Is it possible to get that "posh gloss" in ones 40s?

[Explodingatomickittens]

Out of curiosity? And if so what would one need to do?!

What do you mean by posh gloss? Do you mean that glossy hair you see on celebrities, or just a general glow?

In general, I would say it's possible to look posh at any age if you have the time and money.

I agree.
Age has little to do with it.
It's time and money.

Most celebrity women look like clones.

Why do your own thing?

Why not, rather

Why not you mean?
Celebrities aside - I admire stylish older women. But my mother was older when she had me and had a group of v stylish friends I looked up to.
I'm nearing 50 and not giving up.

Fillers, Botox, eat well, exercise, dress impeccably, avoid alcohol, smoking. Get regular facials, nails, hair treatments.

I don't see age as a limiting factor here, it's more about attending to all the little details - hair, nails, makeup - which you can do yourself at home, although a good cut at the hairdressers makes it a lot easier. The small details add up to a good overall impression.

My DM has this. Is slim, talks well, and dresses well. No work done, just looks classy, in a way that with my additional 3 stone don't unfortunately! :) DM is 80 btw, so it's entirely possible at any age.

Of course it is. I hit my 40's and have never looked better and it is actually said to me rather than just some kind of new found inner confidence. I lost weight, I get my nails done every 3 weeks, highlights every 3 months and generally look after myself better. Poor dp gets told all the time that he is punching bless him but yes it is possible. I was in a fug in my 30's and let myself go but I am out of that side of things and plan to flaunt my new found 'looks' as long as possible.

I still reckon the overriding factor isn't injectables or even having perfect nails and hair. It's having a good bed with an excellent mattress and pillows. Which inevitably costs more than a £79 jobbie from Argos.

You can't fake proper, uninterrupted, restorative sleep. But if you are wealthy, it's a lot easier to ensure the physical comfort that makes it more likely.

Just as an aside, not to do with the thread title - I was thinking the exact same thing recently as I came across some videos on youtube showing the (subtle) plastic surgery that many young celebrities have had. I've come to the conclusion that pretty much every woman in hollywood has had something done or tweaked her face in some way, even the ones we think look natural.

These are usually beautiful actresses or singers in their 20's or 30's who were gorgeous to start with, and end up all having the same 'hollywood nose' and bits of filler, chin implants etc. and just end up looking so samey and losing their natural interesting look. I'm guessing that their finished look ends up photographing better or looking better on screen, but it's a bit sad really, that they feel the need to alter their faces like that.

/rant over/

I have very glossy long hair. I don't use chemical hair dye, only natural henna and cassia. No heated hair appliances, apart from gentle use of a hairdryer and I use a glossing shampoo and conditioner. I'm lucky though that it's naturally straight and shiny in the first place. For my face and body I don't drink or smoke, I eat healthy veggie whole foods and I exercise with weights and walking/running every day plus other stuff like open water swimming and paddle sports in my free time. High factor good quality sun block every day since I was 18. I don't spend a fortune on creams and potions (I use Cerave £15 a year for a big container of moisturiser and the same for the gentle hydrating cleanser) but I do use Dermalogica skin resurfacing cleanser about 3 times a week. I have a little smidge of Botox between my eyebrows every 9 months. I'm 50 this year but only a few close friends and family are aware; I easily pass for 40.

@Mumskisail is cassia the same as henna? Trying to find a rich brown I can use in pregnancy !

It's also worth exploring Dermatica, they send prescription skin care each month. Prescription retinol is pretty much the only thing proven to reduce wrinkles (plus lasers, I haven't explored them myself as they're out of my budget). Personally I found it irritated my skin and made it fuller so I stopped, but you can cushion it with the Cerave moisturiser and/or use it every other day so I may give it another go sometime. Vitamin C serum is a brightner and you can use cosmetics for a glow but I feel the less makeup I wear the more glowy and youthful I look.

I use cassia to soften and dilute the henna. My hair is naturally rich red brown but around my hairline it's softer, more blonde-ish. The cassia only lasts about 3 weeks although I only wash my hair 2-3 times a week to reduce stressing it out, and I have more white in my hair now so need to do my roots every 3-4 weeks anyway. My hair colour costs me about £15 a year 😅. I think for darker brown hair you could experiment with other herbal hair colours, such as indigo with henna. On Amazon there's a brand of pre-blended herbal hair colours called Pure, designed for women who've had cancer (as chemical hair dye is associated with cancer). It's worth checking them out. Be aware that hairdressers will slag off herbal colours but I think that's just because they do t understand them and because if you put chemical hair dye on top of herbal hair dye the results will be unpredictable. But I never intend to use chemical dye as it really damages my hair, so that's not a problem.

Prescription retinol made my skin duller not fuller! It's quite sensitive anyway and they say you need to persevere until your skin gets used to it. I don't really believe all the claims of over the counter creams... although I like hyalyronic acid, Superdrug does an own brand version for about £3, I put it on slightly damp skin to seal in the moisture. It gets rave reviews and I think it works for me.

My hair went really glossy after I started eating two eggs for breakfast everyday. Remember to look after yourself on the inside too.

Pure hair colour on Amazon: It's Pure Organics Herbal Hair Colour Dye, Dark Brown, 110g amzn.eu/d/65xegyK

Just that overall gloss & polish that wealthier women seem to have.. Kate & Pippa M being an example. Sort of Sloane Ranger I guess..

What is it on here at the moment with everyone looking for tips on how to ape wealth or avoid the (indrawn breath) 'look of poverty'? Is that what you are actually checking for when you look in the mirror: 'Do I look as if I have indulged in the time- and money-intensive grooming habits of the rich today?'

What exactly is a ''posh gloss'' to you?

Do you want to look like Victoria Beckham or Liz Hurley?

The Princess of Wales?

You would need a lot of money, regular time spent at the gym (preferably with personal trainer), expensive hairdresser, wear make up all the time, expensive designer wardrobe and on and on.

Or you could just have your own style rather want to copy someone else's and pretend to be something and someone you are not...

I disagree. I have glossy hair and glowing glossy skin, a natural, classy look, and I do it on a budget.

It's probably a recession related thing. People are feeling the pinch and nervous of their standard of living taking a nosedive so they seek comfort in appearing outwardly affluent.

@greenfairydust please share your tips!

I look better than I did in my 20s in some ways but I spend a lot more. £300 on hair appointments, Botox £200, every 4 months or so, more make-up. I also keep up with my running habit and have mostly stopped drinking. Unfortunately, I've gained weight as well which makes the jowls worse. Oh well.