Sexy date outfit

[Eesha]

I'm looking for ideas for a sexy outfit for a date with my partner. He absolutely goes mad for heels and a woman dressed up to the nines. I've tended to dress well, more feminine ditsy rather than sexy but with ankle boots for comfort. I would like to surprise him with something different and sexy. I'm a curvy hourglass size 14/16.

Any ideas would be great, here's an item I thought might work with a softer top and heels. I haven't worn heels in ages either.

www.lovehoney.co.uk/sexy-lingerie/sexy-plus-size-18/clubwear-dresses/p/lovehoney-plus-size-fierce-black-leather-look-skirt/a41286g75196.html

@TedMullins

Bloody hell some people have led sheltered lives! I don’t personally like the skirt but it’s hardly worthy of doing a double take if you saw someone wearing it in public. It’s not like it has a transparent panel over the crotch! I’ve seen much worse on nights out, I don’t think it would look out of place in a bar or club. Having said that I probably wouldn’t peg it (no pun intended) as fancy restaurant wear

It's the first time I've ever been accused of living a sheltered life...thanks @TedMullins, that's given me a great chuckle! 🤣

I think what I was saying was exactly what you went on to say, actually, I wouldn't think anything of it if I saw that skirt in a club, I would be surprised to see it in a restaurant or the cinema.

People are trying to save you embarrassment.

Yes, that is why they have told the OP that she will look ‘vulgar’ and ‘like a cheap whore’.Or ‘awful’ (that was you). It’s all kind and well-meant concern, to save her embarrassment.

Blimey people, there's a way of saying you don't like it, rather than being so vicious! I wasn't intending on buying it right now, just wondered if there was a way of wearing it somehow but toning it down. No need to insinuate I'm dressing like a prostitute.

@Eesha

Blimey people, there's a way of saying you don't like it, rather than being so vicious! I wasn't intending on buying it right now, just wondered if there was a way of wearing it somehow but toning it down. No need to insinuate I'm dressing like a prostitute.

Take it with a pinch of salt, my friend.

People are mightily bold when sitting at their keyboard and say things they don't mean and would never say to someone's face.
They know full well that it's bloody rude.

Some people just like to be contrary.

OP, most people who post on here are worlds away from wearing anything remotely like the skirt you like. It’s the wrong forum really to get a thumbs up for it. I would wear it, but only if the back split was not up to my bum area. This one perhaps, you could wear it with a corset style top.

www.asos.com/asos-design/asos-design-leather-look-midi-skirt-in-black/prd/21621824

The thing is, OP, if you had said, “I am thinking of wearing a beige linen tent with orthopaedic sandals on a sexy date with my husband but he prefers me to be dressed up to the nines in sexy clothes and heels”, you’d have a chorus of approval saying, “who cares what he thinks, as long as you are comfortable in what you are wearing etc etc”.

Because you have picked out a pretty saucy skirt, however, you have betrayed the code of womanhood and thus must be punished. Why, why won’t you wear a ‘nice dress’ instead? Don’t take it personally. Look at some of the threads (usually in AIBU but some on this board I think) gleefully forecasting the demise of high heeled shoes. We are told that they make the wearer look ‘ridiculous’ and ‘stupid’ and that anyone wearing them ‘totters around’. It’s because you’re not supposed to like clothes that men might also like.

@MrsBerthaRochester

I was expecting something up to the crotch going by the nasty replies. There is nothing wrong with that skirt! yes its overtly sexy but thats what op is looking for. I think it would look good with a blouse or wrap top op. Ignore the snide comments. You have to remember frumpy Boden is beloved on here(shudder)

I totally agree with this - it's quite a long skirt, what's the issue?! It's got rock chick vibes, I think. The only thing is that I think the split up the back might be a little high for comfort for going out and about, but it's hard to say without trying it on. I don't know why everyone is being so vile to the OP!

Zara also do nice faux-leather skirts OP. Although they're a lot shorter than that one!

Another option, OP, might be faux-leather leggings with a slinky top and heels. I find the leggings really comfortable and they look great on.

This review says it all

My slaves enjoy this one a lot especially when you bend over

That “skirt” is awful, sorry.

Pretty uncomfortable with the whole idea of a woman dressing in “sexy” clothes that she wouldn’t choose herself to please her man altogether, tbh.

Where does the OP say that she is considering the skirt under protest, to please her husband? Don’t let’s create an ‘oppressed woman’ backstory. I bet the OP is wishing that she hadn’t asked!

Lovehoney say that the skirt is for the bedroom and the boardroom!
Just imagining turning up for our charity board meeting here in the care sector wearing that! A couple of the older members of the board would probably have heart attacks. Actually you could wear it out with a black sweater and thick tights, but that would not be a sexy look.
I think a leather skirt of slightly less outrageous design coupled with a black lace top would look very sexy and quite close to the edge for public wear.

Iamthewombat

Where does the OP say that she is considering the skirt under protest, to please her husband? Don’t let’s create an ‘oppressed woman’ backstory. I bet the OP is wishing that she hadn’t asked!“

Didn’t suggest it was under protest. Just think feeling you need to change what you would usually choose to wear to please someone else is a bit odd.

OP said in her first post it’s not her usual style and that her partner “goes mad” for women in tight skirts and high heels.

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@MrsSkylerWhite

That “skirt” is awful, sorry.

Pretty uncomfortable with the whole idea of a woman dressing in “sexy” clothes that she wouldn’t choose herself to please her man altogether, tbh.

Jesus some of the comments on this thread!

What’s wrong with dressing to please your partner sometimes? If you’re comfortable with it and you know he’d like it, why not? My husband knows I like how he looks in certain things and will wear them on date nights as he knows I like it. No different.

ShirleyPhallus

MrsSkylerWhite
That “skirt” is awful, sorry.

Pretty uncomfortable with the whole idea of a woman dressing in “sexy” clothes that she wouldn’t choose herself to please her man altogether, tbh.
Jesus some of the comments on this thread! shock

What’s wrong with dressing to please your partner sometimes? If you’re comfortable with it and you know he’d like it, why not? My husband knows I like how he looks in certain things and will wear them on date nights as he knows I like it. No different.

Ok. Each to their own.

The skirt you've posted to - sorry wearing it to anything but a burlesque bar, sex club etc - those two places are the only two places I'd wear it out.

Certainly not a normal bar or restaurant.

I do think the comments here are a bit OTT, no need to be quite so rude.

My husband knows I like how he looks in certain things and will wear them on date nights as he knows I like it. No different

Well if you ask him to dress in an overtly sexy way, what would that be for a man? 🤔 Huge difference between a jumper, shirt you like and something so OTT.

There's sexy dressing and looking tacky. This skirt is definitely in the latter camp. It's an item of clothing designed for the bedroom, not a restaurant.

Why do so many (usually men) assume sexy dressing has to mean skin tight hooker clothes? It's such a dated look. Wear some sensual fabrics like silk, (real) leather or some lace. Show a little skin if you want. But leave skirts like this to the pros.

Exactly, no need to be so rude. My usual style is softer, bohemian sexy type, ankle boots outside but super sexy in the bedroom. I wanted to have a sharper look for one date, just look a bit different for once. My partner loves me as I am but loves heels so I thought I would try that look out. Those who gave alternative suggestions are much appreciated, those who simply slated me less so.

Depends where the date is-restaurant? What kind?

I wouldn’t wear that skirt because everyone who knows, would know it’s off live honey, and I wouldn’t wear heels if I wanted to enjoy the dinner too.

I’d go modest sexy, with the promise of something a lot more when we’re back at home, then put on the skirt and the sky high heels.

@Mercurial123

My husband knows I like how he looks in certain things and will wear them on date nights as he knows I like it. No different

Well if you ask him to dress in an overtly sexy way, what would that be for a man? 🤔 Huge difference between a jumper, shirt you like and something so OTT.

Well, for instance, he’s ex-forces and will sometimes wear his old military stuff in the bedroom for me, cos I like it. I wouldn’t ask him to wear it out cos he’d look like one of the cast of Magic Mike but likewise, I wouldn’t wear suspenders and nipple tassels to a restaurant, but I certainly would wear a “sexy” outfit out if I knew that got him going.

(Not saying I’d wear that skirt mind, but I think it’s nice to sometimes dress in a way that gets your partner going)

OP: "My husband likes really sexy clothes like tight skirts and heels."
MN: "Well I don't think that's sexy - wear a floaty silk burkha and some vejas."

Personally I think it's fine for eating out as long as you wear black opaque tights - and in my (creative/media style) job probably would get away with wearing it to work. I've certainly seen more revealing outfits in the office.

Also lay off the nasty dated misogyny. I've lived in a red light district and sex workers generally wear trainers (so they can run), jeans (to keep warm) and anoraks (lots of pockets).

I'm an escort and I wouldn't wear that skirt inside the bedroom, let alone to a restaurant! But, to each their own and all that.

OP, if you like wearing heels, wear some with whatever you usually love to wear - maybe even look on Pinterest for 'sexy boho' for ideas. Also, as a PP mentioned, think about textures and showing a little skin. Ultimately though, confidence is sexy, so whatever you choose to wear, you need to feel great in it.

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