facial hair ... no one seems tp be asking how bad it is , what you do about hair, what your position is and whether there are ways you can help in other ways. Education and challenge are also part of rhis..whether school based, feminist literature, feminist role models, building her own body awareness.. I donr underestimate rhe challenge and I'm not,saying donr do removal of facial hair, but that also teaches something very powerful about womanhood. And we dont seem to be talking about that.
What are her family role models. Stereotype women .. or women who can have hair on their bodies and be ok about it?

ChocChipHandbag · 08/04/2023 21:30

reddishrosie · 08/04/2023 21:00

Oh wow waxing seems to be overly painful? I get my eyebrows threaded surely no one can think a 9yo can handle that or am I just a mega wimp?
It is bothering her though so happy to do something. Is shaving a terrible idea, using a trimmer? I know it can grow back thicker but I'm thinking can I drag the pain bit out until she's a bit older ...

I’ve had both threading and waxing. Waxing with hot wax isn’t very painful at all. It is less painful, in my experience, than threading, and quicker too. She’ll be absolutely fine with waxing.

ChocChipHandbag · 08/04/2023 21:31

ChocChipHandbag · 08/04/2023 21:30

I’ve had both threading and waxing. Waxing with hot wax isn’t very painful at all. It is less painful, in my experience, than threading, and quicker too. She’ll be absolutely fine with waxing.

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Really, really don’t recommend shaving a young child’s face.