Is it possible to get that "posh gloss" in ones 40s?

[Explodingatomickittens]

Out of curiosity? And if so what would one need to do?!

I agree with the idea that it is not about looking younger, just being healthy. As soon as people start to prioritise 'retaining youth' it starts to go wrong. Anyone who starts messing around with botox and fillers runs the risk of ending up looking a bit strange. One of the most gloriously gorgeous women I have ever met had a lot of lines on her face.

I think keeping skin luminous is key. When you get older matt skin is very ageing. Glowy wrinkled skin looks so much better than dry wrinkled skin. Hydrating toners, rich moisturisers, sheer glowy foundation etc. All that kind of stuff makes skin look alive. Double wear and powder on the other hand, less so.

Absolutely.

Keeping healthy and fit makes ageing easier.

It feels amazing to be able to do a headstand in my yoga class, it feels even better when people find out I am 60.

I think that’s part of the posh gloss as well - having the time and money to change your make up, to get advice about how to change your skin care as you age- as well as the products. Money to pay for personal training and time to dedicate to fitness / hair care / skin care etc. it’s all possible on a budget, just easier if you arent on a budget and trying to fit round a job and kids and running a house.

(the old ad about “hands that do dishes can be soft as your face” acknowledged that woman who had to do housework often had dried out hands and stumpy nails - nice hands and long nails were a wealth marker - and natural looking nails still are!)

Being very thin is a crucial part of it, I think. All the glossy 40+ women I know are stick thin but incredibly toned.

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All this and the money to pay for the best people who will know about all the latest treatments to give you. And time to recover if you need it.

I'n not convinced it takes a lot of money.
You don't need a personal trainer. I exercise 5 times a week at my local council gym, monthly membership is £24.
I have had a good skin care regime for a long time, tried many brands, from very expensive to budget.
I have come to realise the products don't have much difference between them
I stick to basic brands.
Time can be hard to find, but I absolutely prioritise sleep and exercise. I have a busy life, but those things come near the top of the pile.

I had an early menopause and most people think I look ten years younger at least. It’s very odd!

What I find with grooming is that it’s all the little things done regularly that add up. I’m always tweaking my routine because I have limited time in the morning (because I can’t get out of bed) and I’m often too tired to do much in the evenings. The consistency is more important that the price of the products. I only have to be too tired to wash my hair for a few days and I look awful.

A bit of (clear) fake tan every few days will make you look slimmer and more toned and reduce the need for makeup. Clean, blow-dried hair makes a big difference and cared-for feet (mine are like hooves if they’re not filed every couple of days!) with red or nude polish.

Buy other people’s expensive cast-offs from Vinted. They wear an expensive dress for a wedding and never wear it again whereas I will wear it as an everyday dress.

I do one hour of Ashtanga most days, which I’m now forced to do because it helps my back but it’s great for posture, balance, flexibility and strength.

No, but it either takes money or time or both.

The posh gloss look takes more effort in your 40s and later, because it is a look that, among other things, tries to fudge the aging process. On top of that, many of us who are not actually rich & posh, may have less free time or cash to put towards it at this point in our lives.

I think it takes priorities.

There are many many things I de-prioritise to give me time to care for myself.
I don't have a huge amount of cash and I am a busy person.
I keep my home clean, but I haven't decorated anywhere in 8 years. I don't iron, I clean my windows every six months.
If it is a gym class or some domestic chore the gym class almost always comes first.

Yes to this. I used to work in a Pilates studio in Fulham. The ladies who attended had amazing posture & were incredibly toned - well into their nineties.

Also they had nice hair & expensive discreet watches.

Yes of course. If you have the time and money.