My hair used to be my pride and joy and now it's the bane of my life. I feel like I'm wearing a mop. I've had to stop straightening it as it's clearly damaged. I could accept the wave (just about) if it didn't just look like a frizz ball. I'd appreciate suggestions for suitable products (high end okay), but please don't suggest curly girl. I don't like it, I've tried it before and it doesn't work for me.