Did you pick your own engagement ring?

[ramanw]

Partner casually asked if I wanted to go and buy an engagement ring the other day.

Obviously I was chuffed etc and have now found one which is being ordered in.

Is it a bit weird though that I will know when he's picking it up and then I guess I will know he's about to propose and that kind of takes the "magical" element out of it.

Did you pick your own engagement ring and found yourself in a similar position or did your partner completely surprise you and picked the ring himself?

Great thread this. My Mum recently passed away. She had 3 nice rings and I wear them in rotation. The DS is only 17 just now but I’ve already said that he can offer one of the rings as an engagement ring or gift in the future if he wishes. If he chooses my favourite, I may part with it sadly but enjoy the continuity.

Yes he proposed as we then went ring shopping a week or so later.

I always thought I would want to pick my own ring but when DH proposed he had picked it out, agonised over his choice and he got it pretty damn right.

'Magic' wasn't our focus when my dh and I were planning our future together. We decided we wanted to get married and went to buy a ring together.

We bought my engagement ring after he asked me to go on honeymoon .

I chose my own after he’d proposed and my wedding ring. I have then proceeded to never wear either so I don’t know why I bothered!

I picked my own

I chose it (and ordered it!), I’m very fussy about jewellery and don’t like traditional engagement rings so I got a lovely vintage one.

The proposal was a complete surprise (for both of us I think 😂) and was quite romantic so that’s what counts.

We picked mine together

I went with a friend to choose her wedding ring and was very proud she chose one that I'd suggested. Her husband went on his own to choose his (not having seen hers) and chose the very same ring!

Didn't pick my first one but have an upgraded one now which we chose together.

If I am honest I am pretty bemused by the idea that dh would choose the ring without me. I have to like it, want to wear it and feel comfortable in it.
I would have hated to not be involved in the choice.

Dh proposed, and then we went to a jeweller and she made both our rings. Dh is Dutch so as a Dutchy he wore his ring on his left hand when engaged and switched it to his right when married. I wore mine the UK way, so I had 2 rings, but my engagement ring doesn't have a raised diamond, it is like a band with a diamond in.

We were mature students at college and you can image the interest when we came back after the Eatser holidays both wearing bands on our left hands.

Yes - neither of us proposed, we just agreed that we'd get married. Then I picked a ring.

He proposed with my mum's engagement ring and I chose my own afterwards.

We decided to get engaged then went ring shopping. We didn't have a proposal, which we were both happy with.

No. DH did a ton of research, went to Hatton Garden and selected the diamond etc. I knew he was planning it, he knew I didn't want anything big or elaborate, so it wasn't too difficult haha.

My husband chose my ring and proposed with it. We'd been open about the fact we wanted to marry and I'd let him know what style of ring I liked and he picked it. It is perfect. I'm actually glad he did because I'd have found the choice too overwhelming!
I later found out he'd bought it in the April and he didn't propose until October!

Was proposed to then we went ring shopping that day and I chose it.

I proposed, as I didn't think he was ever going to pluck up the courage, and then we went together to choose the ring. Still love it nearly fifty years later!

I chose mine in that we went to a deceased estate auction and there were three preferred options and we got the one we won the highest bid on!

I love it. We got my eternity ring the same way and I always hope that whoever my rings used to belong to knows somehow how much I love them.

We'd been living together for yonks without getting married and I was happy to continue that way because I didn't really see the point of having that price of paper, but my parents kept bugging me about it, so one day I said to him ok, let's just bloody do it. Can you get a x carat round solitaire mounted on a platinum band? I also gave him acceptable ranges for colour and clarity. He got the ring made and gave it to me (no proposal as such) and we told our friends and family, and that was that. I'm very happy about how it happened (hate anything cheesy or romantic) and I love my ring because it was made according to my specifications.

DH proposed with a ring that he had chosen. Very much to my taste and I still love it many years later.

DH is not romantic. It was more “So should we get married, would you like to pick a date and organise everything”. No ring (he knows I’d want to pick it). He picked his ring too.

We had walked around a few jewellery shops in the lead up, but colour, cut and clarity were important to me. I love jewellery, often chop and change so wanted to try loads on. I took a few months and took DM with me.

I was less fussy with the wedding band. We got that together, had a nice meal.

Oh, and as for the proposal- I managed to give us both food poisoning with some dodgy chicken. I was just coming out of the bathroom all pale and sweaty when DH raised his head slightly from the pillow and asked me to marry him.

20 years.

Proposed first. Went ring shopping afterwards.

Got one he spotted first, but that I liked.