Once you've worn a dress for a funeral is it ruined?

[PackedintheUK]

I wore this Whistles dress for DH's funeral. I got a lot of compliments, which was a bit weird in the circumstances, but it's a good dress on me.

I bought it for work really, but happened to have it unworn when I needed a dark dress so that's what I wore. I haven't worn it for any occasion since.

I'm in need of a smart ish outfit for a nice dinner and concert this weekend. I also need comfy shoes. I was thinking of this with navy suede knee high boots, but especially with the funeral connection, it feels a bit dismal. What could I do to brighten it up (that I can get hold of by Saturday)?!

So sorry to hear you lost your dh.

I have to ask , do you actually want to wear the dress?

I wore the same navy blue dress to a funeral, my graduation, a wedding and a party.
But it wasn't my DH's funeral, and I think what matters is your feeling about the dress.

I like the dress. I was very pleased with it when I bought it, before it became the funeral dress.

So yes, maybe or maybe not for this occasion, but I would like to be able to wear it.

Sorry should have added, I had a beautiful navy dress for the funeral of my DD’s best friend. I kept it as it was so lovely but every time I put it on, I felt sick and absolutely dreadful, so quickly got changed. I gave it to charity and was pleased it was no longer in my wardrobe. You may feel very differently, but I do wish I’d got rid of the dress much earlier.

It's a beautiful dress! If you like it and want to wear it again there's no reason why you shouldn't. I've worn the dress I bought for my Dad's funeral for various occasions, including a Christmas party.
In terms of livening your dress up, I'd think some statement earrings, or maybe a cuff? I think gold would look lovely. If you're not a fan of jewellery, maybe a bag in a bright colour?

I'm so sorry for your loss.

It's a gorgeous dress, it deserves to be worn and enjoyed.

I think it's sensible you wore a dress you already had in your wardrobe, and didn't rush around in grief to try to buy something new.

Wear it in fond memory of your DH x

Ok, X posted, ignore my last post.

If you would like to keep and wear the dress I have an odd suggestion. Put on the dress and nip out to get a coffee, get petrol, pop into your corner shop for a few bits. The dress needs more associations.

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your husband op

If you want to wear the dress- maybe a lighter jacket/think of accessorising with earrings? Or perhaps a scarf as it's colder now?

I'm wondering if you'd be able to order a similar cut in another colour? It is a lovely dress, and I'm sure it's lovely on you

I think it's a nice tribute to your DH tbh! The dress is lovely! And will make you think of him (and hopefully all the memories you shared).

I have a dress that I wore to my mums funeral (it was one she really liked and we had many clothes that were the same from when we’d shop together!), and I wear it occasionally now and think of her. I do have to be in the right frame of mind however, but if it’s a nice dress and you like, then wear it with pride and happy memories.

I've worn the dress that I wore to my Dad's funeral several times (until I put on weight and it got a bit snug). I think the thing is to just wear it whenever it's appropriate and you will build up more memories associated with it.

That’s a lovely dress. It is only spoiled if it makes you feel that way. It is not automatically “ruined”

I’m sorry for your loss, the only issue I would have is does it bring back sad memories.

It is a lovely dress and you can absolutely wear it again if you want to
It doesn't seem like the line would lend itself to a jacket or necklace but maybe a statement necklace and earrings?

I didn't buy a special dress for my mums funeral. I just wore one that I already had and I will definitely wear it to other occasions. I did but one for my grandma's funeral and I wore it to work functions afterwards whenever I wanted a basic black dress.

I have always reworn dresses from funerals but add some colourful accessories. So e.g. one dress I wore later with red shoes and a leopard print belt.

Statement bracelet and earrings

Sorry @PackedintheUK I wouldn't be able to wear it

When my DH died I was 29. One of my assistants bought me couple of dresses to try-I wore navy because he hated black and I then immediately gave it to a charity shop.

The association was just too strong for me.
I would also worry that someone would recognise it and think of the funeral so I just couldn't

I bought a dress for my dad's funeral two years ago, chose it very carefully so I could wear it again . But. It's the dress I wore to my dads funeral . And despite being a nice dress it remains on a hanger in my wardrobe .

It's a beautiful dress.

I have worn the dress I wore to my Dad's funeral again. He absolutely would want me to and it didn't make me feel sad. But everyone has their own feelings.

I can't picture what kind of necklace would go with the neckline?

OP if you feel comfortable wearing it then do it.
Maybe a light coloured coat or shawl/cardigan to go over it since it's getting colder? It's quite an elegant dress so I wouldn't go overbord with colour. Maybe some nice jewellery

I wouldn't go for a necklace, bracelets and/or earings only I think.

Sorry for your loss.

I had to give away the dress I wore to my Mum's funeral. I couldn't even look at it in the closet.

One Tuesday can be an awful day but it doesn't mean every Tuesday is awful. You wore the dress on an awful day but it doesn't mean every time you wear it has to be awful.

It's a beautiful dress and I think you're right to wear it. I suggest a colour block bag to lift it. Enjoy dinner and the concert.