I was 'accused' of having Botox and fillers

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In a very aggressive manner. I have nothing against Botox/fillers and have considered doing it myself during a very stressful year. I was sneered at, felt a bit taken aback, and didn't know what to say. I couldn't defend myself because that would just feed the attack, plus I have nothing against non invasive cosmetic procedures and am quite pro them. I did consider getting something done as we came out of lockdown 1, but I suppose I won't bother now
I'm 53, and think it's my new hair colour that has lifted my face. Being brave, here's my pic. Does my hair colour lift my features? I was going to go over it with darker toner, maybe I should leave it as it is?

This is so funny. Reminds me of that scene in Big Little Lies when Reece Witherspoon is on the school run and another mum asks her: "Did you get Botox?" And she replies with her hand on her chest: "No but oh my god thank you!"
It's a compliment!!!

I think next time this happens just thank the person, say that you haven’t had work done but could they give the number for where they get there’s done for when you need it. Say it with a smile

Agree with @TheVanguardSix.

These threads are always, always started by people with perhaps not the most robust self-esteem for whatever reason, and then a handful of people are perhaps a bit too honest, and all it does is further damage to the self-esteem.

I find it boggling that anyone of my age (mid-40s) or older would be motivated to start a thread like this.

I’d take it as a compliment tbh !! U look great seriously .

And not sure why it’s so offensive anyway , I’m 20 years Younger have had both Botox and fillers and don’t give a shit who knows

Definitely don't go darker. I'd actually have the highlights taken up to the roots, as the top of your head looks a bit too dark.

Dark hair ages a face - it is too harsh for the skin as you age. If you were completely dark before, that will be why the new hair has lifted you.

I can definitely attest to this as I got the wrong hair colour and am now too dark and look ten years older.

Hellotheresweet TheVanguardSix why comment just to say something nasty?

Even if the OP was looking for a boost (and I don't believe that's why she posted) what's so wrong with that at any age? Can't we build each other up instead of taking every chance to rip each other down?

And not sure why it’s so offensive anyway , I’m 20 years Younger have had both Botox and fillers and don’t give a shit who knows
Yes I work with mostly 20 somethings and those that haven't had botox and filler are very much in the minority

@MerchantOfVenom

Agree with *@TheVanguardSix*.

These threads are always, always started by people with perhaps not the most robust self-esteem for whatever reason, and then a handful of people are perhaps a bit too honest, and all it does is further damage to the self-esteem.

I find it boggling that anyone of my age (mid-40s) or older would be motivated to start a thread like this.

Then why be unkind?

@Cassavaflower

This is so funny. Reminds me of that scene in Big Little Lies when Reece Witherspoon is on the school run and another mum asks her: "Did you get Botox?" And she replies with her hand on her chest: "No but oh my god thank you!" It's a compliment!!!

It really isn’t. The film was fiction.

@ApplestheHare

Hellotheresweet TheVanguardSix why comment just to say something nasty?

Even if the OP was looking for a boost (and I don't believe that's why she posted) what's so wrong with that at any age? Can't we build each other up instead of taking every chance to rip each other down?

Perhaps because posters like this pop up periodically and it never ends well. It’s a bit sad that they do it.

Can't we build each other up instead of taking every chance to rip each other down?

Who does the "we" refer to? Women? I don't have some sort of weird duty to 'build other women up' just because I am one too.

@unmarkedbythat

Can't we build each other up instead of taking every chance to rip each other down?

Who does the "we" refer to? Women? I don't have some sort of weird duty to 'build other women up' just because I am one too.

Precisely. But the sanctimonious ones have spoken and told us what must be done. Pfft

@MerchantOfVenom

Agree with *@TheVanguardSix*.

These threads are always, always started by people with perhaps not the most robust self-esteem for whatever reason, and then a handful of people are perhaps a bit too honest, and all it does is further damage to the self-esteem.

I find it boggling that anyone of my age (mid-40s) or older would be motivated to start a thread like this.

I wanted an opinion on my hair, whether I should go darker? I'm pretty certain anyone of any age can ask for that

You could have asked that without referencing Botox and fillers though.

This is "style and beauty" the most appropriate place to ask for an opinion on my hair on Mumsnet. And yes, I care what I look like, and no I'm not immune to low self esteem.

unmarkedbythat by we, I meant people. Everyone really. The older I get the more I think the world would be better if we all tried harder to be nice to each other. And I say this as someone who's not into the 'be kind' sweatshirts, etc.

@Ihopeyourcakeisshit

You could have asked that without referencing Botox and fillers though.

Maybe I think I need Botox and fillers, what's wrong with that?

Can’t see it myself. I have had Botox several times and a couple of occasions it looked a bit obvious. I’ve gone for a more subtle look. You look like a woman in her mid to late fifties and looking well too.

Nothing.

I do sometimes think I could do with something bough, I on often sleep well, hate those days. I find my mood is affected by how I look, especially this year.

Don't often sleep well, tha should say.

Last ni I had 5 hours and that was better than most

Hate using my iPad, so many missed letters

You don't look like you need Botox and your hair looks great, I like the bayalage.

I think lots of us are feeling meh about our looks, it's been crappy year and I'm sure it's worse when you hit the 50's. There does appear to be a rapid decline in everything, but I think you have a lot more to be happy with than most.