Grey hair boredom

[SouthWestmom]

So I have given up the dye and I love:

No roots
Some lovely white

I am bored though and it's still got some dark grey/brown wedges through it

I've done highlights and they always end up yellow or warm blonde

Silver shampoo or conditioner is a con or at best keeps it from going yellow

What can I do to stop giving him and chucking a box dye on it?

Oh it's lovely,don't dye it again OP!

I have gone quite white/ grey but I have cool highlights through it 3x a year which works well and lets the grey grow in nicely.

I have found that I need to wear silver earrings every day and quite bright lippie to get me through the 'grey is so drab' feeling,which it isn't it just takes time to get used to ime.

I also needed a bit of a revamp with colours, I wear lots of different colour scarves to make sure I like the colour then try and buy something that colour when I'm sure it suits me.

Mine looks a lot like yours, TheReef, just with the blonde/grey line not as well grown out yet.

Or it does at the front, and on the top layers. But if I lift the top layer at the back it's a lot darker underneath.

I've got one of the bronde highlight kits to do your own at home, which is what I very first used when I went lighter. I may well use that to add highlights to the darker layer.

I do like the non hassle of just going grey

Wehaveafloater that's the appeal for me - I was dying it to cover the grey and not because I loved the colour.

So I'm going to keep going. I think I might have some white stripes either side of my face a la Hunger Games - shall find a photo

Also scrolled through images and v short hair looked awful on me (massive nose and chin) whereas shoulder length looked lovely

Like this

othervoices my hair is the exact same as your. And I have the same problem with the short curly ones that don't stay in place. It would make a big difference if I could stop them sticking up/out.

Oh, just noticed you recommended bumble and bumble curl oil op. I will try it 😊

I just got scalped last night at the hairdressers to get the last of the bleach out - its short anyway but now it's really short! Give it a fortnight and all will be well. Grows like grass.

When i bleached from dyed brown it was lovely, but after that i couldn't keep the colour nice, or even, so i've given up and am grey again

I love this colouring & style

This thread is so helpful. I attempted grey a year or so ago, but I didn't like it. I've gone back to having highlights, which I prefer for the time being. I'll give the grey a go in a few more years.

This is my hair. I've washed in the purple this morning using the Viral shampoo mentioned earlier, so you see how subtle it is. This was coloured before Xmas, and I'm going back next week, so it's lasted brilliantly.

And from a different angle so you can see my roots, much more blended than when I was dark brown!!

Emma is that a dyed grey to start blending? The viral stuff is lovely, really subtile. I'm going to try that.

Get some white highlights ?

@Noeuf So before September, my hair was dyed brown (what had been my natural colour), but my roots were coming in very grey/white and trying to keep it the colour I wanted just wasn't working well, and I was fed up. However, I didn't want to go through the pain of growing it out, so my hairdresser stripped the old colour out, then bleached the whole head, then put a silver dye on it (and a lilac colour through some of it, but this washed out quite quickly - the Viral shampoo is as good).

It's now growing through with largely white at my crown, so,e brown bits on my front hairline, but basically, a much better blend than when it was dyed brown. I've got an appointment next week to see what we need to do next, it obviously won't need as much treatment as last time, but I suspect she'll bleach the darker bits to lighten it up and add the silver on those bits. Not sure yet, it's all rather exciting.

It was important to me that I looked deliberately grey IYSWIM, I work in a young industry (incidentally some of the 20 somethings I work with have done similar to their hair, and I get a lot of love for my hair at work. Actually, I get stopped in the street about my hair now, it's all quite odd).

Thanks Emma , it does look fab .

I can't face highlights again, to a pp - they eventually turned yellow and looked a different white/gray to my natural hair.

I think I need to grow it longer rather than getting shorter each time with undercuts and scissoring and layering etc.

A pp posted long grey hair which looks lovely but I think shoulder length would work for me. It's currently hovering at cheekbone/chin depending on the style

Imelda Staunton in one show is rocking grey right now

My stylist changed my parting for me today which shows off my white much better. I am embracing this... for the moment anyway. Think it has shades of Hunger Games - if Julianne Moore had a scraggy neck and jowls.

The lack of having to have your roots done has been totally worth it for me. I chopped to a short pixie about 5 years ago. All with MN support The hairdresser put some grey highlights through to blend the badger stripe (was only about 3/4 of an inch long) and then I just grew it out, keeping in a pixie until all the old dye was gone.

Have not regretted it once, though, like you I occasionally get a bit "Oh, it'd be nice to have a change." But the mere thought of having to either keep up with the roots or get rid of the dye again at some point is enough to persuade me to go and buy a jumper instead .

This is me today. A bit haggard DC at home for half term...explains it all so looking every single one of my 48 years. But the freedom from the hairdressers is bliss.

How long did it take to get there?

Mine is more like the lovely Hunger Games style as i straighten it because it's so short.

I followed your hair transition from the beginning although I didn’t comment on the threads Chopornot and you definitely inspired me to own my new natural. Your hair always looks fabulous.

This has taken a while- but a lot of that is because it is curly - so the actual length of it, if I pull it straight, it about 2 inches below my collar bone. I would say that from short bob to this has been a couple of years (but again, difficult as it has got curlier/more ringletty as it grows...thus "shrinks".

I haven't had it this long for a few years - but one of my reasons for ditching the dye was to get my proper curls back - which has 100% worked. The curls had been shit for years thanks to dying as it buggers the cuticle, thus buggering the curl.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/2316020-To-chop-or-not-Honest-opinions-please Is my very old thread - but if you whizz through the pics it shows the grow out stages.

It took me three years to get from a buzz cut to where I am now, with a couple of different styles Inbetween. I'm very happy where I am now though even though it's a steel grey rather than the bright white I wished for!

And, my hair is so much thicker for not dyeing it any more. It was looking dull and listless and thinning when I dyed it.

And I know I post photos of myself on MN which people may find strange or arrogant or self-agrandising. But I'm really conscious of approaching 50 and seeing the signs of age BUT I actually feel more attractive and beautiful than I've ever felt.

I was an attractive younger woman, I was always considered a bit beautiful, but now I actually feel beautiful and very powerful. And that's a side-effect of getting older. Feeling your power.

I was having a conversation with someone the other day about how youth is prized so much in society, but it's only really prized in terms of fertility. There's no other real benefit to how youth is held up as an ideal.

If I think of young men (which I don't generally), the only attribute they hold over older ones is a rock-hard erection, and snake-hips.

Their inherent attraction is not bounded in youth.

And neither is ours.

So going grey shouldn't diminish us.

Now, I clearly have more to worry about than going grey. I had a whole fringe cut in to my recently fringe-less hair. DH hasn't noticed it, three days later!