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I've lost 7 stone and my breasts

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Down2thefloor · 15/03/2023 23:39

Are awful.

I almost feel worse about them than when I was obese.

I've just looked at myself topless, sat down with the camera on my phone. Something I've never really done before.

I'm shocked.

I've lost enough weight that I can see the plate of my breasts, up high where they should be, like a man's pecs, then my breast are way underneath that. Very deflated, flat, saggy. Nipples facing straight down.

I cannot have surgery. I'm just sad that this is how I look now.

I spent the first half of my life hating my body because I was fat and ill spend the 2nd half hating it because my breasts are like that of a 75 year old.

I keep a vest or bra on when I have sex and now I've actually realised how I look I just feel so insecure :(

I knew they were saggy but I look like a female orangutan when sat down topless 😂😭😭😭

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Whyareblokesonhere · 15/03/2023 23:47

You're beautiful.

MistySkiesAreGone · 15/03/2023 23:48

Well done on your weight loss. I'm fairly small of chest and things that I find helpful are

  • swimming, it improves the muscle around the breast which does help, plus bonus of toned shoulders
  • eating more fat, saturated and unsaturated and dairy, I think it is to do with estrogen, my breasts are always fuller when I have these in my diet, and bonus they taste good
  • proper bra analysis, I have some really lovely ones now e..g Gossard encore, and the Gossard front fastening bralet

I resigned myself from a very early age to my breasts not being my best feature, I like you take a slightly comical stance about them which actually isn't a bad strategy, however I assure you they probably aren't as bad as you think, we are our worst enemies!

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Down2thefloor · 15/03/2023 23:50

Whyareblokesonhere · 15/03/2023 23:47

You're beautiful.

Well that's very kind of you but if you saw me you would understand why I feel this way.

It's not just a little sagging, it's very bad.

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RelentlessForwardProgress · 15/03/2023 23:53

I hear you, its shit

I lost 10 stone and the state of my breasts afterwards were definitely worse than before I'd lost it. I actually felt deformed.

Can I ask why you can't have surgery? Is it a medical reason or you just don't want to do it?

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Down2thefloor · 15/03/2023 23:56

RelentlessForwardProgress · 15/03/2023 23:53

I hear you, its shit

I lost 10 stone and the state of my breasts afterwards were definitely worse than before I'd lost it. I actually felt deformed.

Can I ask why you can't have surgery? Is it a medical reason or you just don't want to do it?

I can't afford it.

And not in a 'I don't want to sacrifice my 2nd holiday a year to save up for the op' way.

In a 'I don't know if I have enough money this month to keep the electricity on' way.

It's just not possible.

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RelentlessForwardProgress · 16/03/2023 00:01

I hear you about the money.

But.....if its not a medical restriction, it might be possible in the future?

I only say that as I thought I'd never manage to have mine done and then a couple of years later it did become financially possible.

I know there is a school of thought that one should be proud of one's body and what it has been through, but I couldn't feel that way. And even knowing that I might not be stuck with it forever kept me from feeling total despair about it.

Barleysugar86 · 16/03/2023 00:01

My chest has gone like this. It's not weight loss, just the aftermath of kids/ breastfeeding and age I guess. Empty droopy sacks.

I buy structured cup bras so they look fine under clothes- no cleavage but I have a shape.

And exercising helps me feel better about my body generally, I feel graceful when I swim.

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Down2thefloor · 16/03/2023 00:05

Unfortunately I have a chronic illness (part of my weightloss) so I'm unable to work so I can't see my money situation improving.

Also I had my gallbladder out a few years ago and I didn't react well to the GA so if I don't absolutely have to go under I don't want to again.

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Down2thefloor · 16/03/2023 00:07

Barleysugar86 · 16/03/2023 00:01

My chest has gone like this. It's not weight loss, just the aftermath of kids/ breastfeeding and age I guess. Empty droopy sacks.

I buy structured cup bras so they look fine under clothes- no cleavage but I have a shape.

And exercising helps me feel better about my body generally, I feel graceful when I swim.

Yes mine were like that pre-weightloss.

They've never been great, they were droopy and saggy from my first pregnancy but at least they were full and my nipples were facing (sort of) forwards.

Now my nipples just face down. It's embarrassing my DH trying to 'scoop them up and find them' in my bra :(

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RelentlessForwardProgress · 16/03/2023 00:12

I'm sorry to hear your unwell, @Down2thefloor and the Gallbladder. It sounds like you have had a really difficult time of it.

(My weightloss buggered my gallbladder up and I had to have it out, luckily I was OK with the GA but bloody hell gallstones hurt).

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Down2thefloor · 16/03/2023 00:15

RelentlessForwardProgress · 16/03/2023 00:12

I'm sorry to hear your unwell, @Down2thefloor and the Gallbladder. It sounds like you have had a really difficult time of it.

(My weightloss buggered my gallbladder up and I had to have it out, luckily I was OK with the GA but bloody hell gallstones hurt).

Yeah I was really glad to have it out, it caused alot of issues and can be hellish when losing weight.

Thankyou.

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AutumnColours9 · 16/03/2023 00:37

It's awful we women are made to feel so insecure. Some women in other cultures do not have the same culture obsessed with looks and breasts. I've spent so much of my life feeling ugly and that being attractive is so.important.

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Down2thefloor · 16/03/2023 00:43

AutumnColours9 · 16/03/2023 00:37

It's awful we women are made to feel so insecure. Some women in other cultures do not have the same culture obsessed with looks and breasts. I've spent so much of my life feeling ugly and that being attractive is so.important.

I don't think I'm ugly. I think I'm quite pretty.
With my clothes on I feel good about myself.

I've had multiple pregnancies and lost a whole person worth of weight, I don't think it's societies fault that I know my body is wrecked from it. It's just fact.

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AutumnColours9 · 16/03/2023 01:03

But a lot.of the postnatal changes are 'normal'. We are just bombarded with images of 'perfect' people all the time.

Makingamess4212 · 16/03/2023 01:44

This is literally me. I lost nearly 8 stone and my bust was horrendous 😖 extremely saggy and so much extra skin I could pull them so far forward it was awful. I hated it.
I gained a little weight back (not just for the bust, I just didn't feel healthy anymore, I felt underweight), and my breasts are so much better, little fuller, less skin, I feel so much better in myself!
Not sure if this is an option for you? But definitely worth a try. I find weight loss is a really hard thing to balance, too much can actually make you feel worse.

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Down2thefloor · 16/03/2023 11:21

AutumnColours9 · 16/03/2023 01:03

But a lot.of the postnatal changes are 'normal'. We are just bombarded with images of 'perfect' people all the time.

I was happyish with my postpartum body.

I'm not notbbow that I gained and lost 7 stone. That is not natural.

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Down2thefloor · 16/03/2023 11:22

Makingamess4212 · 16/03/2023 01:44

This is literally me. I lost nearly 8 stone and my bust was horrendous 😖 extremely saggy and so much extra skin I could pull them so far forward it was awful. I hated it.
I gained a little weight back (not just for the bust, I just didn't feel healthy anymore, I felt underweight), and my breasts are so much better, little fuller, less skin, I feel so much better in myself!
Not sure if this is an option for you? But definitely worth a try. I find weight loss is a really hard thing to balance, too much can actually make you feel worse.

I'm actually still classed as Overweight on BMI calculator.

I need to loose another stone to be at my healthy weight, I'm still a size 12/14 so I really don't want to gain any.

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Down2thefloor · 16/03/2023 11:23

I have very saggy stomach and overhang but thatbdoesny bother me at all. Nor the arm and thigh skin.

It's just the boobs :(

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rosegoldivy · 16/03/2023 11:27

Similar situation. I've lost 7 stone over the last year and half through diet and weight lifting.
I have saggy tits and loose skin on my stomach, arse and legs.

It's hard sometimes.... but not as hard as being 7 stone overweight.

Focus on all the positives from your weight loss, more energy, better lifestyle, look better in clothes etc

Give yourself a pat on the back and be proud of how much weight you have lost.

Crikeyalmighty · 16/03/2023 11:35

@rosegoldivy Nicely said.

MikeLitoriss · 16/03/2023 12:01

Just to say your not alone. I could have almost written your post. I'm 31, lost 13 stone in total in a very quick amount of time, also breastfed 2 babies 6 years apart, and due to the weightless have a vast amount of saggy tunny skin that hangs low like an apron and my boobs are like you described yours. I won't ever be able to afford surgery and I wouldn't want to take the risk when it's only vanity.
I'm very attractive with clothes on (taken me years to realise!) And I'm happily married to a DH that loves me as i am but I despise my body without clothes and it's difficult!

DisplayPurposesOnly · 16/03/2023 12:06

I'm so impressed youve lost 7 stone.

Two things:
sitting down/looking down is the worst* angle ever for looking at yourself. Look directly across into a mirror (if you must look😁)

  • wear something sexier than a t-shi
DisplayPurposesOnly · 16/03/2023 12:07

...rt for sex. Ideally silk cami or chemise. Your husband will enjoy reaching up under it and it'll feel more sensual for you.

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Down2thefloor · 16/03/2023 12:10

DisplayPurposesOnly · 16/03/2023 12:07

...rt for sex. Ideally silk cami or chemise. Your husband will enjoy reaching up under it and it'll feel more sensual for you.

Errr OK 🤔

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5128gap · 16/03/2023 12:16

Would a thread lift be an option? Cheaper and no GA. Results last 2 years apparently.