Cutting long hair short after separation from DH

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My hair is very long and it's been that way for over twenty years. I wear it in braid pinned up most of the time or down curled for special occasions. I dye it (though starting to lighten it to mix with grey)

Anyway, had a horrible time with DH. Split as found out about his affair. Things may resolve
I'm too hurt and angry at the moment.

And I have an overwhelming urge to cut my hair very short. Just feeling it around my face makes me irritated and I almost want to grab scissors and hack it off.

DH loves my long hair, but I did too.

But now I am longing for pixie style crop.

So should I follow my instinct or resist?

Instinct.

However, a pixie cut is very short and needs maintenance. How about a shoulder length Bob for now, just till you get used to shorter hair?

I’d hold off a while op, don’t do it in anger, you may regret it.

Well, how about a total change of style (with hair long, you have every option) but hold off on the pixie cut

You could go just past shoulder length with french bangs!

Ps, I think highlights and layers is more the way to go. Right now.

Many hairdressers won't cut hair so drastically in one appointment but do it gradually. Maybe that is the answer, you could try lots of styles as your hair gets shorter and have fun experimenting

Long hair is easy to just tie up etc but shorter hair can't always be so has to be styled etc. I would think about it for a while as shorter hair can he high maintenance

It's common to want to make a drastic change to yourself after divorce. Hair grows back. It'll be grand. I cut my hair from long up to a bob. Easier to manage than a pixie cut.
Just don't do anything permanent like a tattoo until you are in a better place. My friend got a tattoo when her marriage ended and now it just reminds her of her divorce.

I'm sorry to hear about your break-up.

Do get a new style, but don't make such a big decision rashly.

Try a short but not short style first. Base your decision on what you want, rather than an emotional reaction to your tough. situation.

Hair grows. It's a great idea, imo. Do something for you, and only you.

I got a tattoo after splitting from the ex, and loved it for a long time, but now I'm indifferent. It's fine, I don't mind having it, but I won't get another.

For some reason I can't break out of my hairstyle rut, I have longish hair that I always wear up, but can't convince myself I could pull off a short style. So I'm encouraging you because I'd quite like to try it myself!

Hair grows! Slower with age, it's true, but it will grow back (just in case you go pixie and you're not mad about it). But I have to say, I've cut my own pixie haircuts over the years (from long hair down to my mid-back to a pixie cut in one go... go big or go home! ). I've loved it every time. They're a bit of a pain to maintain but the change can be so liberating. I looooove a pixie cut. I've got my mid-back length hair going on right now and I am also mid-divorce. I stopped myself from shaving my head last week (glad I didn't go through with it).
My last pixie cut was at 40, 9 years ago. It did take forever to grow back. But I really loved it. I don't have the face for it now, unfortunately. Being married to a bastard has really aged me.

Here's my final bit of advice: go large, go pixie... and stop calling your husband 'D'H (he's not that, is he?).

Have you tried it out on a style app? Depends on your face shape?

I agree with going for a style that's a bit longer for now. I got mine chopped recently but it's layered.

Make sure you're not just doing it to get at ex. And keep him as an ex.

Yes you are right... not dear H now.

More like Vile H, lying H, Stupid H,

I'm going to book an appointment and I do want a drastic change. I want to feel lighter. Bit I will be guided by stylist if it won't suit me etc. Good idea to maybe go up in stages. Although that might not feel as cathertic..

I am amazed at the instinct and craving to cut hair off!

Tattoo...now that is an idea. Never had one!

I cut mine.
It's back to its former length now and I enjoy knowing that it's all new - ie grown since I got rid of him.

I’ve shaved my hair off a few times, I love the feeling of a new start. Just do what you feel like, it’ll grow back.

Do what you want. It’ll feel liberating. And what is it with hairdressers not allowing you to cut your hair short, it’s your hair! Good luck.

I have done this a few times following hurtful splits and the death of my dad. Obviously a psychological thing but no idea what. Last time was 3 years ago and being post menopause it hasn't really grown much longer.

I was effectively bald this time last year, (thanks chemo) it is growing back and grew back very fast to start with has now slowed right down and I am desperate for it to be shoulder length again. I went grey and I am very lucky it is a stunning shade of grey but I would prefer more of it.

So in essence I agree with the other posters who say go up in stages.

Go to an expensive stylist, show them photos of what you like and ask for advice!

@AllTheSunshine

I cut mine. It's back to its former length now and I enjoy knowing that it's all new - ie grown since I got rid of him.

I like that thought!

I went from bra strap length to chin in the first sitting, my hairdresser was really cautious (I've been seeing her for years) but was happy to chop super short 6 weeks later when I told her I had no regrets.

it is NOT a great idea.
Whilst hair does grown back it takes fucking forever.
Just hold tight, ride the storm, fight the urge to self destruct.

Resist. Pixie is a nightmare to maintain, maybe go for a nice sharp cut just above the shoulders

Totally disagree with those saying pixie is difficult to maintain. The shorter the better. If it will suit you, go for it.

Cut off the husband not the hair

I dyed my hair blonde post split my ex HATES blonde hair I wanted to not have him look at me lustfully again he made his next girl dye her hair dark brown and he is with a brunette currently

I just wanted him to look elsewhere