Is this too white for a wedding guest?

[FreekStar]

After seeing discussion on this on another thread I'm worried this dress I've bought is now too 'white'- I thought the floral pattern made it ok, but maybe not... What do you think?

www.hobbs.com/product/rosabelle-silk-floral-dress/0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI.html#cgid=clothing-dresses&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI&pos=22

Add a pink pashmina & you're fine IMO 🤷‍♀️

OP,
There is someone on the Hobbs reviews who has actually bought it for her wedding dress. It is registry office but it would make me think a little bit.

@twoponytails

This dress doesn't associate with a wedding dress just because its white on the background. It's a lovely dress that can be worn for many occasions including a wedding being a guest. I really don't understand this strict etiquette and the obsession about not wearing white at weddings honestly who is going to mix you with the bride? To be honest with you, by looking at some of the comments on this thread, I wouldn't waste this beautiful dress on a wedding because as you can see by the comments, you are likely to come across some fanatics obsessing over a non existing etiquette. I wouldn't wear this beautiful dress because this dress deserves a much more appreciating audience who lives in 2021 and who would appreciate the effort you would put attending a wedding where it shows you value the couple. Please don't waste this dress on any UK wedding. If you have friends from different cultures, wear it there as 95% of the world won't give a flying fuck if it has white in it or not!

Well said! Some of the reactions to a perfectly lovely patterned dress are bizarre. I don't know anyone in real life who would give a shit about it having a white background.

@diddl

*" Pippa Middleton wore a white dress to her sister's wedding - in that specific context, it was more than fine (and obviously chosen by the bride).

If anyone else had wore the same dress...different and embarrassing story. For the dress wearer. No one could upstage Kate Middleton on her wedding day, but that's not the point."

But Op's dress is nothing like Pippa Middleton's!

could you miss the point any badly?

I was specifically replying that what is acceptable at a wedding depends on WHO is wearing it! Pippa is an extreme example to illustrate the point, I didn't say the OP was thinking of wearing Pippa's dress (some posters are too hard work!)

Someone like the OP who doesn't even know the bride wearing a dress that could absolutely be a wedding dress these days?
Cringey and desperate.

twoponytails

in 2021 brides wear silk flower printed dresses as much as they wear traditional meringues or short lace dresses, that's what you seem to miss completely!

As a non-UK poster, I can assure you that the white dress rule is very much a basic rule in many other countries .
Easy to google which ones...

It’s a lovely dress but I wouldn’t wear it to a wedding. If you have any doubts, choose something else to wear.

I can still remember many years ago at my SIL’s wedding when a guest turned up wearing a plain white dress. SIL and everyone else noticed but we didn’t say anything on the day. We still discuss it 25+ years later, whenever her wedding album is shown around!

@motherloaded

twoponytails

in 2021 brides wear silk flower printed dresses as much as they wear traditional meringues or short lace dresses, that's what you seem to miss completely!

As a non-UK poster, I can assure you that the white dress rule is very much a basic rule in many other countries .
Easy to google which ones...

If brides wear floral dresses to their own wedding then it’s their bloody problem if someone else is wearing something similar! Brides own the full white bridal gown. They own nothing else.

Please don’t wear a pashmina with it.

I think it's lovely. I would wear this to a wedding.

It isn’t a non existent etiquette that’s the whole point of the thread. We are only debating it because we know the etiquette exists. It might be outdated or for some brides or guests considered irritating or not relevant to them but it is there.

It looks fine to me. Unless it's all completely white and floor length I don't see the issue. It wouldn't suit me, but if it did I'd wear it!

Do you have to run every dress past the bride just in case she's decided to go off piste and not wear a traditional wedding dress.....?

@motherloaded

twoponytails

in 2021 brides wear silk flower printed dresses as much as they wear traditional meringues or short lace dresses, that's what you seem to miss completely!

As a non-UK poster, I can assure you that the white dress rule is very much a basic rule in many other countries .
Easy to google which ones...

Completely untrue. I've never been to a wedding where the bride has worn a dress covered with pink flowers.

@BeechTreeView

Do you have to run every dress past the bride just in case she's decided to go off piste and not wear a traditional wedding dress.....?

Exactly. If the bride is wearing something non traditional then it’s her look out really! The only rule I go by is to not wear a plain white dress

If you was a guest of importance brides mum for example maybe.. just as a guest it's too white. IMO white is acceptable if it's white flowers on a pink dress for example but that's mainly white.

"I was specifically replying that what is acceptable at a wedding depends on WHO is wearing it! Pippa is an extreme example to illustrate the point"

Pippa isn't an extreme example of anything.

She was wearing a bridesmaid dress chosen by the bride as bridesmaid dresses often/usually are!

Bridesmaids in white is traditional.

If Op thinks that the bride is likely to be wearing a floral dress then maybe best to avoid.

If it's traditional & bride likely to be in a long plain white/off white dress then no problem.

Oh good grief, Mark Twain was right

Too white. Not acceptable. Sorry.

There are so many nice outfits out there. Keep looking.

Completely untrue. I've never been to a wedding where the bride has worn a dress covered with pink flowers. 😂 😂 😂

oh so if YOU have never seen one, debate is closed then, why are we even having a discussion. Classic MN, where the only "rules" are the ones decided by a specific poster 😂

Beautiful but no white at wedding bar the bride

Completely fine!! Maybe fifty years ago people might have noticed it was white in the background but I can’t imagine anyone these days batting an eyelid. Maybe if I knew for certain it was a super informal boho style wedding where the bride definitely wouldn’t wear a full length white dress I might not risk it (but if that’s the case she’s unlikely to care as she’ll probably be a laid back type...) but I think it’s lovely and would go for it.

I think it would be ok with green shoes and pink bag and hat.

@motherloaded

Completely untrue. I've never been to a wedding where the bride has worn a dress covered with pink flowers. 😂 😂 😂

oh so if YOU have never seen one, debate is closed then, why are we even having a discussion. Classic MN, where the only "rules" are the ones decided by a specific poster 😂

Motherloaded, you said “in 2021 brides wear silk flower printed dresses as much as they wear traditional meringues or short lace dresses, that's what you seem to miss completely!” Which rather suggests that floral wedding dresses are as popular as traditional ones, which they’re definitely not. Pp was pointing that out and she was right

oh so if YOU have never seen one, debate is closed then, why are we even having a discussion. Classic MN, where the only "rules" are the ones decided by a specific poster 😂

they are not as likely to wear floral silk as they are a white dress, complete tosh!

Please don’t wear a pashmina with it.
Because?