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Help to find wedding outfit for overweight 30 year old

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jiggsymalone · 03/05/2019 10:21

I have a wedding coming up this summer that I need an outfit for. The thing is I've had quite a difficult year and put on a lot of weight. I've slowly started to lose it again but as someone with a history of eating disorders I'm very wary of not letting myself fall into attempts to crash diet so instead I'm trying to focus on finding something I'll feel good in at the size I am now.

My friend who is getting married has a lot of friends who are obsessed with size and weight (I suspect a couple have eating disorders themselves but this almost seems encouraged in the group) and regularly share 'thinspiration' posts on social media and make comments such as they cant understand how anyone could let themselves get fat, everything they do to make sure they're not, etc. This gives me a bit of the fear about going but I'm just trying to ignore that and focus on me and making myself feel good in my own body.

I found this dress online but it is on a website that doesn't have good reviews so I was hoping for some help to find something similar. I'm currently a size 12/14 (leaning more towards 14 at the minute but still sometimes a 12) and 5ft4. I have a big bust and chunky thighs and calves but a relatively small waist. I also don't like my arms at the moment so looking for something that will keep these covered but that is light enough for a summer wedding.
Can anyone help me to find something similar to this or give any suggestions for other outfits that might work for my body shape?

Thanks.

Help to find wedding outfit for overweight 30 year old
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jiggsymalone · 05/05/2019 06:00

Thanks for the suggestions! I get what people are saying about calves but I guess I've maybe worded it wrong- I also have really chubby knees and basically my entire legs are seriously chunky (I've been told in the past my legs look like beer bottles because of how thick they are) so prefer to cover as much of them as possible, at least to mid-calf.

bloodstained I love that first one and that website has a few that I really like! Have you ordered from there before? Is it easy to return things to them ? Thinking of ordering a couple to try on and sending back the ones I decide not to wear.

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jiggsymalone · 05/05/2019 06:02

Ooh, Ellll I also love that first one you sent in red!

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SpeckledyHen · 05/05/2019 06:17

www.boden.co.uk/en-gb/margie-dress-multi-stripe/sty-k0140-mlt?cat=C2_S2

The sleeves could be shortened .

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InMyBloodstainedSundaysBest · 06/05/2019 02:29

They do have some lovely things. Sorry I've not used them myself but a quick Google of their returns policy shows they're actually a marketplace like Etsy almost, and returns wouldn't be free.. if you ordered from multiple sellers you'd have to pay the postage to return to each I think 🙁

jiggsymalone · 06/05/2019 10:27

speckledyhen
I really like that but it looks slightly heavy material for the time and place of wedding (summer wedding in my hometown abroad).

margarita
I really like that second one!

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jiggsymalone · 06/05/2019 10:29

What do you think of these-

www.asos.com/asos-design/asos-design-plunge-tea-maxi-dress-with-pep-hem/prd/11399958?clr=sage-green&colourWayId=16331622&SearchQuery=&cid=8799&gridcolumn=1&gridrow=19&gridsize=2&pge=19&pgesize=72&totalstyles=1705

www.asos.com/asos-design/asos-design-pleated-bandeau-midi-dress-with-double-layer/prd/11570969?clr=soft-green&colourWayId=16369410&SearchQuery=&cid=8799&gridcolumn=1&gridrow=2&gridsize=2&pge=15&pgesize=72&totalstyles=1722

www.asos.com/asos-design/asos-design-midi-dress-with-batwing-sleeve-and-wrap-waist-in-satin/prd/12331800?clr=red&colourWayId=16404767&SearchQuery=&cid=8799&gridcolumn=1&gridrow=14&gridsize=2&pge=14&pgesize=72&totalstyles=1722

www.asos.com/asos-design/asos-design-soft-pleated-tiered-maxi-dress/prd/10573647?clr=dark-grey&colourWayId=16296379&SearchQuery=&cid=8799&gridcolumn=1&gridrow=1&gridsize=2&pge=9&pgesize=72&totalstyles=1701

www.asos.com/asos-design/asos-design-plunge-neck-maxi-dress-with-border-embroidery/prd/11399933?clr=pink&colourWayId=16353560&SearchQuery=&cid=8799&gridcolumn=2&gridrow=16&gridsize=2&pge=2&pgesize=72&totalstyles=1722

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margaritasbythesea · 06/05/2019 15:18

Op I have just come across this website and thought you might find something here

hopeandivy.co.uk/

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