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Mary, Mary, quite contrary, how does your lady garden grow?

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PinkandBlueMotherofTwo · 09/02/2019 20:52

So I’ve become a bit obsessed with this lately as let’s be honest when do you ever see other people’s real life lady gardens? So time for a straw poll:

Are you a bare naked kinda lady? Landing strip? Wide berth? Trimmed? Au naturel?

The media makes out it’s weird to have public hair. I’m thinking naked truth on channel 4, hair removal adverts, you name it. But what is the majority status quo? Do most women these days really remove all their hair? I’m taking the above examples as an unrepresentative sample of the population considering if you choose to go on a tv show and have your naked body scrutinised you will probably not go on there without some grooming for show.

So hit me Grin

I’ll go first. I reserve bikini waxes for high days and holidays. I don’t shave as I get awful awful shaving rash. So I trim from time to time, but I am most definitely not neat and tidy. I do wax my legs and my eyebrows and shave my armpits regularly. Dh doesn’t care about the state of down there so I don’t bother doing that much but now I’m really self conscious when I use shared swimming changing rooms terrified of being judged by the bare waxers out there!

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Solstice888 · 09/02/2019 21:19

I just trim it. Good old 'celeb' happy ch4 mentioned that apparently only 4% of women leave it full bush these days, which is obviously rubbish. People obviously just didn't want to admit it because heaven forbid women aren't totally hairless in the age of selfies and rampant narcissism xD

PickAChew · 09/02/2019 21:20

Grey and balding like a clown wig. I'm trying to cultivate a combover. Or maybe I should do that other grey and balding thing and pull it into a thin, straggly ponytail.

LilQuim · 09/02/2019 21:20

@PinkandBlueMotherofTwo I'm the same - period is worst time to have longer hair for me too.

I've found a new waxer & honestly it's not that bad - for me the worst bit is the pad right above the labia. I grown hairs can be grim, but I use stuff to stop them.

LilQuim · 09/02/2019 21:21

@TheBreastmilksOnMe I hate all the bashing if you choose to go bald. It's my fanny, why does it offend you?

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PinkandBlueMotherofTwo · 09/02/2019 21:24

@Pickachew best comment in the whole thread Grin

Thank you all for pandering to my obsession! This is all very interesting and I definitely feel more normal now to know there really is huge variety out there! Should’ve posted this thread years ago!

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Ribbonsonabox · 09/02/2019 21:24

I just trim it all down very short with an electric shaver every two months then let it grow out a bit. Do it more often in the summer.
Just keep it neat and tidy. Waxed it once and it made my skin react really badly so never doing that again! Plus I personally thought it looked like a creepy barbie doll crotch. I'm not in to totally shaved at all on men or women.

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PinkandBlueMotherofTwo · 09/02/2019 21:26

You know I never have it two fucks before I started uni. Then a guy asked me what I was like down there and did I shave. His response to my ‘no’ was less than pleasant so maybe this is why I’ve been obsessing that I’m weird?! Anyway, refreshing to know that there are all types and it isn’t one way or the other

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PurpleAndTurquoise · 09/02/2019 21:26

Full bush. I think it's sexier - it shows you are at that fertile age - past puberty and before old age.

NaturalBornWoman · 09/02/2019 21:26

Grey and balding like a clown wig. I'm trying to cultivate a combover. Or maybe I should do that other grey and balding thing and pull it into a thin, straggly ponytail.

Grin

I hear you! And a good proportion of mine has migrated to my chin!

TheBreastmilksOnMe · 09/02/2019 21:27

LilQuim eh? Have you read my post? I said I don’t care what women decide. Their body, their choice.

Piehunter · 09/02/2019 21:29

All shaved off, every other day or so (longer sometimes if feeling lazy!) takes two minutes in the shower and with a subscription to friction free shaving for a new razor each week and some magic lotion, I now very rarely get any rashes or ingrowns. It's personal preference for me, I know my other half has had no complaints when it's been a little longer but I prefer hairless, I love being freshly shaved smooth. Waxed for a while but it's so expensive and have to endure hair for regrowth (which for me is 2.75 out of the 4 weeks....).

silkpyjamasallday · 09/02/2019 21:30

I'm 24 and leave my pubic and armpit hair as is now. I spent a decade removing it constantly after being mocked getting changed for swimming aged 11 when a girl put her head under my door and announced to everyone that I had 'hair down there!!' to the whole year to much revulsion and laughter. Then later boyfriends would express disgust at any scrap of hair present so I kept diligently removing it even though shaving hurt and left my skin sore and bumpy. Why the plucked chicken look was better than some pubes I have no idea. Thankfully I then slept with a slightly older guy when I was at uni, who was shocked that I removed it all, made me feel comfortable in myself and I then progressed to a landing strip. Since being with DP and having DD I leave it au naturel, maybe tidying up the edges of my bikini line if I'm going swimming.
I feel quite strongly about it now because there was so much shame attached to a perfectly natural thing about my body and internalising that really affected my day to day life. I must have spent 1000's of hours on hair removal, and even longer in discomfort because of pornographic ideals. I'm happy to opt out now.

EggysMom · 09/02/2019 21:30

Mine grows wild and rampant.
No idea if it's going grey like the hair on my head, can't say I've looked that closely!

Destinesia · 09/02/2019 21:33

Thinning, I'm wondering if microblading is the answer?

anniehm · 09/02/2019 21:36

Sometimes - I go maybe every 3 months in winter, 2 in summer and get my (thankfully slow growing and blonde) hair removed all over, not massively bothered either way but feels cleaner

User10fuckingmillion · 09/02/2019 21:36

Usually leave it as it is
I shaved it off the other day and I’m not a big fan to be honest so not sure why I did that.

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PinkandBlueMotherofTwo · 09/02/2019 21:41

@silkpyjamasallday I’m so sorry you had to experience that - I had similar with armpit hair when I was 12 just started secondary school and it hadn’t occurred to me until then to remove it. I’m glad you feel comfortable in yourself now. Maybe I need some more of that!

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LilQuim · 09/02/2019 22:05

@TheBreastmilksOnMe sorry - I was agreeing with you!!

TheBreastmilksOnMe · 09/02/2019 22:10

@LilQuim ah sorry I read it wrong ! I thought you were asking me the question 😆

Pretendingtobeapsychokiller · 09/02/2019 22:14

I shave it all
It's not a ball
When all the little hairs grow, grow, grow
When all the little hairs grow
Grin

quicksloego · 09/02/2019 22:22

Full bush. Emphasis on FULL

I’m a fair skinned woman with thick dark hair and I can’t imagine the stress of removing it! I’ve have stubble/ shadow if I shaved after half a day, veet only thins it at best (my skin would burn before the hair went) and wax is a terrifying idea for the sheer thickness.

I like it though, it’s full but tidy with no spread over the edge. DH likes it, it’s sexy and has character. It’s a bit if a secret cheeky thing in this day and age, being a bit wilder and carefree sexually and just having fun.

#overshare

MsJuniper · 09/02/2019 22:28

Good old 'celeb' happy ch4 mentioned that apparently only 4% of women leave it full bush these days, which is obviously rubbish.

Could this be partly because many women have an occasional trim or remove hair at the thigh crease so aren't included in the full bush stats? It does seem very low though.

Ollivander84 · 09/02/2019 22:29

Trimmed underneath as short as possible. Triangle left to grow free!