How does one look sexy?

[Eesha]

Just this......I always feel I look comfortable with a big smile. Hair that falls into a neat parting. I want a more sexy, sultry look but can’t figure out how.....

Basically show off your butt. Shakira, jlo, rhianna are all pears.

Some of the sexiest people I've met, haven't usually been conventionally pretty or good looking.

I can't usually even put my finger on what it is that makes them sexy. As pp have said, you either have it or you don't.

If I really think about it, I suspect it's something to do with confidence, but subtle, not ott or in your face and also, assertiveness, intelligence and being really kind. All those things together, I would say I find very sexy.

I always thought I was strange, because I can't look at a person and be attracted to them without knowing them.

That said, if you're all of the above and you look like Gillian Anderson or Aidan Turner....well

My DW has all of those things though, plus the gorgeous exterior, so Gillian and Aidan who?......

A bit off topic but those Gabor sandals are hideous and not in the least bit sexy!
Not sure I know what is sexy but fairly confident it isn’t those sandals.

Wrap dresses are way more sexy than body con and mini
A midi skirt with a split is more sexy than a mini
A button down top, with a couple of buttons undone is more sexy than a t-shirt
High, not teetering high, are sexier than flat shoes/trainers
Glossy hair, is sexier than dry/frazzled/frizzy hair
But if you have all of this without a twinkle in your eye, a friendly manner, ability to flirt subtly, then it's lost really

The sexiest woman I ever knew, was plus size (16 -18), but had gorgeous glossy hair, always smiled, was super confident, dressed impeccably, and had men clamouring over her. Very good looking men.

I know a girl who generally always has men falling at her feet, not that she pays any of them any attention.
She has very simple makeup, simple clothes always black or white tops, jeans and flip flops or converse. Shiny hair. She's slim but doesn't have an obviously sexy body. She's just confident and always herself.

Actually I also knew a woman who drove men wild and was always attracting them, including attached men. She dressed very plainly and not in a chic way, just in a "throw something on" way - she never dressed up at all, or wore make-up. But she had a kind of look on her face that was... hard to describe but kind of flirty and suggestive. And she had total confidence - the not dressing up was part of that. She was also Dutch, so had an accent which helped I think.

I asked one male friend what it was about her and he said "You just know she'd be absolutely filthy in bed". How he/anyone could tell I don't know, but they all seemed to agree!

thanks for everyone's input, today for the first time in ages, I wore slightly tighter clothes, brighter colours, simple jewellery and a touch of lipstick. I definitely felt sexier for it and looked so much better than usual!

Nice on OP! Good for you x

And I kept in mind clothes that I could easily take off rather than clothes I’d be squashed into.....worked a treat. Am getting my mojo back......

Confidence and eye contact is sexy.

Some people have sex appeal, they are attractive and this has nothing to do with looks. Laughing and someone having fun, with a twinkle in their eye is sexy.

Sometimes it is about wearing gorgeous lingerie under your clothes, can make you feel sexy and then speaks volumes about how you feel that day to the world.

Lipstick and stilettos etc scream of desperation.

I've found that what women consider to be sexy is sometimes very different to what men consider sexy. I know several men who really dislike wedge shoes for example.
Animal print, in my experience, gives off sexy vibes to men and yet some women think it's just tacky/ cheap/ Bet Lynch and wouldn't be seen dead in it.

It's not something you can pinpoint, but if you want to look sexy, black eyeliner on your waterline.

An interestingly discussion... I agree that sexiness is difficult to define. I don't think you can create it, though - someone either has 'it' or they don't. And I'm not sure what 'it' even is...it's definitely not to do with age, not necessarily to do with looks and is something more than just confidence....

Lipstick and stilettos etc scream of desperation..

Maybe the unspecified etc does, but a black boat neck top with blank cigarette pants, matched with a bold lipstick and a stiletto of any colour screams style, class and understated sex appeal.

If you can walk in stilettos, you will have a guaranteed more sexy walk. Every time I wear them, men and women stop to look. I think most men prefer a slightly glossy lip to a heavy matt look lipstick, although I think it depends on the woman. Matt lipstick gives me a hard look. To be frank, the kind of man that is turned off by how I dress isn't likely to be my type anyway. I like bright colours, funky clashes, animal print, and usually block heels. I don't intend to stand out, but I just do. Wearing bright lipstick is not desperate, it's just part of a look.

I don't find sloppy sweat pants, unkempt hair, messy facial hair and dirty finger nails sexy in a man, so I expect men think the same.

Marilyn Monroe was hot, Waynetta Slob was not.

I feel like it's just confidence. The sexy people I know would look sexy in a bin bag, it can't be replicated!

I don't find sloppy sweat pants, unkempt hair, messy facial hair and dirty finger nails sexy in a man, so I expect men think the same.

Well plenty of women find that greasy haired, stubbly, dirty look sexy in men, think of the attraction of Aiden Turner (although he looks gorgeous all clean shaven and in a suit as well) or Russell Brand.

Different people find different things sexy and short descriptions don't capture everything. Personally I find intelligence the sexiest thing, when you can see someone's brain whirring and they get excited about an idea or are funny because of the unexpected connections they can make quickly. The package that brain is in makes less of a difference, although it does help!

a black boat neck top with black cigarette pants, matched with a bold lipstick and a stiletto of any colour screams style, class and understated sex appeal

Is that not what Sandy was wearing right at the end of Grease?

Close, Mean Tangerine! She had the top but her pants were shiny leggings and her shoes a dreadful heeled mule! Just shows there’s a fine line though

Sexy is about attitude and confidence. It's got nothing to do with what you wear.

Stop mentioning Adien Turner, you’re ruining my concentration!

Had anyone mentioned necking a generous glass of red? (Probably more about feeling sexy than looking it. But then arguably the feeling needs to come first)

I definitely reckon an air of dishabillé helps, like a slinky dress but slightly smudged eyeliner, or heels but with bare, tanned legs; or like PPs have said ordinary clothes but fancy undies.

Anything too ‘trussed up’ doesn’t read as sexy to me...

I totally agree with the previous pp stating that men find sexiness in woman different to what woman see as sexiness in themselves and that a midi skirt with a slit can be sexier than a mini. I bought a dress earlier this week. Pale beige floral number, button down, not bodycon style but midi length. I thought it was a bit of a "granny chic" type. The buttons don't go all the way to the bottom so there is a slight "slit" at the bottom (but doesn't even come as high as my knees) very plain jane and sensible for work...I thought.....well I seen three of my male friends that day and they ALL complimented it and said it was HOT!? I was so confused because this dress was in no way hot....pretty perhaps but not hot....One guy even said it was safer he didn't say what he was thinking given we are friends.....I am still genuinely baffled by it but it just shows...