Fringe regret. In fact - haircut regret

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So I had a lob and fringe yesterday. Planned a big cut from my long hair - just past shoulders. Got home. "D" H grimaced and said "we'll do YOU like it? It's very 80s!" It was waved and I quite liked it. Didn't love it but my hair is crap anyway and doesn't sit right due to jug ears. Fine hair too. Like greasy string about 3 hours after washing.
I had side parting no fringe before and I hugely regret what I've done especially when getting the reactions I have from that bloody man. He's another thread today. And to think I've asked on another thread for birthday ideas. He can do one now!! Left photo is new cut. Other one (granted with very shiny post colour sheen and freshly cut and straightened) is last time. I want it back 😢. What can I do with it??

Looks fab, I currently have side parting straight hair like your before pic so I’m thinking of getting a fringe now

Much better with fringe.

It takes a while to get into the groove of a fringe I think and to get used to it.

You rock it though 🤩

Just now "Never go there again. Are you going to buy some hair 'remedy'?" Not sure what remedy he means. What an arse hole.

The second picture is more stylish, hair looks thicker. I think hair is better once the haircut has settled. I never like how it is at first, also it sometimes takes a bit to get used to a new style. If you miss the shine just get a nice shine spray.

Keep the great new hair. Ditch the bell end.

Tell him to keep his unwanted opinions to himself. I like your new cut and I like the light wispy fringe.

Well, who put 50p in the dickhead machine?

Tell him to pipe down and piss off!

I think the new style looks gorgeous, a lot nicer than the previous photo. I think it can take a week to accept the change of a new haircut, it can sometimes be a shock to the system, when you have been used to something very different, I think wait a bit and see how you feel in a week

He can fuck right off. His initial comment could have been interpreted as misguided, but now he is veering into arsehole territory.

Sorry to take this right off track but apparently I've done nothing but slag it off. Well no. I've been unsure and left myself open to a real hair assassination. If he can tell I'm unsure then what's to be gained by him reinforcing his opinion? The minute I walked in he pulled a "shit what've you done " grimace. And every time I've been recently. I'm sick of it and him. I'd better paste on my happy face for the Zoom quiz later and may wear a hat or pretend I've washed it and put it in a towel?

Your hair looks great OP - the colour and the cut. If I was you I'd wake up tomorrow and say 'I've decided actually I really like it' and just leave it at that. Don't ask his opinion and just ignore his silly comments.

I'm not big on fringes. I don't think they suit many people over the age of 3. I find they look disconnected to the rest of the hair. So lengths all swingy, fringe straight and blocky. Weird. But I do think long shakes side fringes can work on people who have long foreheads.

I do like your new colour though. Very pretty

Personally I love the new cut and colour. Genuinely not just saying that to make you feel better.

And TBH your DH saying it looks 80s does show that's where his style knowledge ended, so I wouldn't take his word for being the last word on hair fashion. It's a very current look.

'It's a shame you don't like it. I was saving up for a (insert perfect birthday present) but I'll get it sorted tomorrow with the money'.

You look lovely, I really can't see a problem with the new haircut!

Keep the hairdresser and dump the H .

Is he normally this horrible to you?

@damnthatanxiety

I'm not big on fringes. I don't think they suit many people over the age of 3. I find they look disconnected to the rest of the hair. So lengths all swingy, fringe straight and blocky. Weird. But I do think long shakes side fringes can work on people who have long foreheads.

Ok.....

I have very fine hair and I find a tiny bit of "Hair Dust" - particularly through my fringe - definitely helps it seem fuller. And let me ask - do you generally set store by your husband's style advice? My Mum can be a bit like that with subtle criticisms and usually if she is negative it means I am doing something right. The style is not 80s at all.

I colour stripped my hair and cut a fringe in yesterday. DH laughed when he saw it. Unless yours, unlike mine, is a recognised style and beauty guru, I'd ignore him. I think your hair looks great!

Your new hair cut and fringe look great.
Your husband, however, sounds like a right tosser.

I like the new cut, but I also like the bolder colour in your previous pic, I think that would look good too.

FWIW my DP never likes my hair in anything other than the exact style and colour it was when we met!

He’ll always joke about me going for an “unauthorised” haircut if I don’t tell him beforehand and he insists on calling my fringe “bangs” just to annoy me . I just do it anyway - my hair, my choice.

I may take into consideration that he doesn’t like my hair really short, so when I do that, I accept that I may be making myself less attractive to him, but tbh I still do it!

I think he just doesn’t like change, but when pressed on it, after a couple of days he’ll admit that it suits me. Give him a day or two to get used to your new cut and I’m sure yours will be the same!

It’s lovely OP! Really nice.

I have lots of fine straight hair and use a salt spray to add texture. When my fringe gets a bit greasy I use talcum powder as a dry shampoo. I just rub it through my fringe and it looks instantly better!