First date … bar, classy but sexy

[AuntSalli]

I’ve had a quick look through all the usual suspects, next, warehouse etc I don’t want to go on the one hand looking like his mother he is a bit younger than me and on the other hand I don’t want to like an old slapper either.

i’ve probably got 99% of what’s about to be suggested sat in my wardrobe I just need to get out can anybody give me some ideas for an outfit ?

I also feel the cold a lot so I’m conscious I don’t want to be dressed like I’m in Santorini in a typical UK town Centre

I’m absolutely going for a wash and blow dry and a trim before hand.

i’ll have a quick look at Zara but yeah I think I’ve got most of this stuff in my wardrobe I’m just gonna have to try all on and not eat on Friday 🤣
he’s 27 but he doesn’t look baby faced if that makes sense. I suppose I’m just really conscious because I just hear the word 20 😭😭

You don't need to be overdressed to flatter your shape and colouring. I have a charcoal grey
dress that's the plainest garment you could ever see. Long sleeves, high neck, midi length. On the hanger it looks like something a nun would wear. But put it on, it fits like a glove, and unfashionable as it might be, I feel like Jessica Rabbit in it!😊
I agree how you feel is important. But if your clothes make you look good, you almost always feel better and more confident.

I think the black dress looks too like work wear, or something you would wear to a funeral.

Im sure you’re gorgeous! Get the boots, but a different dress.

Something like this maybe?

I am 46 and have worn heels probably less than 50 times in my life (weddings and funerals basically). I wouldn't dream of wearing them on a night out, suppose you want to dancing ?

I think heels look very 80's to me.

Of course they do. I was out in a major city last weekend (not London) and there were loads of women in heels. The only ones in trainers were the very young teenagers and students, and the occasional older women out for the theatre/resturant. The going 'out out' places were full of women in heels. Obviously it depends on location and venue, but heels are very much still a thing.

@DoingJustFine

nope

trainers all the way

that and wide leg jeans and cargo pants paired with a cropped vest or cropped sweater

The boots have been ordered, the blowdry is booked in and the nails are getting done.

Thank you everyone i’ll try not to declare my undying love for him on the first date or accidentally sleep with him and report back as to how it went if anybody is interested.

I'd wear high waisted jeans, a crop top and trainers but I have zero style.

Yes it does. It's not my thing but it wouldn't look remotely out of place in an office.

I saw loads of young women in Edinburgh on Saturday night wearing high heels.

I particularly noticed from another thread proclaiming that no one wears high heels.

Of course women still wear heels! Nothing else elongates the legs or narrows the waist like heels. I wear wedges in summer with a maxi dress, and heeled boots with jeans in winter.

I don't believe for a millisecond that the glamorous bars in town are full of women in trainers.

This!! Just concentrate on your hair and make up and general grooming, and everything else will fall into place.

Most straight men don't care about latest fashion they care whether it shows off your figure to the best advantage. Heels make legs look sexier.
Loose dresses and midis are something women like and feel comfortable in but blokes probably want to see a woman in something fitted and short. Trainers may be cool but they aren't sexy.

I do think most younger men wouldn’t expect heels or like them v much... trainers/chunky boots v much the norm to wear here (Bristol). I do think the area you live in makes a big difference though. You’d look so overdone turning up in heels here but in general it’s quite a dressed down/casual place. Maybe London is different.

I find it fascinating that apparently young men care so much what women wear on their feet. Do they even notice?

I must admit that I find the MN consensus about what is in fashion is very different to what people actually wear. According to MN no-one wears skinny jeans. Where I live and where I work most people do still wear them.

@RampantIvy i find it fascinating that you think a man wouldn’t notice if you were wearing skull patterned Doc Martens, mud covered trainers, or fluffy slippers to a cocktail bar.

So he likely won’t sit there admiring the shoes for hours but they’re part of the complete outfit that OP wants advice on so why wouldn’t we discuss them? 🙄

@RampantIvy

loads of blokes are into clothes and fashion you know

TBH I don't know any who are into clothes and fashion. DH just wears jeans and T-shirts, and wears them until they fall into rags, and none of DD's boyfriends or male friends appeared to be into clothes or fashion either, so what do I know.

And DH never notices what I am wearing on my feet.

Well, that’s you and your family isn’t it? Not OP or her date. It isn’t at all unusual or somehow vacuous to want to make an effort with how you look on a first date.

No need to sound so snippy. I never said it was vacuous so please don't put words into my mouth. I just said that I didn't know that young men were as interested in what women wear on their feet.

Goodness me.

sorry but I’m just tired of these totally pointless replies, which seem to be popping up on every thread at the moment.

Why do we need to dress in uncomfortable clothes rather than wearing clothes we are comfortable and happy in? Any man worth his salt would surely prefer you to be ‘you’ rather than looking like some sort of trussed up chicken.

Maybe me is a trussed up chicken 🐓