Sophie re the modified rice water rinse terrifying me, slight exaggeration but it left my hair feeling the most disgusting it has ever felt. Ever.
I feel completely overwhelmed too Sophie, to the point where I've almost needed to take a break from thinking about it and reading about it. The science stuff doesn't suit my brain very well as in it's not my strong suit, and with menopause my short term memory has suffered so I feel pretty screwed and a bit like the poor relation re keeping up with everything. Then I feel foolish for making an error (eg thinking I'd rice water rinse today). It's a vicious circle because it leads me to NOT want to do more research/try to understand better and on and on it goes. Add to that that I have a pretty strong gut feel about so much so tend towards putting blinkers on and just going with what I feel, but that's flawed too.
Perhaps I need some sort of system to organise all this data, but I guess I'm just not motivated enough and prefer what little knowledge and understanding I do have + trial and error.
Anyway, I think my hair is:
Medium hair
High density
Medium (mixed) porosity: semi-permanent, not lightened apart from a few strands of lighter hair around my face from a year ago. Wish I'd not had that done now).
For the first time in about 2 months I rinsed my hair of conditioner in the shower, half upside down but half the right way up. Big mistake I think, but useful experiment/reminder. My cleaner is here and I was a bit time pressured. I kept the temperature warm vs hot, but I can see canopy frizz which I don't usually notice when damp. I didn't enjoy it much. I thought I would really miss having a 'complete' shower including hair washing. I actually prefer to do them separately now.
Anyway, I used Sunday chelating shampoo, and a deep conditioner for 10 minutes with no heat cap, just a shower cap. A very small amount of Blueberry Bliss on the mids to ends, a very small amount of clump cream and a very small amount of Innersense gel which I added water to. No diffusing.
How often do people use Olaplex 3 generally? I feel like I know when I need to clarify, but I don't have a sense for when I should use Olaplex.
Welcome newshoes. Looking forward to your return! It's quite a busy thread but there aren't many of us so be good to have another contributor.