I've lost 7 stone and my breasts

[Down2thefloor]

Are awful.

I almost feel worse about them than when I was obese.

I've just looked at myself topless, sat down with the camera on my phone. Something I've never really done before.

I'm shocked.

I've lost enough weight that I can see the plate of my breasts, up high where they should be, like a man's pecs, then my breast are way underneath that. Very deflated, flat, saggy. Nipples facing straight down.

I cannot have surgery. I'm just sad that this is how I look now.

I spent the first half of my life hating my body because I was fat and ill spend the 2nd half hating it because my breasts are like that of a 75 year old.

I keep a vest or bra on when I have sex and now I've actually realised how I look I just feel so insecure :(

I knew they were saggy but I look like a female orangutan when sat down topless 😂😭😭😭

@Down2thefloor
Firstly well done on your weight loss

Please see your GP they may be able to do a referral on the nhs - there's probably a huge weight but at least if your on the system it's a start ❤️

Not sure what you what to hear, here.
People have suggested surgery, and you have reasonably explained you are not into that.
People have offered you encouragement and words to boost your self esteem, you don't seem interested.
People have suggested cute underthings in response to your own complaints about your DP/DH feeling your boobs in there, and yet you frown at them asking what they mean.

Maybe take a minute to think about what you want from this thread. Most women understand and relate to this kind of feeling, so you are not at all alone.

But given that you have no interest or ability to have surgery (I wouldn't either) then you are left with rethinking the way you perceive and accept your body, and how to feel confident in it, or/and dressing it in a way which pleases you, makes you feel at ease and allows you the freedom to take pleasure in intimacy.

A good bra can genuinely do wonders. Find a local independent bra specialist. You only need 2 - 3 bras.

Maybe just some sympathy and solidarity?

Op, sorry to hear that this is getting you down. Mine have dropped and I need to lose weight but dread what they will be like when (if) I manage to do that.

Well done on the weight loss.
Exercises that build up the pecs will help give you a better upper chest, and can be done without spending any money.
If it is really getting you down, please speak to your GP.

I keep a vest or bra on when I have sex

You mentioned a DH so I'm assuming he's the one you have sex with, and will be continuing to do so for a long time. I honestly think it would be best to stop covering up in front of him. If he loves and values you, he will not run away screaming, and you'll end up feeling a lot better about yourself. If he doesn't, it's better to know that, and decide what you want to do about his lack of support. It might be hard the first time but it's the first step to feeling more comfortable in your new body.

Exactly that.

They're my breasts, I can't change them. I just wanted to talk about how I feel about it.

Not get suggestions on how I can change them, I can't.

It's 100% about me, not him.

He loves my boobs. He doesn't give a fuck.

I cover up for myself because as soon as I see them hanging there during sex (especially in some particular positions) all my insecurities come flooding in and my libido disappears instantly. So I keep a vest or bra on.

Firstly well done!! Amazing weightloss achievement!

Secondly - find some sexy well fitting bras/camis/whatever and/or have sex in low light - light some candles for example. This made me feel much better as following surgery I hate my boobs and refuse to be topless other than in the shower!

Doesn't have to be something expensive - just primark or supermarket brands as long as they fit well will make you feel loads better.

You're right about light, it does help alot.

I might invest in some nice things than just plain vests.

All my bras are too big but I don't have the money to replace right now, especially as I still want to lose another stone so no point until I'm at target

Charity shops are good for cheap bras. I know the thought might be a bit iffy, but often women donate ones that have never been worn because they didn't fit properly. I have donated and bought. It's pretty good too get a pretty new-looking bra that fits for £1!

Sorry I think you are very rude. Some of your answers are very curt and people are only being nice.

I would say there is some point in buying maybe 2 new bras while you’re still losing weight OP. It will likely take you a few more months to lose another stone and this is bothering you now.
Obviously cute bras won’t change your breasts but they are likely to help you feel better about how you look in clothes + wearing just underwear with your husband. And that’s worth trying to find 30-60 pounds from somewhere.

I love charity shops!

I was told to have a look on vinted too, same thing with lots of new/unworn on there.
I don't really know my size though

You're right.

In all fairness I've just been wearing oversized 2 pack sports bras in day to life so no wonder I feel a bit unhappy. They don't do any favours to the situation.

Noo! That won’t be helping.
Even somewhere like a big m&s will have a good lingerie department. M&S bras are pretty affordable too with lots of options in the 20-30 pound range. Bravissimo is fantastic if you are above a D cup (which is likely. D cups on smaller back sizes are really quite small) but you do need a budget of 30-40 pounds per bra for them. Go and try on some different styles. Funnily enough, the sexier lower cut balconnet styles often work well on women who’ve lost volume in their breasts. Plunge styles can work well if your boobs naturally go off to the sides.
Go in with an open mind and take as many different styles in to try on as you can. As you’ve lost a lot of weight you should try on quite a few different sizes too. The bravissimo web site has some good videos about how to check a bra fits well.
Having 2-3 bras that fit and that you like is enough. At that rate they’ll probably need replacing every 6-12 months so you can absolutely justify getting new ones again in a few months if you’ve lost more weight.
Life is too short to wear underwear you hate.

I have the exact same problem. Bras are a nightmare for me now. My biggest insecurity

One strategy that works is to go for a fitting somewhere like bravissimo, buy 1 great bra, and then look for the same make, style and size on discount sites that sell of previous seasons stock. Or just wait for the sales to buy a couple more.

I just wanted to come on and say incredibly well done on losing 7 stone. What you have done is amazing!

And also would love to hear how you started/managed that (and the other posters who have lost huge amounts.)
I am incredibly overweight and I'd love to lose 7 stone. I'd still be overweight then (!) But I'd take saggy books for the heath benefits.(they look great now but my body is creakingnunder the extra weight.)

@Down2thefloor , go to a lingerie shop and try some on. If it's a proper bra shop (not M&S etc), they'll most likely take one look at you and tell you you are a NNXY or whatever. This will not sound right to you, but they'll get some for you to try on. You will be under no obligation to buy.

From your tone on here, and understandably so, you sound fed up. I'd say that a new bra, even if from a cheapish shop, might be worth the investment.
Primark bras start at £4.00. Tesco does some pretty bras and often have some on the sale rail.

A slip style nightie or camisole with a bit of banding or secret support might be extremely sexy in the right context.

@3littlebeans I had several weight related illnesses and after a health scare I had a gastric sleeve as a last resort. Difficult but I would be at least 9 stone heavier by now if I hadn't have done it.

You did it though, @Down2thefloor , and it can't have been easy. Be nice to yourself. Don't be insecure, you have done great and you are loved, and you deserve to feel secure and sexy.

No idea what your financial situation is, and I appreciate that £1 or £4 might be a lot for some, but I am comparing it with £40 or something.
A well-fitting bra really helps clothes look better and helps me feel better. I really need to bin my 'crop top' cheap ones that do nothing for me. A saggy monoboob is not a good look

Wow that's a huge thing to go through. Well done 🌟.

Oh poor you, OP.

Concentrate on your amazing weight loss and how much better you look overall.

Loads of women get droopy tits - even those who haven’t lost loads of weight. My friend’s post partum boobs are spaniel’s ears (her words). She hates them too. But unless you have surgery, you just have to accept them and focus on the good bits.

I promise this isn't a race to the bottom, but 8 had a radical double mastectomy a few years ago. Because of chemo, then rads, the reconstruction was very delayed.
I look like Frankensteins Monster in the nude, but I'm alive! You have been bloody wonderful losing all that weight - just think how much your health and life expectancy has increased.

I do get it, I really do. Wear really pretty underwear, gorgeous lacy vests, anything that makes you feel,good.

I think what you've done is fab -own it 😁