My teen DD and I dress very similarly - does it matter?

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I’m 46, she’s 17. Both have a pretty casual style and tbf to me I’ve dressed much the same for years but I realised today we were almost identical in black jeans, grey sweatshirt, furry jacket and Airforce One trainers.

I’d hate to be mistaken for one of those mums who tries to be their daughter’s best mate and wants to go on the pull with them - we’re very close but that’s not at all my style! I also wonder if I’m kidding myself and trying too hard to look young but I’m comfortable even if she does look better than me 🙄😂

Is this an issue or am I overthinking?

If you've dressed like that for years, then it is she who is copying you

Ask her what she thinks. If it is 'Yuk Mum, you're not 17 any more" then you'll know where you stand.

not teens anymore but my sister (early 20s), myself (late 20s), and our mum frequently realise we’re wearing matching outfits

A family friends 15yo son also dresses like us...

There was a mum and daughter on the train opposite me a while ago going on a shopping trip to London together. They were laughing together about how they needed a new [insert clothing item] it was obvious they were close and shared clothes. They were probably similar ages to you and DD and tbh I just thought it was nice.

What’s lovely is that there’s no longer a ‘uniform’ look for women over a certain age. When I was a nipper all ladies of a certain vintage looked rather like they were channeling the late Les Dawson’s ‘Cissie and Ada’ characters: directoire knickers, tweed coats and lisle stockings. For the record, I’m early 50s and work with young adults in HE. It’s great when some young thing asks me where I got my dress. . I love dressing to express myself and hope that never changes.

Ime it's fate!!
Dd 20's and me 40 's often come back from separate shopping trips with very similar stuff!!
Very often turn up for events in same colour tops + bottoms. Maybe different style though!
Dd doesn't care!

You're dressing in "your style," the way that you feel comfortable and I'm sure it suits you. Most people figure out what works best for them by their 40's.

The only time I've seen some mother/daughter lookalikes and thought "oh dear" is when the Mum gives the impression that she's really trying to look her daughter's age and is determined to wear the latest fashions (regardless of whether they suit her or not).

Then it can look a bit desperate.

My daughter is early teens and I'm 50. We have some items that are the same like AF1s, jeans, teddy coats, DMs, but these things are basics and can be worn by everyone. The difference is that she tends to wear hers in a much more slouchy way, where as I will look "smarter". Her hair is messily done, everything is exaggerated, so very oversized, or very short, or skin tight. Whereas I'm more staid.
So we don't look the same

Way back in the mists of time (1980s) my mum phoned we at work to say she had a surprise for me and would meet me off the bus. I was 18.

I got off the bus and there she was in the exact same outfit I'd gone to work in - baggy cream dungarees, Breton top, monkey boots (I said it was the 80s). She'd even had her hair done the same as me. I. Was. Mortified.

That's weird OP - I think yours is just happy coincidence / both liking comfy clothes.

No it doesn't matter! She's obviously inherited her sense of style from you, so don't worry. Dress how you feel comfortable and don't change.

I'm 37 and still dress in jeans, hoodies and Converse.

I also own a pair of Airforce ones. Last week a random group of teens out in the street said to me "cool trainers lady!" They didn't care that a woman old enough to be their mum was striding around in them.

I don't think it matters any more.

Out on my xmas do I saw a woman I guessed to be in her late 40s wearing a tight short glittery bodycon dress. I'd tried it on myself, and despite looking quite good in it, I put it back thinking "don't be so ridiculous, you're too old for dresses like this now!'. When I saw that older woman rocking it I realised I had been silly.

I have this issue now. I've just turned 51 and my daughter is 22. I favour, for sleeveless round neck silky tops when going out and jeans, have done for years, and my daughter now favours the exact same. We have often turned up pretty much dressed identical, without discussing it.

So for example we both bought an olive green sleeveless round neck top, different brands but identical nearly, without telling the other, both got ready and both turned up wearing it and both in skinny black jeans, someone said " you do know you've dressed like your daughter". 🤣

I also did it to her though, she wears a bronzey coloured one. I ordered a reiss one, and realised it was nearly identical to hers when it arrived. Kept it though. She's also nicked some of mine.

Ultimately though she's copied me as that's kind of been my smart casual going out uniform for years and years. Jeans, sleeveless shell top, boots. Can't say it bothers me. She's my daughter so it's fine. If it was a friend I'd be weirded out.

My 12yo dd has a similar style.....I'm jeans and hoody person. she coverts a hoody I have but won't buy in case friends realise we have same top. We had to negotiate over who bought another top we both liked last month......

I often wonder this too. I’m nearly 40 and my teen is 17. We both live in jeans, hoodies and trainers. DD seems to like it and we often borrow each other’s clothes.

I think it's up to young people to move away from their parents, not the other way round.

I can't wear DMs for exactly the same reason!

My dd borrows my dresses! (They are better brands than hers) it doesn't matter especially casual clothing, don't we all wear jeans and jumpers?

Wtf is an air force one? I thought I was trendy as fuck but I've never heard of this!

There was only 15 yrs between dd1 and I.
We were always swapping clothes. She was never out in my wardrobe.

My daughter is 15 and loves my clothes, bless her. She's always looking through my dresses. We are the same size (ish), so she's able to borrow anything she likes.

Shops sell females clothes in all ages and a lot of the stuff is the same so you can’t help but dress like your DD.

My DD is 17 and I’m 38 and we wear similar clothing.

It’s not my fault that the things I’ve been wearing since the 90s have come back in!

What about when it's DS and mum wearing similar stuff? Albeit he's rake thin, and I'm an hourglass (plus a 40 year age gap) so we couldn't be mistaken for each other, but for jeans, jumpers and footwear our tastes are alike. I'd trust him to buy clothes for me, but not DH.

Does your daughter suggest stuff you should buy when shopping and then try to borrow it?

My dds and I share our Airforce Ones, 97s and 95s!

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