Is this too white for a wedding guest?

[FreekStar]

After seeing discussion on this on another thread I'm worried this dress I've bought is now too 'white'- I thought the floral pattern made it ok, but maybe not... What do you think?

www.hobbs.com/product/rosabelle-silk-floral-dress/0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI.html#cgid=clothing-dresses&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI&pos=22

Looks nothing like a wedding dress, it's fine imo and I wouldn't bat an eyelid if you came to my wedding in it. It's lovely.

Some people are mentioning being mistaken for the bride. It's not about being mistaken for them, it's about the bride being the only one wearing a white dress on the day.

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Pippa Middleton wore a white dress to her sister's wedding - in that specific context, it was more than fine (and obviously chosen by the bride).

If anyone else had wore the same dress...different and embarrassing story. For the dress wearer. No one could upstage Kate Middleton on her wedding day, but that's not the point."

But Op's dress is nothing like Pippa Middleton's!

But Op's dress is nothing like Pippa Middleton's!

Indeed. It's not 'bridal'.

@tulips27

Some people are mentioning being mistaken for the bride. It's not about being mistaken for them, it's about the bride being the only one wearing a white dress on the day.

But Op wouldn't be wearing a white dress.

It's not too white, it's floral. It's base is white but it's covered in pattern. That's not remotely the same as a white dress.

No, too white, too bridesmaidy. And as others have said, if you have to ask...

My friend wore something very similar when she got married so it would be a no from me

I never understand, with all the colours out there, why people want to wear white/cream/ivory etc to a wedding

It looks very much like a Temperley style wedding dress so I would avoid.

Kate wore cream/off white to Harry's wedding. Seemed weird at the time.

Looks like a bridesmaid’s dress. I wouldn’t wear it as a guest.

I'd say it's fine. It's not bridal at all. Any bride who would kick off about this dress is pathetic.

I don't get why there are so many comments saying it isn't suitable.

I think its perhaps because I do not live in the UK, and things like this just don't really matter that much here.

My aunt, who is quite flamboyant (but from the UK) wore a pure white jumpsuit to my wedding. I didn't bat an eyelid or even think anything of it.

To be honest there would be more of a raised eyebrow if someone wore black to a wedding, rather than white.

I think the dress is beautiful and would be perfect for a wedding. Its hardly going to upstage the bride, seeing this is a floral flowy dress and not a bridal gown.

My MIL wore cream/yellow to my wedding. I was taken aback when she asked if I minded. I did but I said it was fine as she'd bought it and thought I'd be the bigger person but twenty years in I think wtf.

Totally fine. Baffled that anyone thinks otherwise- it's a print not lace.

Its absolutely fine, I don't get why everyone is saying it's too bridal it's covered with pink flowers. They have also styled the model as a wedding guest with the fascinator and clutch.

It’s fine Op. I’ve never understood the issue of something being ‘too white’ for a wedding. I wasn’t even aware of it being a thing until I joined Mumsnet.

It's fine. Don't have white accessories, and it'll be even better.

No, there are millions of dresses in the world. You’re skating a bit too close to the line there.

This dress doesn't associate with a wedding dress just because its white on the background. It's a lovely dress that can be worn for many occasions including a wedding being a guest. I really don't understand this strict etiquette and the obsession about not wearing white at weddings honestly who is going to mix you with the bride? To be honest with you, by looking at some of the comments on this thread, I wouldn't waste this beautiful dress on a wedding because as you can see by the comments, you are likely to come across some fanatics obsessing over a non existing etiquette. I wouldn't wear this beautiful dress because this dress deserves a much more appreciating audience who lives in 2021 and who would appreciate the effort you would put attending a wedding where it shows you value the couple. Please don't waste this dress on any UK wedding. If you have friends from different cultures, wear it there as 95% of the world won't give a flying fuck if it has white in it or not!

Wouldn't bother me as a bride at all! Would accessorise with bright colours. Lovely dress!

It's fine if your hat/bag/shoes are pink as opposed to White or cream. Nice for a Summer wedding guest outfit.

But you're defending your choice where some pp's have said 'No' so, you're going to wear it anyway which means there's you've already made up your mind to wear it as you think it's suitable. Go ahead.

I think it raises a question so maybe consider another option. It can’t be denied that with flowers in your hair it could very easily be styled as a boho wedding dress. If you are convinced that the wedding is likely to lean much more structured formal then you could wear it. But there is a risk you might have a negative comment made. I stay away from full length dresses at weddings for this exact reason. If you feel very remote from the wedding couple it terms of future friendship or relationship links then wear it.
Style it with a structured jacket but I think it’s borderline.

find it hard to believe that someone would mistake you for a bride wearing it or that guests would judge you for wearing that dress

I think they look like they want to be next, rather than mistaken for a birdie. Bit desperate.