Black dress to an autumn wedding

[missanony]

Is this a no no?

There is nothing in the shops that isn’t casual or Christmas party glitter...

Also those more muted darker colours for autumn is lovely and very appropriate. A flappy shoestring-strap silky number in Paz-tel or a flowery fitted wotsit on a chilly day looks horrendous and cheap

I only would if you can go v bright with the accessories.
There is other stuff out there if you look hard. No idea of your style or the wedding but phase eight has a lot of dresses, eg this

www.phase-eight.com/product/sonia-spot-pleat-dress-206759911.html#gclid=EAIaIQobChMIlteszYaj5QIVCbLtCh0CiQMLEAAYAiAAEgJSk_D_BwE&cgid=sale-dresses&sz=60&start=0&pid=206759911&pos=54

In MN world, a total faux pas.

In the real world, absolutely fine.

A lady wore black to my wedding, she was by far the best dressed woman there! She was from overseas, looked beautiful. I honestly don’t think most people care any more unless it is a super traditional ceremony?

Thanks everyone! I’ll not go with the completely black one then!

I’m 5’6
Size 12-14
Need sleeves, preferably half to 3/4
Needs to be v necked
I only really suit bold colours or black
Budget up to £60
The wedding is this weekend though!

So when I say there’s nothing, there’s nothing that fits my rules that isn’t a work dress

In MN world, a total faux pas.
In the real world, absolutely fine

It’s a total faux pas in my world.

Do I only exist on MN?

I was at a big wedding a few weeks ago and noticed that a few of the female guests were in black. The mother of the bride was in cream (another MN faux pas) and looked amazing.

I'm in Ireland though, where the sames rules might not apply. Weddings are very dressy here, really glamorous with evening wear acceptable during the day, so that might make a difference. I wore the sort of thing I'd wear to an English wedding, and felt a bit under dressed.

What about this?
www.riverisland.com/p/the-black-sienna-dress-741043
Could be nice with pale pink heels and accessories?

Fine. Maybe a black background with a print?

Don't wear a pashmina though.

Strong colour. But maybe too short?

Don't wear a pashmina though

I do have a black background with a print which might work.

Black is classy, styled with good shoes and bag you will look fabulous. Sleek ponytail or bun for hair. Go for it. Plus you can wear it again.

Went to a winter wedding last year and there were loads of people in black dresses. Mostly corded lace with a slip underneath, some kind of pattern or jacket/accessories in lighter colours, so not an unbroken block of black though.

Zara & H&M

www.oasis-stores.com/gb/clothing/dresses/floral-lace-midi-dress/071680.html?dwvar_071680_color=58&position=59&cgid=dresses#page=4&productsMoved=3&hideFeatured=false&start=59&categoryID=dresses

i wore a black dress to my own wedding. (and i wore white to my best friend's wedding.) black is fine, i've never known anyone irl tut about black at a wedding.

Going to a vow renewal in church soon. Will be wearing black. It's what I like and what I already have. If I buy a "weddingy" outfit I'll need shoes and a bag that I'll never use again and I won't feel like myself. People invite you for your company not for your wardrobe.

I think one of the reasons black is a problem is that it looks like you have just worn something from your wardrobe that you wear to work. Therefore no effort made. Something by Valentino obviously isn’t work wear!

A wedding full of people wearing black would be awful. If everyone did this it wouldn’t feel like a wedding, in my opinion.

Black and bright colours is meh too. No one really does this and it’s definitely trying too hard!

Get to M&S. They have loads of great dresses at under £50 right now. Try and find one of their midi dresses - bang up to date and mostly prints.

Black is fine! And it doesn't have to be black with brights either. Great with chocolate, blush, forest green, plum etc If it feels good you'll look good OP!

I think if it's a glamorous party dress it's fine. You wouldn't dress like that to a wedding. Accessorise it up and you'll look perfect. On the provisio the couple arent really traditional/old fashioned. I'm very superstitions but that wouldn't bother me. I'd rather people looked nice and felt comfortable. Black is no longer the domain of funerals, look around the street at womens workwear, a large proportion is black as is going out clothing, it's not a colour representative of sadness. I've worn black to weddings shave others I've known and it's never caused a second though (my friends would have told me!!)

@sclough that Zara dress is amazing!!

Yes. I agree. It’s work wear or party wear. Not wedding wear. However if it’s s modern wedding with party straight after and guests are all wearing party dresses etc, that’s ok. If everyone worn work wear to my wedding I would have not been happy. If the bride is not bothered about what people wear, then wear what you want.

I went to an ex boyfriend’s wedding years ago and his mum wore her navy blue cardigan over an old dress that she’s had for years. Just looked cheap and not suitable for the occasion. At least it wasn’t black but it made me glad her son was an ex!

It’s absolutely fine. I got married in winter and a number of people wore black or very dark colours. They all looked lovely and I really didn’t give it a second thought. I’ve also worn black to a wedding and wasn’t the only one. As a previous poster said this seems to be a big no no on Mumsnet, however in real life it’s fine. I bet you won’t be the only one wearing black. Maybe you could add accessories that are a different colour if you’re a bit concerned?

I wore a black velvet dress covered in silver shooting stars to a wedding recently BUT her mum died the day of her wedding and it seemed appropriate. The bride commented v positively as I also had star earrings on