Opinions on this dress please

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It's for DD's wedding in October. Struggling to work out just how much ' 'MOB' to go.

I have found some very expensive and very formal MOB dresses which I like but as DH will refuse to wear anything formal I am looking for other ideas and wondered if this would be 'Special' enough.

Also what colour accessories would you put with it. The groom and family are wearing burgundy bow ties and blue suits. The bridesmaids are in dark grey.

It's lovely! I'd personally get a silvery grey jacket/stole and matching heels, which will go with the bridesmaids' gowns.

Also - tell your DH not to be a prick, this is ONE day and it's not about him. He can surely put up with a shirt, tie and jacket for 90 minutes for the ceremony and photos.

www.forevernewclothing.com/uk/ashley-l-blazer-249220?colour=dove+grey&gclid=Cj0KCQjw2NyFBhDoARIsAMtHtZ5qayb79V_fiSTMKXw7MaZzQw7kymH3OCfiBQpVOWcEb5YWLKAIvOIaAl_HEALw_wcB

Sorry to be negative but I don’t like dress at all. It’s a strange frumpy style with the floral + pleats + piping. June is a hard time of year to be shopping for a dress that will be suitable in October. You might be better off waiting until later in August when there will be a better selection.

Honestly, I think it depends on the wedding size/type etc.

It’s a perfectly nice dress but I think it’s something a guest could legitimately wear. I don’t think it’s MOB enough for most of the weddings I’ve been to. Sorry OP!

I know my DM tried the usual high street type places for her outfit, for my own wedding but she was worried that somebody would turn up wearing the same.

She ended up buying a Ronald Joyce MOB outfit, which cost almost as much as my dress but she felt (and looked!) amazing in it. She didn’t have a big do for her wedding so perhaps it’s why she went so expensive for my own.

I'd match accessories with on of the accent colours such as a white blazer and dark red shoes

Is everyone else dressing up? I think personally I'd go with something fancier, I wouldn't care what dh was wearing, if he's going casual he'll look out of place. It's a nice dress, but more garden party type dress.

I second telling your husband not to be such a miserable prick. He really can't dress properly for one day, for his own daughter's wedding?

Sorry, my mum went for John Charles, not Ronald Joyce!

I think it's nice but could take a lot of dressing up to look MOB-special. A jacket, hat, bag and shoes in a contrasting colour would be nice.

🤣🤣🤣 to those telling DH not to be a prick. He can be but is very uncomfortable drawing attention to himself. He will be smart but not formal and at the end of the day will make sure DD is happy. However she herself is quite relaxed and I don't want to look too stuffy next to everyone else.

I do have a more dressy MOB type outfit in mind but it costs more than my wedding dress did.

The wedding is not too formal and is in a Swish country pub.

Thank you all for your thoughts and suggestions. I really do appreciate your opinions.

I am used to wearing what is comfy for me and rarely have to consider much more than that so I'm struggling to know whether to go formal and very MOB or a bit more relaxed.

@HavelockVetinari I love that blazer and was going to order it to try but unfortunately not available in my size 😢

I think it could work then as it's a good one to dress up or down. I'd probably have a blazer/hat type look for the ceremony and then take that off (and maybe have a cardi if it's cool) for the meal etc.

Would you link to some of the more MOB dresses you liked?

I like the Hobbs dress but tbh I'd wear it as a day dress. It is smart but not very MOB-ish.

To be honest, I don’t like it I find it quite frumpy, sorry op. What other choices do you have?

This is the expensive dress I like. The dark blue is my favourite but the pale blue is available half price.

Swit-swoo! Now they are quite special but very much more dressed up.

There must be something in the middle...

Personally I wouldn’t choose a bare shoulder or bare armed dress for an October wedding. Unless you want to keep a jacket on the whole time, and I don’t think either of those off the shoulder dresses would look right with a jacket.

I don't know if something like this would be any good, since you like that Bardot/off shoulder neckline and dark blue (and a bargain!)

Lace: prettykittyfashion.co.uk/collections/bardot-dresses/products/navy-lace-bardot-wiggle-pencil-dress

Velvet: prettykittyfashion.co.uk/collections/bardot-dresses/products/navy-blue-velour-cap-sleeve-crossover-top-bardot-wiggle-dress

Hmmm for me, the Hobbs one isn't special / MOB enough, but the ones you just posted are too far the other way, straying into that traditional MOB territory I personally would be seeking to avoid as MOB...

Could you get something from somewhere like net-a-porter or somewhere similar, which you could be a bit spendy with, but maybe wear again? The traditional MOB outfits probably don't usually get worn again and they can look a bit dated I think, but personal taste etc.

I'd probably go with something classic and chic and non MOBish, which can be accessorised in a few different ways (ie not wish matchy hat and bolero). Then I wouldn't feel guilty about spending loads on it, as I could wear again!

Love the dark blue dress.... might go in the sale if you hold off?

*With not wish

@WhatsGoingOnHereThen yes I think something in the middle is what I'm looking for. I love the dark blue dress and have tried it on.

I'm not bothered about it being off the shoulder and happy to break that rule.

The ceremony and reception are in the same venue so not too worried about being cold although there is a lovely garden if the weather is kind to us.

Well the second ones are gorgeous. Totally the other way. From frump to siren. 😃

I don’t know of any off the shoulder rule. I’d go for the dress you like op. Your child hopefully only gets married once. You can cover your shoulders for the ceremony if it’s religious and you feel uncomfortable.