Black dress to an autumn wedding

[missanony]

Is this a no no?

There is nothing in the shops that isn’t casual or Christmas party glitter...

[FreezingMySocksOff]

*as were not we were

[FreezingMySocksOff]

In the last 5years I've been to 6weddings. People wore black at every single one. Someone wore a black dress to my wedding in July. I'm under the age of 40 if that makes any difference, we were the people who wore black (in case it's a generational thing).
Nobody cared about wearing black and it was not mentioned by anybody.

[Birdie5577]

Nothing wrong with black as long as it is done appropriately.one of my friends wore a beautiful black Chinese style dress to my wedding and I had no problem at all with it.

IMO style is far more important than colour

[myolivetree]

@ sclough

That dress is beauty.

[Redspider1]

I’ve worn a black dress to a summer wedding. I paired it with gold accessories, sleeveless style, bare tanned legs.

[ClientListQueen]

I wore a black velvet dress covered in silver shooting stars to a wedding recently BUT her mum died the day of her wedding and it seemed appropriate. The bride commented v positively as I also had star earrings on

[stoplickingthetelly]

It’s absolutely fine. I got married in winter and a number of people wore black or very dark colours. They all looked lovely and I really didn’t give it a second thought. I’ve also worn black to a wedding and wasn’t the only one. As a previous poster said this seems to be a big no no on Mumsnet, however in real life it’s fine. I bet you won’t be the only one wearing black. Maybe you could add accessories that are a different colour if you’re a bit concerned?

[BubblesBuddy]

Yes. I agree. It’s work wear or party wear. Not wedding wear. However if it’s s modern wedding with party straight after and guests are all wearing party dresses etc, that’s ok. If everyone worn work wear to my wedding I would have not been happy. If the bride is not bothered about what people wear, then wear what you want.

I went to an ex boyfriend’s wedding years ago and his mum wore her navy blue cardigan over an old dress that she’s had for years. Just looked cheap and not suitable for the occasion. At least it wasn’t black but it made me glad her son was an ex!

[GlamGiraffe]

@sclough that Zara dress is amazing!!

[GlamGiraffe]

I think if it's a glamorous party dress it's fine. You wouldn't dress like that to a wedding. Accessorise it up and you'll look perfect. On the provisio the couple arent really traditional/old fashioned. I'm very superstitions but that wouldn't bother me. I'd rather people looked nice and felt comfortable. Black is no longer the domain of funerals, look around the street at womens workwear, a large proportion is black as is going out clothing, it's not a colour representative of sadness. I've worn black to weddings shave others I've known and it's never caused a second though (my friends would have told me!!)

[myolivetree]

Black is fine! And it doesn't have to be black with brights either. Great with chocolate, blush, forest green, plum etc If it feels good you'll look good OP!

[BubblesBuddy]

I think one of the reasons black is a problem is that it looks like you have just worn something from your wardrobe that you wear to work. Therefore no effort made. Something by Valentino obviously isn’t work wear!

A wedding full of people wearing black would be awful. If everyone did this it wouldn’t feel like a wedding, in my opinion.

Black and bright colours is meh too. No one really does this and it’s definitely trying too hard!

Get to M&S. They have loads of great dresses at under £50 right now. Try and find one of their midi dresses - bang up to date and mostly prints.

[Marylou2]

Going to a vow renewal in church soon. Will be wearing black. It's what I like and what I already have. If I buy a "weddingy" outfit I'll need shoes and a bag that I'll never use again and I won't feel like myself. People invite you for your company not for your wardrobe.

[DaisyBD]

i wore a black dress to my own wedding. (and i wore white to my best friend's wedding.) black is fine, i've never known anyone irl tut about black at a wedding.

[onanothertrain]

www.oasis-stores.com/gb/clothing/dresses/floral-lace-midi-dress/071680.html?dwvar_071680_color=58&position=59&cgid=dresses#page=4&productsMoved=3&hideFeatured=false&start=59&categoryID=dresses

[sclough]

Zara & H&M

[MangoSalsa]

Went to a winter wedding last year and there were loads of people in black dresses. Mostly corded lace with a slip underneath, some kind of pattern or jacket/accessories in lighter colours, so not an unbroken block of black though.

[sclough]

Black is classy, styled with good shoes and bag you will look fabulous. Sleek ponytail or bun for hair. Go for it. Plus you can wear it again.

[missanony]

Don't wear a pashmina though

I do have a black background with a print which might work.

[QuaterMiss]

Strong colour. But maybe too short?

[RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie]

Fine. Maybe a black background with a print?

Don't wear a pashmina though.

[Ravenrob]

What about this?
www.riverisland.com/p/the-black-sienna-dress-741043
Could be nice with pale pink heels and accessories?

[DramaAlpaca]

I was at a big wedding a few weeks ago and noticed that a few of the female guests were in black. The mother of the bride was in cream (another MN faux pas) and looked amazing.

I'm in Ireland though, where the sames rules might not apply. Weddings are very dressy here, really glamorous with evening wear acceptable during the day, so that might make a difference. I wore the sort of thing I'd wear to an English wedding, and felt a bit under dressed.

[FriedasCarLoad]

In MN world, a total faux pas.
In the real world, absolutely fine

It’s a total faux pas in my world.
Do I only exist on MN?

[missanony]

So when I say there’s nothing, there’s nothing that fits my rules that isn’t a work dress