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Please help me find a wedding dress

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ineedawhitedress · 19/11/2022 18:04

Please can anybody who enjoys/is good at this kind of thing help me find a suitable wedding dress. Budget £500 but would be prepared to go up to £800 for the right thing. I'm a size 10 with defined waist, bust on the large side, but 5ft4in and I feel like everything makes me look short (I don't like wearing big heels so will wear maybe a 1 or 2 inch heel on the day). My preferences are:

  • I definitely need to wear a bra so not backless (could be slightly low in the back and I could wear one of those bra extender things, but backless bra not supportive enough)
  • Ideally with thick enough straps to cover bra straps, could wear a strapless bra and go for spaghetti straps. Don't really like completely strapless dresses/ don't think they suit me
  • I like my arms and like having them out, so probably sleeveless, but open to sleeves, though probably not short/capped ones as I think they make me look short somehow
  • No/minimal train (going for simple city registry office wedding vibes)
  • Column or subtle a-line shape with defined waist
  • ankle to floor length (but I find midi dresses will often be long enough anyway on me!)
  • not tooooo much cleavage
  • I accept I will have to get almost anything rehemmed to make it the right length for me!

These are two dresses that I liked from Coast ( www.coastfashion.com/strappy-slim-column-dress/ACC03146.html www.coastfashion.com/embroidered-sweetheart-neck-maxi-dress/BCC01380.html) , tried them both and they suited but the first just a bit too plain without any overlay dress/skirt (I didn't like the ones on offer and don't plan on wearing a veil or other big accessories which would make it more exciting). The second wasn't very well made and just looked a bit poor quality in person. But the shapes/styles of both were lovely. Does anyone know of anything similar?? Thanks so much!!

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Fortuny · 19/11/2022 22:08

Also curveball, but very chic for a registry. Id try going larger to fit your busy and getting it tailored down in the body to fit like a glove

www.theoutnet.com/en-gb/shop/product/herve-leger/dresses/maxi-dress/ribbed-bandage-maxi-dress/38063312419054152

www.theoutnet.com/en-gb/shop/product/herve-leger/dresses/midi-dress/bandage-midi-dress/1647597282150417

DoThePropeller · 19/11/2022 22:38

This might be a little boring but very elegant and a great shape (although does have short sleeves)

www.net-a-porter.com/en-gb/shop/product/vanessa-cocchiaro/clothing/gowns/the-lady-draped-matte-satin-wrap-gown/30828384629224053

and love this one

www.net-a-porter.com/en-gb/shop/product/vanessa-cocchiaro/clothing/gowns/the-ada-smocked-satin-gown/17957409495092777

actually quite a lot of options if you search based on color/length

ineedawhitedress · 20/11/2022 01:33

Thanks everyone for your suggestions so far, really helpful and lots to think about!

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Rachel123z · 22/11/2022 18:37

@ineedawhitedress

How about this:

www.thandth.com/gowns/aurora-in-ivory

Only £290 they have a gorgeous sequin jacket too.

www.thandth.com/sale/alaracap-ivory-vneck

Also very cute and on sale.

Good luck!

pinkbegonia · 22/11/2022 19:27

Have you looked at OUTNET?

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GelatoQueen · 22/11/2022 20:09

OP - I ended up going to a bridal shop and buying a very plain bridesmaids dress in a gorgeous colour. I had it altered - shortened and a halterneck strap added. I found a strapless bra that fitted under it too. It looked bridal without being over the top ...

I'm small too and stopped every shop from standing me on the box thing to show me the dress as it changed how the dress would look on someone short who wasn't planning to wear huge heels.

Bigslippers · 23/11/2022 00:42

this looks good

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ineedawhitedress · 23/11/2022 01:11

Thanks for all the suggestions, Reformation, net a porter and outnet are all great shouts! Some simple but beautiful dresses! I’ve ordered a few:
www.net-a-porter.com/en-gb/shop/product/halston/clothing/gowns/draped-hammered-satin-gown/36594538430080625
www.thereformation.com/products/annabelle-silk-dress/1311871FDL.html?dwvar_1311871FDL_color=FDL
www.theoutnet.com/en-gb/shop/product/aidan-mattox/dresses/gowns/metallic-woven-gown/1647597287743923

Will update when they’ve arrived and I’ve tried them on…

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ineedawhitedress · 23/11/2022 01:14

GelatoQueen · 22/11/2022 20:09

OP - I ended up going to a bridal shop and buying a very plain bridesmaids dress in a gorgeous colour. I had it altered - shortened and a halterneck strap added. I found a strapless bra that fitted under it too. It looked bridal without being over the top ...

I'm small too and stopped every shop from standing me on the box thing to show me the dress as it changed how the dress would look on someone short who wasn't planning to wear huge heels.

Your solution sounds lovely and I think I might start down that path if nothing I’ve ordered works out.

I was just saying the other day how that box they get you to stand on is such a con! The dress will never look like that! (especially when you’re a short woman who won’t wear high heels walking down the aisle of a registry office not an abbey)

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mariaclark · 03/12/2022 21:37

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Jellycats4life · 03/12/2022 21:43

Have you thought about something tea length/1950s style? That would fit the city wedding vibe, and good for fitted waists and boobs.

Sometimes 50s dresses can look a bit costume-y but they don’t have to. If you Google “tea length wedding dress” there are some elegant options.

pasha86 · 03/12/2022 21:51

www.thandth.com/gowns/aurora-in-ivory

This is simply stunning x

pasha86 · 03/12/2022 21:52

www.thandth.com/gowns/camilla-in-ivory

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ineedawhitedress · 06/03/2023 08:37

Just to update, I ended up choosing this one from Rixo rixolondon.com/products/ana-satin-back-silk-crepe

Would recommend them for modern, stylish dresses and a compromise between high street and bridal boutique. Only disappointment was very limited sizes in stock, even online!

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blitzen · 06/03/2023 22:52

Lovely! Have a great wedding x

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