I've acquired a cleavage, is it suitable for a wedding?

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I've always been very slim but have hit 40, gained some weight and grown a fine pair of boobs. I've got a wedding to go to in the autumn, have bought a beautiful dress that's fully lined with a boned top section that gives me a cleavage. I've never ever had a cleavage before, I feel very exposed, I actually feel like I might as well be walking around with my boobs fully out. DH says I look lovely. I want to wear the dress but now I'm questioning if it's appropriate to have a cleavage in a church! It's not something I've ever taken notice of before and I suspect I'm being ridiculous but what's the general consensus on this?

Go for it. Ask the most brutal friend you have or post a pic here if you want to. But half the brides I’ve known have had major cleavage, including in church. God doesn’t have anything against boobs. Loads of paintings of baby Jesus have Mary with a boob out.

If you love it, feel great in it, look good in it, wear it.

Echoing @AnneLovesGilbert - if you feel fantastic in it, I say go for it!

Maybe post a pic here if you want objective "judgement"? (I'm not a perv, honest!)

Well there's cleavage and there's cleavage

Taylors cleavage - NO.

Holly's cleavage - yes

No problem with cleavage, but it’s elegant to have a pashmina or similar whilst in the church, IMHO. (That’s if it’s ‘Taylor cleavage’ as above, not if Holly which is modest and fine!)

Anything goes at the reception / dancing

You could cover it up for the church service if that would make you feel more comfortable.
For the reception, just go for it!

I acquired a cleavage in middle age, now I'm losing weight it's disappointing again. Enjoy it while you can.

I'll take a picture tomorrow and post it here. I'll also ask my mum, she always gives it to me straight!

Wear a shawl or pashmina thing. Remember you'll be throwing shapes on the dance floor as well and dresses can kind of lose their stiffness in the course of an evening.

Less is more as the photos above show. Not because it is church, but generally - almost exposed boobs just aren't a pretty sight. Fully exposed are fine but the circumstances probably aren't right for that!

Get those girls out!!

Maybe a wrap in church if you are concerned (it’s often a bit cold inside church anyway.)

@murbblurb

Less is more as the photos above show. Not because it is church, but generally - almost exposed boobs just aren't a pretty sight. Fully exposed are fine but the circumstances probably aren't right for that!

I beg to differ

I had the same experience lowlight. A newly gained cleavage in a dress I wore to a wedding. Nothing like Taylor Swift above but tbh I regretted it. Its not that its appropriate or inappropriate but I felt self conscious all day. I wasn't used to it and it just isn't me. I'd suggest wearing something similar on a few nights out and see how you feel. If you're not comfortable don't wear it to the wedding.

God they look massive! I've been a small B cup my whole life, I don't know what to do with them!!

I'd say that's fine - nice dress!

They are fine for a wedding. (And that's probably the weirdest response I've given commenting on a strangers cleavage!!) Have a fun day.

You look great, go for it!

It is a lovely dress, its ankle length so no legs out (if that makes a difference).

Definitely fine, you won't stand out on a bad way at all. You have a lovely figure!

Hmm I dunno. I think a bit of cleavage is outdated. I know I'll get flamed for saying that because it's natural blah blah but hey ho.

I agree that’s fine and you look great. I went to a funeral a couple of years ago and someone had double that amount of cleavage on show. That did feel rather inappropriate.

I think it looks very elegant on you.
You also have beautiful skin! Show it off

Boned dress showing cleavage? Hope you aren't aiming to upstage the bride

Lovely dress and you look great in it and wont upstage the bride. Keep an eye on your weight though going forward, it's easy to get overweight pre menopause.