First date … bar, classy but sexy

[AuntSalli]

I’ve had a quick look through all the usual suspects, next, warehouse etc I don’t want to go on the one hand looking like his mother he is a bit younger than me and on the other hand I don’t want to like an old slapper either.

i’ve probably got 99% of what’s about to be suggested sat in my wardrobe I just need to get out can anybody give me some ideas for an outfit ?

I also feel the cold a lot so I’m conscious I don’t want to be dressed like I’m in Santorini in a typical UK town Centre

I would never wear heals or a short dress on a first date, but I guess it depends on the place.

This time of year I would probably go for straight leg dark jeans or high waisted wide led trousers, ankle boats and a silk blouse.

However I'm in my 30s. 20 somethings may have different ideas!

I’d wear a dressy shirt, tucked into jeans (probably black) with the top buttons undone (or some other sexy-ish top, could be tight) and layered gold chains, then with an oversized cardigan to tone down the top and insert more casualness, and ankle boots

Black flared trousers, satin shirt, wool coat, gold jewellery.

I'm absolutely certain that attractive but 'dated' fashion will not put an otherwise keen guy off. I wouldn't wear trainers to a bar, especially for a first date.

What gets likes on MN demographic insta is not going to rouse the passions of a thirty year old guy.

I do have all of the trousers suggestions I suppose my concern is because I am feeling quite fat frankly, the legs are the best feature so I feel like they need to come out even if they are heavily clad in tights.

How old are you OP?

37 😬

When people say ‘jeans and heels’, what sort of heels do they mean?

If your legs are your thing then a short A-line dress with long boots? Maybe a lower back and long sleeves?

Hmm …

the legs are the best feature so I feel like they need to come out

?

I’m out …

P.S.

Right

😬 I don’t have to explain the joke, do I?!

Skinny jeans, leggings, cami tops, blazers (unless the over sized style), heels etc will deffo not be up his street if he’s under 30

I want to say yes but then equally I think that if you need to explain a joke I’m probably not gonna find it funny

Seriously concerned that that his what his mum would wear.

I know I’m 10 years older than him But I fair I’m only probably 10 years younger than her, 15 tops.

My legs are my worst feature, so I’m out because I can’t advise.

The green face is pure envy at your nice legs.

And it was a play on the earlier ‘I’m out’ post.

@StupidSmallFruit ahhh

I wouldn't worry about trying to look too young as it will just come across as fake and too try hard. I would just wear something that makes you feel good and confident.. wear the heels of you want to and wear the skinny's if you want to!
I would wear the leather look leggings and a flattering top and i would wear heels because they make me feel good when I go out and if your legs are your best feature then show them off. Have fun!

@AuntSalli I'm thinking the short black dress you posted earlier with your long coat is a good choice.

What do you normally like to wear? Do you go casual or glam? Do you just wear black or are you colourful?

You’re 37…

I’m not going to police people’s language but you really don’t need to call yourself an ‘old tart’, an ‘old slapper
or compare yourself to his mum. If any of this self loathing comes out on your date it’s going to be an immediate turn off or a green light to take the piss because he realises you are dazzled by his age. You are young. I am in my late twenties, I have friends in their late thirties. I don’t see them as any ‘different to me’. Do you think men are going on dates with women 10 years younger and frantically worried about being an old codger and being like her dad?

Back to s and b.
You are 37. You can wear absolutely anything you want.

if I was you I’d wear a nice dress (the black m and s one is nice but I would say something with a stronger print if it was my own choice), tights and a pair of boots. For a print dress I would choose leopard print or a marble/abstract print. Not the red ditsy one you linked. Looks far too summery

I would wear cropped black jeans, sparkly trainers and a silky top.

Thank you. I suppose I just do feel a bit rabbit in the headlights with the whole thing, we met at work I was not his direct manager but I was a manager he doesn’t work there now and neither do I.

I just want him to be proud to be out with me which there’s no reason why he wouldn’t be that’s what I have to keep reminding myself he asked me out 😬

www.tedbaker.com/uk/p/Womens/Clothing/Tops/BERNOT-Ladder-Trim-Insert-High-Neck-Blouse-Navy/263747-NAVY

Something like this

Just wear what you feel comfortable in, dressing out of the comfort of your own style is going to make you feel really uncomfortable and nervous.