Another is this too white for a wedding...

[Lan2020]

Hi lovely ladies.

So, I posted yesterday about my request for a a dress to wear to a wedding. I am starting a new thread as I wanted some opinions on particular dresses.
I've decided I really like reformation but never ordered from there, so no idea on size.

Also, not much is in stock in my size so I'm limited. Also, being 5ft2 things can often look too long.

What do you think of these options? Wedding appropriate? Are the white floral ones too white?

Thank you so much.

If you are happy to spend those prices, and want something "high end", definitely try Net a Porter as someelse suggested. Otherwise for around £200, even less, I'd be looking at House of Fraser and John Lewis as they have various brands and you may find something you like which is more on trend and less expensive but better quality.

@CoffeeandCakeEqualsLove I really.like the 2 you posted. What website is the blue from? I like the red but wasn't sure if the colour is summery enough for a wedding?

I'm getting the impression my choices are fashionable haha. What sort of styles are fashionable for wedding guest attire?

Have a look on little mistress www.little-mistress.com/girls-on-film-weston-floral-print-bardot-midi-dress-p21509 they have quite a few that sound your style, for a third of the price!

Those needle and thread ones are all frilly monstrosities that are far more dubious wedding guest choices than the first dress. I’ve no idea where the idea came from that a floral summer dress with a white or cream background is unsuitable for a wedding. Just don’t wear a wedding dress or flash flesh. The red is too bare at the top and not suitable for a wedding.

Those two were both from a rental site - By Rotation (an app). HURR has a few Self Portrait in your size too

www.hurrcollective.com/designers/self-portrait

I really like this. Is it too bare armed? It's not a church wedding and I have a cream shawl.
Also does anyone know what the sizing is like for self portrait?
Thank you

That looks nice @Lan2020 but I don't know what Self Portrait sizing is like.

Whilst I was looking for something else I came across this dress by Bombshell
www.bombshellhq.com/products/liberty-tana-lawn-capevista-confident-cap-sleeve-dress?variant=33153710751824&currency=GBP&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=&ate_adgroup=120715581547&ate_campaign=12331941336&form=&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIy5HKx8iS8QIVj7rtCh1k4wgLEAQYAiABEgIrIfD_BwE

& this one

www.bombshellhq.com/products/portobello-roses-confident-bombshell-cap-sleeve-dress?variant=12613997002865&currency=GBP&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=&ate_adgroup=120715581547&ate_campaign=12331941336&form=&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI3c3e2dGS8QIV1prVCh3MUQh9EAsYAiABEgI3b_D_BwE

Don't know if you will like them but I'm assuming from your previous posts & photos that your shoulders, neck & arms are lovely & they are your best assets (& you have good legs?) so you want to highlight these features?

Or if you are open to a brighter colour
www.net-a-porter.com/en-gb/shop/product/self-portrait/off-the-shoulder-broderie-anglaise-cotton-poplin-midi-dress/1338446

Also this
www.net-a-porter.com/en-gb/shop/product/zimmermann/wild-botanica-floral-print-silk-organza-dress/1319436

From what I've read, Self Portrait sizing runs a little small @Lan2020.

I think you need to avoid that Reformation site OP, for the prize they're not very nice.
Are there any on silkfred that you like?

Thank you all. I'm definitely avoiding the reformation dresses, ptuve put me.off (in a good way). I'm.hoping to buy something Preloved from self portrait, just need to decide which of these. What do people think?

Or this

Well if it were me I’d avoid 1 and 4 both far far to light Lacy and bridal esque.
2 - reminds me of that optical illusion dress if some years ago. The dark belt or band doesn’t look right wonder if it could be removed/replaced ?
3 - like this the most.
Good luck op.

3 definitely my favourite

(4 is really, but think it is too bridal-y for a wedding)

No 4 is darker than it looks in the pic I posted. Does it make any difference? This is my favourite

4 is looking better now but wonder if it will look a lot paler in full sun as in first version of photo ? It’s so bloody difficult isn’t it. Have fun and I’m sure what you get will look great.

Never heard of this don’t wear white to a wedding thing other than on MN. I’ve worn white jacket and tailored dress to a wedding. I obviously wasn’t in a wedding dress.

You can wear whatever you like to a wedding.

Whatever colour or style you desire.

Wear a suit. Wear a white dress. Wear jeans and a t shirt. Wear a clown outfit.

You have not a clue what anyone else there will wear on the day! Just wear clothes.

"Don't wear white to a wedding" is a pretty well known thing way beyond the confines of MN.
and the couple often sets a dress code in their wedding invites @LouNatics, so yes they might care

That said, with the second picture of the dress @Lan2020 it does look more blue so think I would go with that if it's your favourite.

I think that blue dress you really like is perfect. Take a shawl to cover up your shoulders in church, and then you are all set!

I think they are all really nice and fine for a wedding.
That said, I don't think it matters too much. One of my wedding guests wore a completely white (well I think it was cream maybe) cocktail dress to my wedding. She looked great. If that was her favourite dress or the one she felt most confident in that week why would I want her to buy something else? You always hear how expensive it is to attend a wedding so as a host, surely you want your guests to wear something that makes them feel beautiful and they will wear again to their other events. My guest didn't look like the bride or like she was trying to upstage anyone, it's how you behave that determines that.

As you have a good budget, would it be worth booking a personal shopper at somewhere like John Lewis? That way you get to see the dresses properly, and they might come up with some options you wouldn’t have thought of.

Well, if the couple care what other people wear enough to specify a dress code, that’s their prerogative, but from all the worry here, it seems they haven’t. I wonder if those who want to control what you wear have a plan for what they will do if their guests don’t conform? Will they refuse entry like a bouncer? Provide spare outfits like the lost property PE kit at school and insist their guests change? Fume quietly through their own wedding that great aunt dotty wore a beige skirt and they specified brights? Do any of the men wearing suits worry about looking too matchy?

If the people getting married are worried about a guests outfit being the same as theirs they should specify this and tell you what colour and style they will be wearing.

I cannot believe that anyone, planning a wedding or not, would be anything other than embarrassed at the idea of someone they have invited to their event spending hundreds of pounds and hours of online searching, worry and angst to find an outfit for a day. Surely nobody would care enough to want a guest to do this. It’s a stressful and expensive event before it’s even started.

Thank you all. I'm going for the above dress as I like it and it's definitely not white. We haven't been given a dress code and it's not a church wedding. However, I will wear a shall for the ceremony.

Women wore floral white/cream and plain cream summer dresses to my wedding in the noughties. Any of the above would be suitable. I think I've worn black and white to weddings more than any other colours.