Do people tell you you're pretty?

[wishiwasinbarbados]

Probably a very shallow post, but here goes…
Background - people used to tell me I was pretty when I was younger. Then I got married, had kids, got depressed and I admit I "let myself go" and put on 4 stone.
I'm now 49, and am getting my life back on track. I've lost 2 stone, started face care routine again etc and am generally much happier.
I think I look pretty good, especially for my age . (I'm still a bit overweight by 1 stone though)
Lots of people comment on how nice my hair is, but no one actually says I look nice.

If you're pretty, do people still tell you?

My partner calls me beautiful but I've never been told I look pretty, not as a child or adult. I've just not got that kind of face

I get told I'm beautiful.
Don't see it myself in all honesty

I get sexy -hot- beautiful- gorgeous

A couple of people (literally only a couple) have described me as beautiful, as in classically, like a painting. God, that sounds really arrogant. Sorry. I think that kind of thing is very much in the eye of the beholder - I think other people would describe me as quite ugly. I've never been called pretty which I think means something much more universally pleasing to the eye. My face is quite brutal really. It's only women who've described me that way as well - I've never been chatted up because I don't think I have the kind of looks that are particularly attractive to men.

OP I have definitely noticed I hear it less these days (i'm 42) It does seem to be a term reserved more for the young. Doesn't mean you aren't attractive.

Also, think about this - at 49 people in your life have largely stopped telling you that you're pretty because they are used to you! They've been seeing you for a while now, so they've just become accustomed to your prettiness It would be odd if they kept commenting on it at this stage.
(this is at least what I am choosing to believe anyway....)

No. I’m in my thirties.
In my early twenties I used to to get told it all the time by random people in shops or on the bus.. it was kind of just part of life that people would say that a lot (mostly old people).

I think it would be a bit weird if someone said it to me now I’m a bit older and usually have kids with me. I can’t imagine stopping a stranger and commenting on their looks at all but I’m imagining that they thought it was a nice thing to say to a young woman and would be inappropriate now.

No one ever really comments on how I look now other than DS who says I look beautiful every day but I take that with a pinch of salt, lovely as it is!

I haven’t been told I’m pretty for many many years now.
When I was in my 20s I used to quite often get told I was pretty or beautiful.
Now I have to force dh to say it.
I do think it is said more to younger women. Not because younger women are prettier necessarily but just because it doesn’t seem as appropriate to say to older women. I used to tell friends they were pretty all the time when we were younger but I never say that now. I say they look great, but not pretty.

I was once told I looked like a Madonna from a painting - not THE Madonna, thankfully. Lol

I used to get pretty & beautiful whereas now I get beautiful or good looking. I think beautiful is less age restricted, I know an incredibly beautiful elderly Indian women who has a bone structure to die for. And not by people who I know cause I've known them forever & Im shadow of my former self! More by colleagues at a new job etc & in context as opposed to Dave randomly saying it at the photocopier.

my mother was pretty, even at 92, she had nice skin and sparkly eyes.
dh says I'm pretty too, never beautiful, which I'm sure you need more interesting and robust features for, but pretty, yes.

I've been called beautiful more than pretty - I must hasten to add not that often!! I'm nothing special. Now I'm 45 it's less frequent but my husband still says it.

Not since I stopped covering up my grey! I'm only 37 and have A LOT of grey hair and I developed a hair dye allergy 3 years ago. Up until then I used to get told I was pretty fairly often. Now I'm invisible, which I love because I hate attention.

A couple of years ago a market stall owner called me beautiful. No other stranger have call me that. Family, especially ds1 call me pretty.

It's really hard to answer that one without coming across as braggy or up myself!! I am lucky enough to look much younger than my age (pushing 50) and people do say it. I tend to think of pretty as something associated with younger women and older women seem to be described as beautiful. I have never been described as beautiful though!

If you want an appraisal of how attractive you are to your intended dating pool, you could try photofeelr? Not 100% sure on the spelling but google it. You can post photos to have them anonymously rated and select who you want to rate you (sex and age range). It's quite fun!
I'm 40 and have rarely been described as 'pretty' - I don't have the girly innocent look - although a (young, female) work colleague described me as 'extremely pretty' not so long ago. I thought it was a strange word to choose but hey, I'll take any conpliment.

Yes! But only by my own kids, who are still in single digits. By the time they are teens they will have changed their minds.

My dh. But he needs to go to Specsavers

Yes, my 18yo dd, and a few of her friends have told me I'm pretty. Some of the younger members of my sports team (late twenties) have also said so. Maybe it's a word more used by younger people? Either way, I'll take it!

I used to be told I was beautiful. Now at 44 only dh says I'm beautiful because I look like shit

Only my husband and my mum. And while that's very lovely and I appreciate it from them both.... it doesn't really count.

Pretty is definitely not my adjective! Never was, even when younger. Ah well.

You and me both! The only person that tells me I'm pretty is my hairdresser who charges way too much though I suspect that it's all just a ruse to get me to keep going back!

I'm very fat and often told I'm pretty but more often than not it's in either one of two ways- 'So lucky you're pretty since you are such a big girl ' or ' You're a pretty girl now but imagine how pretty you'd be if you lost weight'

I get told I have nice skin.
Often get asked about my skin routine. I joke I don't wash.

I do get called pretty and I'm 49. it's quite strange I think.

I remember my ex saying that I was unaware of how pretty I was.

My boyfriend and random men quite often say it to me, but women more likely to use attractive or good looking.

I had an abusive upbringing where my mother used to criticise me more often than not, so it's not something I necessarily believe, although now, enough people tell me that I am . I'm a bit messed up I think! (rationally I think I have days where I scrub up ok, and other days where I look shockingly tired and haggard).