December wedding. Help.

[Atla]

I'm losing the will to live. Going to wedding of an old friend in early December, reception at a city centre gallery space (UK). Brides family is very well to do, groom's side more laid back (ageing hipsters, lots of teachers and creative industries).

I have no idea what to wear. I'm 43, 5ft 8, size (generous) 14 -16, big boobs. I'm going on my own and there will be people there I've not seen in 10 years. Feel really self-conscious as I've gone up 2 dress sizes in that time.

Normally I dress very casually - was always a bit 'alternative' in my youth. Have been trawling online for weeks and found nothing. Styles either seem to look to young, or something my mum would wear. I don't mind spending up to £200 for an outfit if it's something I'll wear again.

Was thinking some sort of wrap/midi dress and boots? Don't want sleeveless or high neck. Or wide leg trousers and a nice top? But then what shoes?

Clueless. Feel like I've totally lost my way since having DD (she's 5!!) I don't even know what I like any more.

The Nancy Mac dresses and jumpsuits always look gorgeous to me, in jewel colours perfect for a December wedding

Just had a quick look - they do have some nice styles, bit expensive, although I could stretch for something really special.

Think I might look like tinkywinky in a jumpsuit though.

This is lovely and would be great with silver shoes etc
www.hobbs.com/product/isabella-spot-pleated-midi-dress/0220-5558-9022L02-KINGFISHER.html#isSecondPage=false&start=59&sz=60&is=false&imageType=model&cgid=clothing-dresses&pid=0220-5558-9022L02-KINGFISHER&pos=109

I like the colour of that one @DGFB but I don't think the neckline would suit me. Thanks for looking though.

www.coastfashion.com/pleat-skirt-lace-midi-dress/ACC95379.html

www.coastfashion.com/premium-silk-blend-v-neck-midi-dress-/ACC02774.html

Something from Coast?

I’m going to a very, very similar wedding (not December though!) and I’ve gone for the attached.

I’m 5ft 9, also a 14-16 and have put on weight since my friends last saw me (baby weight) and it’s really flattering. I bought both sizes and the 14 fits really nicely. I have big boobs, a mum tum but good legs and this looks really good I .

I’m planning on wearing it with heeled ankle boots and probably a camel coat or leather jacket, haven’t quite decided!

www.hobbs.com/product/uma-jersey-dress/0220-5724-9845L00-POPPY-RED.html#navAjax=true&imageType=model&is=false&sz=60&start=59&cgid=clothing-dresses&isSecondPage=false&pid=0220-5724-9845L00-POPPY-RED&pos=87

www.wallis.co.uk/teal-animal-tie-dye-twist-front-dress/AYY10897.html

www.silkfred.com/womens/clothing/dresses/long-sleeve-dresses/gini-london/animal-printed-long-sleeve-midi-wrap-dress-in-khaki

This is cute www.toa.st/collections/womens-dresses/products/sprig-print-easy-dress-amber

@MaverickDanger that's nice, I like the twist at the front. How short is it on you? I could wear with tights and boots I guess...

@Thecurtainsofdestiny not keen on either of those coast ones I'm afraid - just not very me. Thanks for looking.

@MsSquiz I like the silkfred one but I think it might be a bit too casual for this wedding. I don't mind the Wallis one either, but not sure about the length.

God, I'm a nightmare - so hard to please!!

I do like some of the Nancy Mac dresses and the navy velvet jumpsuit, but I'm wavering because of the price - I have to factor in shoes and some sort of spanx type underwear as well!

www.joebrowns.co.uk have some nice winter dresses

Or this?

www.ghost.co.uk/greta-dress1-d02g054-d13

Coast quality is awful now they are owned by ASOS.
This is a lovely dress but they only have green in your size. Could look great with gold or silver www.tedbaker.com/uk/Womens/Clothing/Dresses/HARIIET-Raglan-sleeve-tea-midi-dress-Khaki/p/243831-KHAKI

Thanks @CoffeeBeansGalore I'll have a look. I find looking online so hard - really prefer to try things on.

@Atla you could dress it up with heels and jewellery?

I reckon im the same size as you, but a lot shorter at 5'1" so I wasn't sure with the length of the Wallis one either

This one looks a bit dressier than the first silk Fred one?

www.silkfred.com/womens/clothing/dresses/jenerique/wrap-midi-dress-in-green-leopard-print

Also, not sure your thoughts on leopard print, but I wore this dress (different colour and pattern) for my daughter's christening and got loads of compliments. It was so flattering

www.silkfred.com/womens/clothing/dresses/day-dresses/jolie-moi/jolie-moi-knot-front-hanky-hem-dress-pink-animal

I wouldn't go for the ghost dress - not keen on the colour and I think linen would get too creased. I quite like the ted baker dress, but that type of high neckline just wouldn't suit me. I think I want darker, jewel type colour too.

@MsSquiz I really like the leopard print dresses! Is leopard print ok for a wedding? Think I prefer the second one...

@Atla I really like the leopard print, and it would go with nude or black shoes.
They have other prints in the same dress too.

The dress itself I found so comfortable and flattering.
I'm only 5'1" and had the start of a baby bump, but this was the version I wore

That green leopard print dress is fabulous- I've just ordered it for myself 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣

That looks lovely on you I'm going to have a proper look later on and check out all the prints ( we do look a similar size!)

It’s about two inches above my knee. I think it could work well with tights, I’m taking some with me in case it’s really cold.

I’m the same age, height and a 12/14 - I would wear a number of the dresses in silkFred, there’s a wedding guest section:

www.silkfred.com/collection/wedding-guest-dresses

I like these from silk Fred!

And the jagger dress is flattering! I'm a comfortable size 14 these days and love it

Some of those SilkFred dresses are lovely - this is quite wow
www.silkfred.com/womens/clothing/dresses/day-dresses/jolie-moi/jolie-moi-pauline-sleeved-maxi-dress-pink-abstract

www.theoutnet.com/en-gb/shop/product/michael-michael-kors/dresses/mother-of-the-bride/ruffled-polka-dot-crepe-de-chine-midi-wrap-dress/6630340698777314?tp=175320&utm_source=partnerize&utm_medium=affiliation&utm_campaign=eu_laurenlyst