Do people tell you you're pretty?

[wishiwasinbarbados]

Probably a very shallow post, but here goes…
Background - people used to tell me I was pretty when I was younger. Then I got married, had kids, got depressed and I admit I "let myself go" and put on 4 stone.
I'm now 49, and am getting my life back on track. I've lost 2 stone, started face care routine again etc and am generally much happier.
I think I look pretty good, especially for my age . (I'm still a bit overweight by 1 stone though)
Lots of people comment on how nice my hair is, but no one actually says I look nice.

If you're pretty, do people still tell you?

Nearly 42, very occasionally get told it. Didn't get told it very much historically and fine with that - I think I'm not unattractive but I reckon that because I spent most of my teens and 20s with very short cropped hair, and often dressed a bit tomboyishly, people just assumed I wasn't that interested in 'pretty' and they were quite right!

Yep. Literally every single day. I might have unashamedly taught my 1 year old to say 'mummy's pretty!'

I have been called pretty on Facebook when I've posted photos... but in real life I find people use "stunning/gorgeous/fit" (obviously not all the time ). I'm 32 and. Have mostly been described as "attractive" or "glamorous". I always have my hair and make up done.

The best compliment I ever got was on my wedding day, my very lovely male friend told me that I had "taken his breath away".

I have one young colleague who I would describe as being very pretty, she's only in her early 20s bit is classically pretty.

I’m 41 soon. I get called pretty / beautiful/ striking a fair bit; adjectives vary dependent on who is saying them.

My abusive ex-H wailed when I finally left him: “but I told you you’re the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met!”... shame he routinely disparaged and devalued my character, intellect and capabilities really

I only really trust my youngest DS when he says it.

I was regularly told I was pretty when I was younger but haven't been recently I don't think.

'Buff', 'sexy', 'gorgeous' (by semi-blind partner), 'peng' (by teenage DD when I'm ready for a night out) but I'd forgotten about 'pretty' and had definitely forgotten the need to be seen as that. Achievement takes over in importance doesn't it?

I’m really envious of those of you who get so many compliments. I don’t think I’m that bad looking but the most I get off my husband is ‘nice’
My friends never tell me I look nice even though I will always say to them how lovely they look on a night out.
The best I get is ‘ smart’ in work or ‘nice hair’.
I feel quite sad actually - and silly for feeling sad

Never. I've been told I'm ugly quite a lot.

Never pretty even when young. I am tall definitely not petite and girly, nor have I ever looked good in girly clothes. I'm not disparaging people who do look good in them, it's just that I don't. I tend to get good-looking, beautiful, wow, you look amazing/great. I mostly dress down but scrub up remarkably well so I get compliments when I do.

Nope. Never have. Got an unusual style and a serious case of Resting Bitch Face anyway.

When I started my new job I was told by one of my co workers that she thought I was really pretty. It really caught me off guard and my face went bright red. My husband tells me often which genuinely means so much to me, especially when I'm feeling the opposite

My mum
My husband
Few of my closest friends

They all have to though

I used to get told I looked pretty a lot (although I didn't really see it myself at the time, fool). My face aged rapidly after a premature menopause, really rapidly and I've looked unmistakably shite ever since, the kind of shite that only serious work would fix. I miss the prettier me. I'm now invisible basically.

No but then I'm not.

I wish I was.

Yes @KatherineJaneway I wish I was too.

Yes, I’m 44.

But I do have quite an old fashioned face, bit like a china doll really. I hated it when I was trying to be an edgy teenager, but as I got older I realise there’s worse things.

There certainly are, Volvemos.

From the age of thirteen I was told I was pretty/beautiful etc, used to have men coming into my office when I was at work to pass the time :-). There was more to me than looks though.

I'm nearly seventy now and am quite happy to just look nice if I'm going anywhere.

Apart from DC and occasionally DH and once last summer (sounding so shocked she needed to sit down ) a good friend, I haven't been given a physical compliment in years. I am two and a half stone overweight and look permanently exhausted, wrinkly, jowly and grey. I'm one of those people whose looks have aged badly.

@Bluerussian

^^I kinda look like the blushy face

@Morgenrot

Hard, isn't it

Men who want to shag me have told me I'm pretty. I'm 48. I'm not sure they are completely honest in their claims 😂. I suspect this is something all men say to get women to sleep with them 😂

And in real life most people are pretty average or plain; this is like a MN gifted and talented thread.
98% of Mumsnetters have stunning children, who are all above average intelligence and are regularly subject to compliments in the street.
🙄

And in real life most people are pretty average or plain

Of course, but as I tell my children when they ask if they are pretty 'I love you and so to me you are very beautiful, the people who love you will always think you are beautiful'. People aren't talking about strangers in the street but people they know complimenting them. I'm sure no-one actually thinks they are above average in physical appearance just because their SO tells them they are beautiful.

Pretty average and plain people that I have known (& I haven't really thought of them that way), seem to be happier in many ways, have good loving marriages, etc.

Beautiful woman often have a strange effect on men, obviously strong attraction at first and then they seem to want to put the woman down and control them (not all of course). I don't know why that is, do the men feel insecure?

I've known more pretty girls with broken hearts than plain ones!