Do people tell you you're pretty?

[wishiwasinbarbados]

Probably a very shallow post, but here goes…
Background - people used to tell me I was pretty when I was younger. Then I got married, had kids, got depressed and I admit I "let myself go" and put on 4 stone.
I'm now 49, and am getting my life back on track. I've lost 2 stone, started face care routine again etc and am generally much happier.
I think I look pretty good, especially for my age . (I'm still a bit overweight by 1 stone though)
Lots of people comment on how nice my hair is, but no one actually says I look nice.

If you're pretty, do people still tell you?

Not pretty no.
I have been told that I'm beautiful, have had striking, stunning, how do you look like that at your age that kind of stuff.
I often tell my daughter she is pretty, but she's 10, and rather lovely, inside and out.

Actually my daughter told me I was much more beautiful than Amal Clooney, when I was feeling a bit low. See, she is just lovely.

shitpark
Your dd is lovely!

Never, I'm 44.

I used to be told that a lot up until mid fifties I suppose. Since then I haven't mixed much and don't care but I can scrub up OK if occasion demands. I had to do that in August for an - event (can't think of a better word), and lots of people complimented me but, as I said, I don't care now :-). I am ME and that's all that matters, seventy next month.

You're still young, op. You can lose that bit of weight and look great, you probably look good now. It's important that you feel well and confident, then you will automatically look fine.

Gosh I don't think ever by adults but my little daughters call me pretty. I'm nice or pleasant looking. I do get other compliments though and would rather be told I look young or that I'm a great baker (because I know that's true!).

Always. ponytail flick 🤣

Beautiful/hot/ yes, but I'm definitely too old for pretty in my mid 40s!

I’m told I’m pretty or beautiful by family often by colleagues or friends occasionally. I’ve been told I’m sexy a couple of times by random men but since I’m middle aged, middle sized, plain at best and rarely dressed to attract, I know its teasing. They’re all telling untruths but It’s nice to hear.

My 18yo DD tells me I am, but it seems to be an adjective that she and her friends use a lot- for people and things.

Now I think about it, she will say “You look pretty”.

Pretty, I think is really for young people. I don’t think more mature women are ‘pretty’. Beautiful, attractive, striking, stunning etc definitely, but not ‘pretty’.

I had pretty when I was younger. I’m 48 now, don’t get much attention to start out with but when I get talking to men they tell me I have a beautiful face. I’d love to get ‘hot’ or ‘sexy’ but I’ll take beautiful!

I remember asking my mum when I was 29 if I was pretty and she said "No, you're not cute enough to be pretty, but beautiful yes".

I cried on the phone to my ex-boyfriend shortly after that and he reminded me that when he first met me he'd said that what he liked about me was that I "wasn't obvious". I've hung onto that!

What? Pretty is only for the young?

So it's cute, pretty, then beautiful? Where's stunning? After beautiful?

Me confused

@managedmis

No, I don't personally think pretty is "only for the young". Older women can be 'pretty' too, but it is an adjective more commonly used for children and younger women. Hope that clarifies .

I get told beautiful, gorgeous, good looking. And cute frequently by men, women and children.
A couple of children described me as scary. My hair and eyes get most compliments. My smile has been complimented. My boobs and legs.

I would not say pretty about another woman particularly if over 35. I think it's more like that very young innocent look 'pretty'.

I was told stunning, too..i dont believe any of it.

I get told I'm pretty quite a bit, but I think a pp is right about the doll analogy.

I am very short (4ft8) and have petite features, small hands, feet etc. If I wear the wrong kind of dress I look very child/doll like.

I'd rather be told I look well put together, or sophisticated or lovely than pretty. It's almost as bad as being called cute.

@billywigsting

YY, one of my best friends is a similar height and she says she cannot wear the colour pink as she thinks she looks too childish.

It's tough when some of the kids in your dc's primary school are taller than you are!

I own a lot of high heels...

I do get called pretty, but it's been by young children generally. If the compliment-giver has been over the age of about 12 it's been beautiful/gorgeous/good-looking.

I'm not in the least bit doll-like though

billy

My friend is a teacher . She also wears heels very well.

I haven't been called pretty in a while... i used to get complemented generally on my appearance quite a lot when I was younger, but since kids came along it's all gone downhill!

If I do get a comment in my looks it's generally beautiful or similar, pretty seems to be behind me now. Yesterday someone said to me (I'm super pregnant so not feeling amazing anyway) ' you're looking well for someone about to drop! I like your hair like that, i had a wig for Halloween that looked just like it!' I wasn't sure how to take that one, I felt like a 'you look good' would have done 🤷🏼‍♀️

I get told I'm very smart and funny. Don't think I've ever been told I'm pretty (and I was pretty enough in my 20s), I'd take it slightly as an insult, I'd never use it as a compliment, even for a child. It's a bit infantising and suggests the only thing of value is your appearance. In fact the last woman I heard it being used about it was definitely used as an insult, it really meant 'she isn't his intellectual equal and I don't like her' (discussion was about a couple having an affair). Women in their 40s tend to describe each other as looking 'great' or 'fabulous' or 'fantastic' if they are really complimenting each other.

Im 43. My partner tells me it fairly often and occasionally other people do