To ask what you ladies think of this dress

[julietlondon]

Honest feedback please

Take away all the net.

I'm "goth" and think that would look frumpy on most due to the cut and style of it. Fuck everyone who just dismissed it as "goth" or made shitty Halloween or Addams family references though, stuff like this can be unflattering on anyone, no need to be a dick about what you negatively associate it with.

Sorry but they are fussy and boring. I don't think this dress is suitable for a wedding but it's much nicer than this lot.

OP there are some very dull, parochial opinions on this thread & some absolutely hideous 'alternatives' shown!

It's utter nonsense that black can't be worn to a wedding & that every woman must be frou frou'd up in bright garish colours.

I've attended many weddings & have frequently worn black. And noone threw stones or barred me from entering. Or mistook the entire event for a funeral etc etc

The dress you posted is not particularly my taste but I can see how it could work.

Wedding threads are generally bonkers on here & when you add it up with the equal number of threads about the many bizzare approaches to wedding receptions it makes all the angst over the 'rules of how to dress' even stranger!

It's nice; but not sure how the neck frill would look in real life

Against the grain it seems but I love it. Unfortunately, not for a Mediterranean wedding in black though

Is it your ex husbands wedding and you want to make a point?

I absolutely love it (and would/have worn black to a wedding, the only colour I avoid is white) but I’m presuming if it’s in the med it might be a little warm and it doesn’t look like it would be the most comfortable thing to wear? Pale me is wondering how I’d suncream under the net but you may not have that problem…I’m also not sure about cultural associations of black at a wedding where you’re going so might be worth checking that.

The dress gives Vampire’s Wife vibes so you could look there (although ££££). Alternate places (at a lower budget) -
Sister Jane
Rixo
Wolf & Badger

This is much better :)

This is lovely too

Each to their own but that Coast dress is a fright- it manages to be dull and fussy at the same time.

I totally agree @NatashaDancing ! That Coast dress is awful.

I've attended many weddings & have frequently worn black. And noone threw stones or barred me from entering. Or mistook the entire event for a funeral etc etc

At least some of them will have internally raised an eyebrow or wondered if you were trying to make a point, even if they were too polite to say so.

Black can be okay, if there are other colours in the outfit, for example. But in general, an all black dress at a wedding goes against our cultural norms in the UK.

@LookingOldTheseDays who said I am in the UK?
Seriously - do you all raise 'an internal eyebrow' at the many, many men who wear black suits to weddings?
And what 'point' would I be making by wearing black?
This is exactly what I mean - it's so arbitrary and bizzare!
My mother wore black to both my wedding and my sisters and she LOVES our husbands! I wore black as bridesmaid for my sister...
WE looked elegant and fabulous! And if someone was 'inwardly judging <who knows for what??> well....that's on them imo

I have never worn a pastel colour to a wedding

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Men tend to wear grey or navy at weddings, not black suits. Black suits are generally worn for funerals.

MN is a UK website, so it can hardly be a surprise that people will apply UK cultural norms.

And I also don't wear pastels - pastels aren't the only non-black colour!

I think you've made the right decision OP, good luck in finding something and I hope the wedding is a lovely occasion.

Lots of men wear black to weddings without a raised eyebrow.
And you still haven't said what 'point' you would assume I am making if I wore black to a wedding

They do not. In the UK, men wear navy, great, charcoal, pinstriped, brown or tweed suits to weddings. Black suits, and dresses, are for funerals.

I've posted an outfit I wanted to wear to a wedding on here before asking for shoe and bag recommendations and got a lot of raised eyebrows. It was a great dress and I looked great even if I do say so myself Too much for most of Mumsnet I think as it wasn't a floral or lacy number.

The Coast and Mint Velvet dresses are very very boring and pedestrian and not much of an improvement in what you could pick up in a supermarket.

If you're looking for something actually stylish yours wins op.

No one (who matters) thinks any less of anyone wearing black to a wedding. I'd probably wear that dress with flat pointy hot pink shoes and hair scraped back in a low pony tail.

Thanks to a pp for the Sister Jane recommendation - new to me and I like it!!

OP I absolutely love the dress but as others have said, not for a wedding

More info needed. What country, and what time is wedding? In Italy, weddings usually take place late due to the heat (where we are, anyway) and black evening wear is di rigeur. Not this dress though ….too many ruffles etc.

No, they really don't.

If I were raising an inward eyebrow it would be at a brown or tweed suit at a wedding , not a black suit.

I don't see the slightest problem with a black lounge suit as long as it's not with a black tie.