Anyone else self conscious abour wearing a bathing suit?

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Took my kids to a water park today and embarrassingly I was one of the few mums in tshirt and shorts. Purely because I'm ashamed of my body.

I'm not the thinnest and do need to lose weight but I remember being a size 6 (many years ago!!) and still felt ashamed of my body.

I need to get over this and at the age of 35 I want to wear a swimsuit not just for comfort but I'm worried my kids will notice mum's not wearing what other mummies are.

Anyone else feel like this or has words of wisdom?

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I have a very serious looking Speedo swimsuit too that's makes me look like I do some very intense open water swimming in my spare time. But it makes me feel oddly confident, like a pp said?

Also, as someone else said, no-one expects women with kids to have amazing bodies so just enjoy yourself and let go.

It's a shame that you worry not only about your own body, but also the possibility that your kids would care that you are wearing something different to other people.

There are a whole lot of layers of anxiety to unpick there :(

Truth is, your kids won't give a damn what you're wearing, as long as you're with them and playing with them!

I've only really ever worn bikini's my entire life, unless seriously swimming in an indoor pool, and I can honestly say I have never had a boob slip, or a bum crises. I do buy good bikini's though...... perhaps that is the key. Always proper underwired jobs, and good firm material. Pricey though, and accept not everyone can afford to buy these.

And bikini's are not underwear. None of my underwear looks like a bikini, and my bikini's do not look like underwear. Do we say mens beach shorts look like boxers? No, they look like beach shorts.

I have really big boobs and very sensitive skin. I’m tired of swimsuits that are too low cut. I just wear men’s trunks and a rash vest. I’m not ashamed of my body. I just can’t be arsed trying to sort out my bikini line anymore. I think more women should embrace the shots snd t shirt look.

I've always felt neurotic about this, but honestly when you go, there's people of all shapes and sizes, with lumps bumps and scars wearing their cozzies/bikinis loud and proud without seemingly a care in the world and I realise how silly I'm being about myself. Just do it.