Help! Have to wear heels again on Sat, Tried them this morning...

[LookItsMeAgain]

...and already my feet are in bits!!!

Throughout lockdown I have been wearing trainers as I've been working from home.

Knowing that I have to wear heels for an event I'm attending on Saturday, I decided to wear a pair this morning around the house. I got up at 7am and by 7:30 the balls of my feet are aching already.

I went out looking for suitable alternatives (i.e. low heels/kitten heels) at the weekend and was unsuccessful. I don't think getting stuff delivered at this point is an option (in case of delays with postage/customs/whatever) so I'd need an actual shop if I was to try something.

Failing that, do you have any suggestions/remedies that help when your feet are just killing you in heels???

No one said that women “should” do that, it was a suggestion from a pp to the op who wants to wear heels.
I don’t know why people have to get in such a tizz about others wearing heels. I hardly ever wear them anymore as I like to be comfy but I would wear them for an event and did wear them a lot when I was younger. If others want to then so what?

My tizz was more the assumption that the way to solve the issue is to take painkillers and get drunk. That is not a solution. Shoes that don't hurt are the solution.

Also I'm sure we use to rub white spirit on feet to harden them - may help with blisters but not the ball ache

If we want to, then we can. Even if they hurt. So judgy.

Love how an innocent thread about high heels has turned into a feminist debate 😂- not that I disagree with some of the comments about high heels being made for the male gaze and often torturous to wear however if we go strictly by that rule why not just go around wearing a sack?

Some women (myself included) enjoy getting dressed up in a lovely frock and yes, heels, and just getting a bit glammed up in general. The competitive under dressing and mad statements like "high heels are ridiculously unfashionable" are just silly.

Take the dress up and wear some tiny heels

Love how an innocent thread about high heels has turned into a feminist debate 😂- not that I disagree with some of the comments about high heels being made for the male gaze and often torturous to wear however if we go strictly by that rule why not just go around wearing a sack?

Because sacks aren't very comfortable? Because it's perfectly possible to wear nice, clothes that aren't uncomfortable? I can't imagine why anyone would think that the obvious alternative to 'torturous and male-gaze-pleasing' had to be something horrible and shapeless.

Of course heels are a feminist issue. They are one of the most obvious everyday things designed to emphasise women's purpose as decoration and titillation rather than as fully functioning, practically capable people.

But why does this thread have to turn into a feminist thread? It’s style and beauty where women discuss clothes etc, I feel bad for the
Op who asked a simple question and got all this

@Teddybearen

But why does this thread have to turn into a feminist thread? It’s style and beauty where women discuss clothes etc, I feel bad for the Op who asked a simple question and got all this

Because wearing something that causes you pain is wrong. So it's worth unpackaging why someone thinks they should put themselves through it.

And even in the opening post, OP said she was looking for comfier options. But some posters still want to promote the type of shoe that OP currently finds painful. That is obviously unkind, so again worth looking at why

I don’t necessarily disagree, I just think the op should be allowed to ask for advice on how to wear heels without being told not to, because it’s ridiculous, a feminist issue etc. I assume she’s capable of deciding herself what she wants to wear anf she’s explained it several times, so it all feels a bit preachy

I'd find out if there's an alteration tailor where you live and get them to take the hem up the dress rather than put myself through that.

I clicked on that Amazon link earlier and now those Clarks monstrosities and similar ones are following me around the bastard site while I try to buy other things

I think you can wear cheap shoes fashionably but not comfortably, or comfortable shoes that are fashionable, but it's extremely difficult to get comfortable, fashionable and affordable at the same time.

I find stiletto heels uncomfortable,but find I can wear block heels for longer periods of time might be worth a try.

Ffs no ever HAS to wear heels, get a backbone and wear flats, honestly what kind of baby are you

@Bertiebiscuit

Ffs no ever HAS to wear heels, get a backbone and wear flats, honestly what kind of baby are you

So very rude

So so rude. What is wrong with people? Can't we support each other to wear whatever we want?

Of course heels are a feminist issue. They are one of the most obvious everyday things designed to emphasise women's purpose as decoration and titillation rather than as fully functioning, practically capable people.

Sometimes I like looking nice for the benefit of the male gaze. Sometimes I don’t want to look like I’m practical and capable but want to look attractive.

Isn’t feminism about giving women the choice, rather than berating them for making different choices than you?

There’s a great company that are now online, they used to be in Debenhams. It’s called “good for the sole” and they sell heels that are very comfy 👠

You don't need heels you need a hem on your frock

@LookItsMeAgain I’m in same situation! I’ve ordered a couple of pairs of scholl silicone inserts from Amazon and will stick them in the shoes I end up with. I have a wardrobe full of really good quality heels and now struggle to wear any of them. I would suggest getting a pair slightly wide or wear them with socks for a couple of hours in the house first and just practice walking around in them. Paradox are sold in bridal shops and there is a good choice so might be worth popping to your local bridal store.

Take them to a shoe shop or to Timpson's or Scholl shop (Or Irish equivalents) and ask about insoles, gel pads, heel pads etc.

Also did you wear them with tights? In my days of heels I couldn't wear them with bare feet because I'd end up with feet in ribbons.

Sorry I forgot to put the important bit, try the shoes with the various pads / insoles.

If you do take spare shoes with you don't worry about having a rucksack, anywhere posh enough for an evening gown will have a cloakroom for you to leave the shoes while you use your dainty bag.

@THEDEACON

You don't need heels you need a hem on your frock

This is what I would do. Go to an alterations place and just chop the frock. Last time I wore high heels ( and not that high) was at a wedding 9 years ago. My feet hurt, ended up blistered and I just hobbled the whole night.

One tip I had from a dancer was to rub ibuprofen gel onto the soles of your feet. Numbs the pain