Fringe regret. In fact - haircut regret

[polkadotpjs]

So I had a lob and fringe yesterday. Planned a big cut from my long hair - just past shoulders. Got home. "D" H grimaced and said "we'll do YOU like it? It's very 80s!" It was waved and I quite liked it. Didn't love it but my hair is crap anyway and doesn't sit right due to jug ears. Fine hair too. Like greasy string about 3 hours after washing.
I had side parting no fringe before and I hugely regret what I've done especially when getting the reactions I have from that bloody man. He's another thread today. And to think I've asked on another thread for birthday ideas. He can do one now!! Left photo is new cut. Other one (granted with very shiny post colour sheen and freshly cut and straightened) is last time. I want it back 😢. What can I do with it??

Ah sorry, just read your update. Well he sounds mean. Don’t hide it under a hat! Own it - I’m sure other people on your zoom call will feel the same as us - it suits you!! If you’ve been wavering about it too, then I guess his indecision over it is understandable, but there’s ways to say things.

Please don’t hide your hair OP.

Seeing as this is MN - you don’t have a hair problem, you have a DH problem.

Well, he's a charmer.

It’s beautiful! Much nicer than it was too! Sod what your husband thinks

Oh no much prefer the fringe. Much younger look overall.

Your husband is horrible. Your haircut is beautiful!
I have very similar hair. Dry shampoo is your friend.
I also use a barrel brush (think that’s what it’s called) and hairspray (just a light one) to give my fringe a bit of omph.
You look beautiful.

Tell the Dh that you’re going for a new look to go with your new man

I think it looks nice!
Men just don't like change I think, although your DH does sound like he's being an arsehole about it.
I cut myself a lockdown fringe, my DC said it looked nice but whilst my DH didn't say much he kept smirking. I've grown it out now, which is the beauty of fringes -they grow out quickly and you can pin them back and do all sorts with them in the meantime.

My hair my choice and he knows that. I just shut down all mention of it now for that very reason. My lovely colleague just IMd me during a Zoom meeting and said lovely new hair (male colleague if that matters ) so DH clearly no clue. I think it's subtle undermining in a lot of areas that he tries. But he'll get short shrift

Is the zoom quiz with friends.

Tell him you'd rather he wasn't part of it.

'I'm sick of your face pulling - you really look like shit on a stick today - would you be a darling and be out tonight? I'd love a break from you'

He sounds mean :( I think it looks better now - bouncier and more natural.

He was on the quiz and the first friend to dial in said "ooh I lobe your fringe Polka!" He asked if I'd told her to say that! He can't see that it's ok. Weirdo

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He was on the quiz and the first friend to dial in said "ooh I lobe your fringe Polka!" He asked if I'd told her to say that! He can't see that it's ok. Weirdo

What a shit he is.

Honestly this is sounding worse. You say he’s subtly undermining you a lot. Maybe this is the straw that breaks the camel’s back?

If you find you don’t like it, grow it out. In the meantime, the colour’s great and a good trim is healthy for the hair.

From my experiences a lot of men want everything to stay exactly the same forever. When I was seeing a previous ex, I said oh I'm off to the hairdresser. His reply was, oh can you do it like it was when we met. Um. No. I still don't know what that is all about it all honesty.

I really think your hair looks great. And I think you suit a fringe. I prefer this style to your previous one too. It may take you a week or so to get used to it, anything that is a change takes a while.

I have fine hair too with a fringe, and dry shampoo is my best friend. I just spray the fringe as the rest of my hair doesn't need it. But you may find that with this new style it may not get so oily, as it isnt as heavy now. I know that sounds weird but although my hair is fine I have a lot. When it needs thinning out it does need washing more often than after I have had a cut.

Love it, think it's more modern than your previous cut? I have a fringe and the Sali Hughes video on how to dry your fringe is a game changer.

Ooh I've just watched that video. I need to find a cheap mason Pearson and I actually think I'm going to get a thicker fringe cut in!! Thanks all. I think you're right. He fears change but has been an arsehole. No need to be like that one iota