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9 yo wants to get rid of facial hair wth do I do?!

53 replies

reddishrosie · 08/04/2023 16:34

Nearly 10 yo dd is saying the other dc are bullying them because of it. They are begging me to remove their dark mono brow and upper lip hair but I have no idea if there's a way of safely and hopefully painlessly?!

Any ideas gratefully received.
I've tried very hard for months to say it doesn't matter ignore etc but dd now getting very upset by it all.

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HiImTheProblemItsMe · 08/04/2023 21:32

You can buy facial shavers on amazon for under £20. They actually come up as "epilators" but they are definitely razors. Painless and quick. Mine takes an AA battery and I bought it years ago- it's lasted really well. I use it at least a couple of times a week (pale skin, dark hair). A quick whoosh over the top lip, chin and between the brows and you're done. Painless and easy. I would absolutely not encourage waxing or anything painful. Women should not have to suffer to be considered aesthetically pleasing! Especially when they are still children.

Phos · 08/04/2023 21:37

Difficult at this age. My immediate thought is IPL or electrolysis, being more permanent and not having to go through the pain/discomfort of threading or waxing ever few weeks. I'm just not sure whether or not it's recommended pre-puberty.

InSpainTheRain · 08/04/2023 21:39

Wax it off - not totally pain free but does the job.

WhoWants2Know · 08/04/2023 21:44

I dermaplaned my kids brows and upper lips from around 9 ish. No pain at all.

AlwaysFoldingWashing · 08/04/2023 21:52

How about the tiny eyebrow razors? They can use for dermaplaning, easy to use and control and painless. Lots of videos on YouTube how to use them safely. Results last for weeks

TicTac80 · 08/04/2023 22:06

I have really dark hair and started getting monobrow and loads of obvious hair on upper lip when I was quite young. My mum (from the ME) made up some sugaring paste and showed me how to use that to remove hair. Did the trick for me! My older sister got bullied terribly for similar so Mum did similar initially, but then she took her to have electrolysis for upper lip.

I reckon threading would be good for eyebrows (as they can get a bit of shape too!) and then waxing/sugaring for upper lip (assuming laser/IPL is not suitable). It's good that you're listening to her and wanting to help.

justasmalltownmum · 08/04/2023 22:16

Don't shave it!
Wax at the salon. It will be done in 2 strips.

Beginningless · 08/04/2023 22:16

Toohardtofindaproperusername · 08/04/2023 21:26

Everyone is saying remove facial hair ... no one seems tp be asking how bad it is , what you do about hair, what your position is and whether there are ways you can help in other ways. Education and challenge are also part of rhis..whether school based, feminist literature, feminist role models, building her own body awareness.. I donr underestimate rhe challenge and I'm not,saying donr do removal of facial hair, but that also teaches something very powerful about womanhood. And we dont seem to be talking about that.
What are her family role models. Stereotype women .. or women who can have hair on their bodies and be ok about it?

I think important points. Agree that it’s not ‘don’t do it’ but I think important to help her reflect on questions like ‘why are girls/women made to feel disgusting for having hair on their body and men are not?’ to help her see this all as total misogynist BS, even if she removes it.

SparkyBlue · 08/04/2023 22:18

DD has very dark hair and a bit of a monobrow. She is ten and it's not bothering her now but I did ask in the salon I go to if she is too young for waxing and they said no it's absolutely fine to bring her in when/if she wants the brows shaped.

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reddishrosie · 08/04/2023 22:47

Thanks for the suggestions. Honestly I am currently sporting a dashing moustache and definitely have the most wintery legs going and dd knows that I tell her look at me it really doesn't matter.

I am open and honest about women should not have to change themselves just because society tells us to, however all these messages don't really do much when you're right in the thick of other dc being mean to you about your hairy features so I think with a heavy sigh I will relent and just take the path of least resistance here!

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Mariposista · 08/04/2023 22:54

TomeTome · 08/04/2023 17:11

Laser hair removal. She’s highly unlikely to ever want a mono brow

She is probably too young for this - I doubt they would perform er on a child under 16 but it’s an idea for the future.
In the meanwhile waxing/threading are your best options.

LondonLovie · 08/04/2023 23:14

Pls do. I had a mono- brow at school and was called werewolf & god knows what. It was horrific.

My mum firstly bleached the hair situ facial bleach which helped a bit. But I was so relieved when she finally took me to get it waxed. Took 2 seconds, only had to have it done 3 times in total ever and it pretty much disappeared

Thepossibility · 08/04/2023 23:21

I've been waxing my 11 yo DDs monobrow for about a year. One little whip of a strip between the brows and it's gone, much less painful that plucking and threading and lasts about two months. I would probably bleach the mo at this age rather than wax.
I remember being so self conscious of my hairy self. Puberty is hard enough without that.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 08/04/2023 23:29

InSpainTheRain · 08/04/2023 21:39

Wax it off - not totally pain free but does the job.

I get facial waxing and chin and neck. It feels as though I've been slapped and my face is scarlet for about three hours afterwards (I am very pale and my skin reacts to anything very strongly). My upper lip stings the most of all - except for just below my ear. They're very experienced, very quick and it's not anything they're doing wrong, it's just how my skin is. I can't use any depilatory chemicals since I either reacted to or had a dodgy batch of Veet Sensitive that left me with chemical burns on my legs after 30 seconds.

I think whilst a quick monobrow wax can be OK, it would be far too stingy for a small child's upper lip, as would threading (the most stingy of all) or plucking.

An electric shaver doesn't interfere with the skin at all if it's done with zero pressure.

earsup · 08/04/2023 23:31

wax, fast and easy, threading painful, laser the best. bleach creams a bit useless now.

Summergarden · 08/04/2023 23:44

My DD asked for me to help her fix her monobrow at age 10.

We use Veet facial hair removal cream and it’s brilliant. I apply it with a cotton bud, leave about 7 mins then wipe off. She has very sensitive skin but it’s cased no irritation thankfully.

I would definitely recommend as it’s completely painless and easy to do at home, we ordered on Amazon I think.

MoreSleepPleasee · 09/04/2023 00:08

Wax it off or shave it. My sons always had a monobrow and started getting it waxed originally but now plucks it himself when needed. Kids are cruel.

DeflatedAgain · 09/04/2023 00:27

Wax it off!

Nice hot wax will make it easier.

Worth them feeling more confident in themselves. The more you do it the easier it gets each time.

elm26 · 09/04/2023 01:22

Wax eyebrows. I was similar age and my parent took me to get mine done, I'm still a regular at nearly 30.

I wouldn't recommend threading as that kills me! Coming from somebody with multiple tattoos and I've had lip fillers. I'd rather get all of those done than have threading.

NatashaDancing · 09/04/2023 02:20

MoongazyHare · 08/04/2023 17:08

How about Jolen crème bleach instead of removal? It feels gentler than actually removing it.

It's often very obvious unfortunately.

CoffeeBean5 · 09/04/2023 02:20

I started having my eyebrows threaded when I was in Year 7. I then plucked stray hairs to maintain them. I didn’t really need to prior to this. I’ve never had facial hair, but I can understand why your Dd is self-conscious about it. I would get your dd’s eyebrows threaded as it doesn’t hurt. No advice for the upper lip hair though.

Dintananadinta · 09/04/2023 03:07

Get the flawless hair remover!

Gemstonebeach · 09/04/2023 03:19

I would do hair removal cream on the upper lip and pluck the mono, that's what I do!

catinboooots · 09/04/2023 03:24

My beautiful little half Brazilian niece went through this recently. Aged 13. Quick swipe of Immac on her upper lip and a gentle pluck in the centre of her brows. She's so much more happy and confident.

Timeforty · 09/04/2023 03:52

I was teased around this age too. Boys and girls used to snigger in my face and asked why I had a mustache. I never understood that it was something that a parent could fix if I had spoken up about it.

Help your DD out now, you can teach her about body confidence and going au naturel later down the line.