what would make you say "You are not going out in that"?

[MeiganMcSeinna6]

to your children

i would say

too much makeup

Luckily I had boys so I never had to say it

I might've asked them to wear their new jeans rather than the torn, tatty ones when visiting their grandparents, but that's about it.

Very little. If they were going out in the snow without a coat, or in clothing that showed underwear then I’d say something.

Messy clothes, unwashed hair and face with yesterday’s makeup. When my tall, skinny DD wears 10 sizes larger clothes that literally slide off her. Weather inappropriate clothes.

Ive saidit to dh when his tshirt was stained and had holes.

Mine are 3.5 so I frequently say it. Mainly because they seem to think clothing is optional, and as long as they’ve got their wellies on they’re good to go!

I've never had to say anything. She's 24 now.

The only thing I ever put my food down with was no jeans when out for a meal with grandparents.

Denim shorts where you can literally see their butt cheeks...a no for me!

Anything that showed DD’s actual bum/breasts, probably.

Depends on age. I've never had to say it to dd, who turns 16 this week. Hypothetically... anything extremely revealing. But she'd never wear anything like that anyway.

@MeiganMcSeinna6

to your children

i would say

too much makeup

What would constitute ‘too make-up’?

If their clothes were dirty , That's about it.

I quite often say it about unwashed or ripped clothes.

Joggers if we’re ever going out for a meal anywhere nicer than Nando’s.

The beanie hat when it's roasting, she's prone to fainting anyway without an overheated head.
Dirty, smelly clothes.
Clothes that don't fit.

To DS "I've bought you new trainers, you're not going out in those things for lunch because they are held together with dirt".

Crop tops in young DC. Not that mine own them, but I really don't like sexualised clothing on children and consider crop tops in this bracket.

Anything noticeably dirty.

Only if it were dirty.
Too much makeup/no jeans with grandparents - good God, are we in the 1950's!

If their clothes were dirty. Dd is 20 now, and I've never said it. I've raised an eyebrow on occasion, but never said you're not going out in that.

@Droidian

Only if it were dirty. Too much makeup/no jeans with grandparents - good God, are we in the 1950's!

I know, I don’t think I’d even know what to tell my kids to wear if not jeans - smart trousers like school trousers?

@Corkina

Denim shorts where you can literally see their butt cheeks...a no for me!

Yeah I saw that in the shopping centre last weekend along with a top that exposed the whole midriff and cleavage.

How anyone thinks that is attractive is beyond me. No one wants to see anyone else's arse cheeks

My DD has an amazing figure so I let her wear what she wants so long as her underwear isn't showing.

White sport socks and school shoes - look just bloody awful as there school uniform is formal.
Other than that only if we going out out rather than say Tesco. Usually colour choices or they are too casual. But its usually said in a discussion way than get up upstairs and change way which has meant we have some interesting pictures. Then again I have taken Batman to Tesco move times than I can count. Ds 1 has a clothes budget since year 4 and I’d like to think he has good taste - few bits I’ve inwardly raised eye brows but hey ho. (I’m thinking of the gold trimmed black shorts and the white denim shorts)

And DS always wants to wear the same hoody so I have to hide it so he'll wear his other ones

I asked my son if he was sure it was ok to wear ripped jeans to the office when he'd only just started working there. He rolled his eyes at me and got a pay rise at the end of the year so that was me firmly in my place. Most of the time I think it's better to make mistakes and learn from them, although I'm sure I'd feel far more conflicted if I had a daughter.

Eight year old DD hates brushing her hair. It's the current battle so that's the only thing. I don't want her head looking like a birds nest

Fucking hell - crop tops are sexualised clothing? You're the one sexualising a child!