My teen DD and I dress very similarly - does it matter?

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I’m 46, she’s 17. Both have a pretty casual style and tbf to me I’ve dressed much the same for years but I realised today we were almost identical in black jeans, grey sweatshirt, furry jacket and Airforce One trainers.

I’d hate to be mistaken for one of those mums who tries to be their daughter’s best mate and wants to go on the pull with them - we’re very close but that’s not at all my style! I also wonder if I’m kidding myself and trying too hard to look young but I’m comfortable even if she does look better than me 🙄😂

Is this an issue or am I overthinking?

My 13 and 15 year old daughters and I ( in my my 30s) share clothing all the time!

V similar to my student dd, but even worse, all 3 dc always wear the same colours. Twinning to extremes round here!
Looks better on family photos 😬 but no one seems to mind.
(When they were little I realised one winter that we all had bright red coats. V cheerful then, but we're all more muted now)

It’s easy to look different from your teen. Buy an expensive classic coat. Ditto handbag. Ditto boots. Wear cashmere. Buy from classy manufacturers who don’t produce uniforms.

The day I start dressing in classic clothes will be the day I give the hell up. :D

It’s easy to look different from your teen. Buy an expensive classic coat. Ditto handbag. Ditto boots. Wear cashmere. Buy from classy manufacturers who don’t produce uniforms

It doesn't work like that, I give my daughter any items I don't use so much, so she's currently got an lk Bennett large leather handbag from me she uses for work for her laptop , a pair of Hudson boots I wasn't really wearing and she liked, a Ralph Lauren coat and a Hugo boss biker jacket as they were slightly too tight on me.

If I'm not getting the use out of it, I'd rather she did. I don't want expensive items languishing in my wardrobe, and happily offer her stuff.

Maybe someone will surprise you one day and say you look like sisters.

Ah yes @BubblesBuddy so easy for anyone to buy expensive coats and cashmere

I don't know what airforce ones are. They seem very popular! I'm imagining a sort of converse style shoe.. I will Google it.

Now I think about it, I don't dress anything like my mum. We have completely different styles and body shapes. It doesn't sound weird in your op though, just sounds like you have similar taste in clothes.

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It’s easy to look different from your teen. Buy an expensive classic coat. Ditto handbag. Ditto boots. Wear cashmere. Buy from classy manufacturers who don’t produce uniforms

Lolz.

I have some nice dresses in my wardrobe that I never wear anymore but hang on to on the off-chance I will ever go somewhere that requires dressing up, but also the thought has crossed my mind that my dd might want them when she's older. Now I'm wondering if that second part is a weird thing to think.

And thanks greater, they're not what I imagined at all!

Am I the only one that trips over their AF1’s ALL the time?! The sole seems determined to take me out.

It works like that in my house Bluntness100. Takes all sorts though. DDs are wanting my handbags so they say. They will pass on my coats, dresses and cashmere. I don’t keep anything for them. They have their own tastes. It’s not obligatory to wear hoodies and DMs as a mum. You develop your style as you get older and if it’s a classic look and you can afford it, why not? The op didn’t ask about money.

I dress the same as my teenage boys!

Skinny jeans, band or fandom t-shirt, hoody.

I wore them first so they're copying me. I'm obviously a fashion icon. I'll tell them tomorrow, I'm sure they'll agree.

“t doesn't work like that, I give my daughter any items I don't use so much, so she's currently got an lk Bennett large leather handbag from me she uses for work for her laptop , a pair of Hudson boots I wasn't really wearing and she liked, a Ralph Lauren coat and a Hugo boss biker jacket as they were slightly too tight on me. If I'm not getting the use out of it, I'd rather she did. I don't want expensive items languishing in my wardrobe, and happily offer her stuff”

It only works like that when mummy’s hand me downs are something a daughter would want to wear/own in the first place. Maybe you don’t use them much because they just never really suited you, but did suit your child. HTH

wear what you like but those trainers (never heard of them til just now) are very teenagery/trendy. looking so if you don't want to look like you are trying to dress teenager trendy i'd pick something else!

Maybe you don’t use them much because they just never really suited you, but did suit your child. HTH

Miaow 🤣

LazyDaisey... you're making yourself sound more than a little bit pathetic. it's almost cute.

Most daughters would not wear the same style as her mother. It’s a bit odd to do so.

I think this thread proves it's very common. Jeans, trainers, boots, jumpers, t shirts, leather jackets, etc are all fairly universal ageless casual clothes.

I'd agree the daughter won't dress like the mother if she doesn't feel the mother looks good in what she's wearing. Of if the relationship isn't good.

But often daughters will end up with similar tastes to the mother, if and only if, they feel they like the way their mother looks in something,

As said, I often favour these sleeveless tops, with jeans, or trousers, when going out, I've an avalanche of them. And I've worn different varieties of them for years. Should I stop wearing them now because my 22 year old does the same?

At a recent school casual event, 3 mother and daughter pairs dressed v similarly so I think it's not unusual that M and D share tastes
1 - skinny jeans, silky shirt, casual blazer, black Chelsea boots
2 - wide leg cream/white cropped jeans, chunky white trainers, cropped jumper
3 - skinny jeans, pointed flat loafers, polo neck jumper, smart blazers

DD and I were one of the 3 pairs and both noted it at the time!

Me and my mum dress very similarly. Jeans/stripy long sleeve top/vest top/cardigans. I'm 22 she's 51. To be honest I think the whole vest top cardigan combination came from breastfeeding for easy access, I stopped feeding my son a year ago and she stopped feeding my youngest sister 4 years ago (my sister is 6 she's not a weirdo) and the outfits have just stuck.
Good though because I can choose clothes for her and vice versa.

I think the other thing is that mothers / daughters are often the same size / body shape so that can also encourage some similar choices of clothes.

Not quite the same, but both my dd & I have properly short hair (admittedly different cuts), as did my DM for most of my life. All three of us have large amounts of very fine dead straight hair, and small faces & short just works well.

Having said that I was a bit when I was heading out with DD & my 85 y/o DF before Christmas & realised we'd all got on brand new corduroy trousers. Fortunately they were all different styles and colours

"Maybe you don’t use them much because they just never really suited you, but did suit your child. HTH"

I reckon the problem is that everything looks better on a 17 year old!

Thanks for all the positive comments, interesting to see how common it is and that only a minority think it’s odd 🙄

Re the trainers I guess they are a bit teeny but we could just as easily have had on similar Converse or Gazelles both of which I was wearing long before DD was even thought about.