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Need another funeral outfit

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namechangedyetagain · 23/06/2019 12:49

But I'm too fat. I ordered this first dress with grey trim but even with shape underwear I look like a whale. I tried on the next size up but it was too big around the shoulders.

Second pic, where I'm feeling pissed off is what I wore to last funeral not so long ago. Feel huge in that as well.

It has to be a dress, and black. Smart but comfy fit getting in and out of cars etc.
I'm struggling a bit today and any pointers would be amazing. Thank you

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HundredMilesAnHour · 23/06/2019 13:16

You're most definitely not a whale! Nor are you fat. But you seem to be choosing dresses which are too small/don't suit your figure. I'd suggest looking for something that skims your body rather than being skin tight. That will look more elegant and show your figure off without highlighting every lump and bump (that we all have!)

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namechangedyetagain · 23/06/2019 16:09

Thank you. I do like that flared dress but wouldn't be able to show my arms. What could I wear it with? I have never found a jacket to suit me, and I don't own one!

Feeling very down about everything todaySad

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namechangedyetagain · 23/06/2019 17:45

Ok have ordered that belt flare dress, just to see. But I'm still unsure about having bare arms / short sleeves.

Also briefly considered a jumpsuit (the was a black phase eight one I saw on MN recommends the other week) but not sure if a. It would fit, b. If it would sit me or c be appropriate for a funeral.

Glad I've not left this to the last minute!

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HundredMilesAnHour · 23/06/2019 17:50

If you don't want to show your arms and don't like/have jackets, you could wear a simple cardigan. This one is fitted enough to keep your look sleek and chic still:

www.johnlewis.com/john-lewis-partners-button-through-cardigan/black/p3913255

Hope this helps a little. Funerals are tough for everyone involved.

HundredMilesAnHour · 23/06/2019 18:00

Personally I wouldn't wear a jumpsuit to a funeral but I think I'm quite traditional/conservative in terms of funeral attire (my usual style is quite edgy/fashion forward but I go very conservative for funerals).

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namechangedyetagain · 23/06/2019 19:32

Yes me too. I own black cardis as work uniform so that's ok.
Think I'd feel happier in a dress.

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namechangedyetagain · 26/06/2019 16:08

Back to the drawing board. That Jolie dress just doesn't suitSad

Feeling really stuck now and starting to panic a bit.

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TeaChocKitKat · 26/06/2019 16:34

What's your budget?

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namechangedyetagain · 26/06/2019 17:04

As cheap as possible as I figure I probably won't wear it again!

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TeaChocKitKat · 26/06/2019 17:59

There are a couple of black dresses in the warehouse sale:
www.warehouse.co.uk/gb/sale/dresses/spot-print-midi-dress/033595.html
www.warehouse.co.uk/gb/sale/dresses/wrap-front-shift-dress/033819.html

Have you tried next? There are a few here:

www.next.co.uk/shop/category-dresses/colour-black-use-workwear

I really stressed over what to wear to the funeral of a very close relative recently so I completely understand where you are coming from x

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namechangedyetagain · 26/06/2019 20:08

I think I'm too fat (see above) for warehouse and anything too short at my age. Though if I was younger I'd love those dresses.Sad

It's really tricky isn't it. It's up there with jeans shopping and post natal night wear!

It's my second very close loss in the last 10 months so I'm not feeling the best.

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Sooverthemill · 26/06/2019 20:50

First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. Two funerals in a year is tough.

Honestly I think the first dress looks fine. People will not be critiquing your clothes! But if you feel self conscious you won't be comfortable so that's important. I have a grey knitted dress (long sleeved )from Hobbs which gets rolled out for funerals. If I'm feeling too fat for it, I wear black trousers ( Boden, look in sale), a printed top and a black cardigan. I have a black work jacket I could use too. You can look in Sainsbury's for clothes and Asda if your budget is limited. Warehouse has some classic stuff too.

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namechangedyetagain · 26/06/2019 21:15

Yep first dress is boden sale Smile
I have lots of boden dresses but nothing formal enough

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namechangedyetagain · 28/06/2019 12:04

Jolie dress as suggested above? Maybe it's not too bad???

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TapasForTwo · 28/06/2019 12:13

That's nice. You have great legs. If you have a black cardigan just wear that with it. IME people don't notice what you are wearing at a funeral unless it is outrageous and attention seeking.

Sorry for your losses Flowers

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namechangedyetagain · 28/06/2019 12:22

Thank you. Just showed Dh and he's not sure 🤔

I'm going to be following tbe in and stood at the front delivering the eulogy so everyone may look at me but I'm trying not to think about that too much at the minute.

It does look like something my mum would wear which is worrying me. I have never worn frills or swishy things ever.

This is so hard when you're already feeling fragileSad

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TeaChocKitKat · 28/06/2019 12:26

You look lovely and nobody will be judging you for what you wear anyway x

drquin · 28/06/2019 12:28

That latest dress is lovely, and suits you very well. A simple cardi would work if you want to cover your arms.

But ultimately wear something you are comfortable in. If you go for a supermarket dress, don't stress about what size it is or where it's from - just get one which you are happy with.

It's easy for us to say, but if you're delivering a eulogy No-one watching you is worried about what you're wearing. So just be comfortable in yourself.

pinkground202 · 28/06/2019 12:29

I think that dress with a black cardigan is absolutely perfect. I know you feel very conscious of what you're wearing on these occasions (I would too) but honestly, other people won't notice, they'll just see dark, appropriate clothes.

Sorry for your losses Thanks

nzeire · 28/06/2019 12:36

The last dress is perfect, suits your figure (which is lovely).
Take care x
Don’t forget your rescue remedy

magneticmumbles · 28/06/2019 12:40

A whale? Are you serious? They both look fine. You look about a size 10-12. Not even remotely fat.

Apolloanddaphne · 28/06/2019 12:44

The second one is lovely. Wear with a short cardigan for the service then afterwards you can take that off if you get too warm

Sooverthemill · 28/06/2019 14:08

The latest dress is also lovely. With a black cardigan if you like. Everything probably feels too much at the moment even choosing a dress. Honestly people won't be thinking about what you look like. You will be comfortable and respectfully dressed which is good. Good luck with the Eulogy.

Ocies · 28/06/2019 14:32

I bought this recently from M&S and am so pleased with it. I wear it to work with sandals or shoes for a more formal look which would be fine for a funeral.

So sorry that you are grieving. Be kind to yourself - it's a roller coaster.

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